To ask how you get on with your MIL?

[LoveInTokyo]

Is she a nightmare, an angel, or something in between?

I really like mine, she is a hoot!

I really love her and we do get on well, but she makes some thoughtless, hurtful comments sometimes. I don't think she stops to think what she's saying.

Mine is absolutely petfect. We've become very good friends.

Mine is an addict (gambling and alcohol) but did give up her fourty a day habit when I had DS. (Now capes)
I like her in small doses. She adores DS and he loves her too.
My husband has a love hate one. She's either begging for money or avoiding us when it's time to pay back.

We did get on but I became her emotional punchbag.

I work hard yet she still comes out with gems such as, "It's okay for you, you have [DP's name] to pay all of your bills.

She also likes to be an hour late for everything which I find rude.

I don't hate her or anything, but I keep my distance now.

In the middle. She's a lovely person and a fantastic grandma but we are too different to ever really be friends.

I love mine, she is in her 80s now and still puts us all before herself. I don't know what I'd do without her.

Mine can be a nightmare, but she can also be utterly lovely. She's bossy and controlling at times but it comes from a good place.

We are polite and friendly but I find her really annoying. We just have different values, and I end up agreeing with her a lot to keep the peace (and she probably does the same to me!). I’d never choose to have a relationship with her if I didn’t have to.

Name change...

Positives:

• Very nice, friendly, likes to have people round and is chatty and polite
• We get on well enough, so I do feel some affection for her

Other:

• Can be overbearing. I'm no wallflower so usually she knows when to back off
• A real pedant
• Clearly has 'opinions' about my parenting, but usually able to stop sharing them when she gets 'the look'
• Sometimes I think she is a snob

I adore mine, as do I adore my mum.
My mil is loving and friendly and kind. Obviously she has her quirks, we all do. Couldn't have asked for a nicer lady to be my mil!

We cordially loathe each other
We have known each other for 27 years now. We disagree on lots of things, political and domestic, but we I think we realise that the other is basically acting on the same motives. We just disagree on what's best. And now, frankly, I think she likes a good debate on the issues of the day. She stores it up for me!

She's an angel in heaven .

We got on quite well, probably helped that I'd been married before, with a pretty awful MIL first time around; we had similar views, liked the same sorts of things, she wasn't 'obsessed' with her DS - she had loads of interests, hobbies and a busy job before she retired so she never 'over-invested' in our life. We moved many miles away before we had our child and sadly she died when he was 18 months old so she was never 'interfering' in any way with our DC - but did drive 100 miles to meet him in hospital when he was born (and went home straight afterwards - looking back I should have suggested she stayed the night, but neither DH or I did at the time ).

Mine drives me nuts. She also asks a forty year old man ‘oh what are you having for din dins?’ He’s forty not 4! She will call 4 times in a row and if no answer calls dp’s mobile again continually. Have seen a recent manipulative and selfish selfish dude appearing that we are having to fight. She expects us to be at her beck and call and tried to get DP to take her to a&e because she was vomiting (4times during the night). Never mind that he works full time but she wants him to sort out her bills, her bank, call a decorator, find out how much a private elf-ray is, call the man who fixed her rough cast as he hadn’t collected his ladders. Likes to call at 1am or 5.30am as she doesn’t care after all she has all day to sleep.if she’s calling and do says he has to go as dinner is on the table she doesn’t take the hint and keeps yapping, when he does her shopping once a week she wants to sit forever before actually going out (her some has a massive commute and has been at work all day, hesbtired andvstarving thenleast ste could do is get off her arse). Also the laziest most entitled person i’ve ever known.

She’s a nice, kind woman and treats my DS (DH’s stepson) exactly the same as her biological grandchildren. But I find her quite hard to make conversation with, just don’t have much in common.

I find her generally irritating. She tries to force everyone to be really close, but the fact is some of her kids just don't like each other. I find the constant drama and victim/martyr mentality annoying. However all that said, when she stops all that she's actually really nice and I enjoy her company.

Needless to say i’m Not a fan!

Absolutely love her, she has me doubled up with laughter regularly, a great fun, supportive, wise, helpful and genuine human.

Mine is an evil domineering controlling cow. Thankfully we have over 200miles between us so we don't see her..... Ever

I adore her. I couldn’t love her any more x

We are NC with mine.

Don't know what 'human' was meant to be but she is a genuinely lovely person who I am lucky to have in my life.

I like mine. She's like my second Mum.

Hate her.
We've been NC since June. It's bliss.

Mine is lovely. She has, along with her husband and her mother, welcomed me into the family without question. Maybe the fact that they live 100s of miles away, and they speak about as much English as I do their language helps (!) but they are lovely, and it's easy to see why my husband is so fabulous, and such a fantastic father.