To ask how you get on with your MIL?

[LoveInTokyo]

Is she a nightmare, an angel, or something in between?

Feel quite sorry for MIL, she seems disappointed in the way her life has turned out. Her outlook on the world is often negative, she usually assumes the worst.

I feel that I put up with her rather than enjoy her company. I desperately hope she doesn't know this is how I feel

@Ohwoolballs I know it was a typo, but the idea of a MIL with a cape addiction has tickled me. Does she always enter rooms dramatically?

Adore her. She can be a negative nelly but so can I. She makes jokes at her sons expense and recognises that we all have faults. Shes a friend first and mother in law second

I’m lucky enough to have three. My ex husband’s mother who I have known since I was a teenager and helps me with childcare. She’s lovely and makes the best lasagne.
My husband’s step mother. Incredibly generous and refuses to allow you to leave her house empty handed so I always go home with bottles of Moët and homemade cake.
My husband’s mother who lives quite far away but made my daughter a beam so she can practise her gymnastics at home, she then drove almost 200 miles to deliver.

I’ve been very lucky.

NC for the last three years for my DH's sanity. I loathed her but tried for his sake but then he came to the realisation he was simply a free taxi service and she had no empathy for him at all.

She not a bad person. Not a great one either but I can forgive that given all the difficulties she's had in life. What I can't get over is how bloodlubthoughtkess and annoying she is. Quite self centred with a loud, high pitched voice and bad manners. I can understand why she is so self centred. She never really had anyone to look out for her. But when she tries to pass off her verbal tirades of self glorification via slandering others I really feel like giving her a piece of my mind.

Just to clarify this wouldn't be that bad of she didn't have such and irritating voice/didn't do that weird screechy screaming instead of talking thing.

@Bouncongferret I am so jealous-is your ex still up for grabs, fully willing to divorce for a mil like that. Joking of course (but not just a tiny bit. Just the thought of my mil is starting to make my eye twitch.)

I despise mine.
I've tried so hard with her but I don't bother now.
It's pointless.

We never speak so we get on great

Brilliant. The only hitch is she speaks in a strong French dialect which I struggle with.

She lives 300m away, my next door neighbor but one. Every farm on the road we live on bar one belongs to an in law.

She is a cracking farmer and cook. Has an awesome sense of humor (when I understand the joke) and most important of all, she never ever offers an unsolicited opinion or advice.

I do love mine. She's a lovely lady and has been like a second mum to me.

That being said she can be very hard work. She is extremely highly strung and anxious. She's also ridiculously sensitive, but on the flip side can be very insensitive to others.

Although for all of the above, I count my lucky stars because I have experience with some truly awful mothers from previous relationships and I know mine is a gem on the whole!

I hate mine, she’s fake and judgemental, she’ll smile in your face and talk behind your back. She’s one of those mothers who’s done everything for her son and expect you to do the same. She prefers boys over girls ( prefers DS over DD, which kills me sometimes to see my little girl sit there and watch her brother get all the attention) and has 2 male friends, no females maybe that’s why we can’t get on? I’ve thought about that, I’ve dealt with this woman for years, tried to please her make her like me. But you know what? There comes a time when you don’t give a shit anymore, I don’t care what she thinks of me. I’m a good mother and a great person / friend and have a family who loves me, the other day DH went to her house and she made a comment about me, they nearly had a argument over it. It didn’t bother me, Ive heard it all. She came to my house couple days later and I just smiled and made her cup of tea, thought to myself I know what you said about me but I don’t give a shit.

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That is sad, I hate mine with a passion and I look forward to her dying too. You know no idea how much this woman has hurt me and made me cry.

Shes got health problems, but what do you expect 45 years of smoking will do to your body?

Wallywobbles do you tutoie each other?

Love mine to bits.

My DHs mom died when he was 14 so I never met her, apparently she was very like his older sister though and if that's true I'm sure I would have loved her because his sister is a sweet heart

I get on ok with mine now but she was bloody hard work for the first 5 years or so. She's still not someone I would choose to spend time with if she wasn't my MIL, DD adores her and she is a brilliant grandmother, she just really annoys me, constantly over the top and excited about everything, I could totally see her being a kids TV presenter except she's like it when there are no kids around too.

I find mine very difficult. She is manipulative, she lies, and is incapable of putting anyone else’s needs above her own. She is getting worse with age and I know DH really struggles to maintain a decent relationship.

I get in better with mil than my own mother. My dm is quite judgmental, and it gets on my nerves. Can be critical, and my dB who’s a mummies boy agrees with her.

I take my mil for boozy lunches, spa days, days out. My mum wants to be home all the time. She feeds dds junk, which I’ve told her not to.

Mil is really good, and will take them everywhere, my dm is at home with them, they get bored.
When dds were born mil was more enthusiastic, I think when dm declared she wasn’t looking after dd1 (even though she said she’d babysit:have them whilst I was at work) put a nail in the coffin in our relationship when I supported her through the 3 bouts of cancer she had. She’s always been unsupportive of everything I do. I was glad to move out, and make a lead my own.

Oh crap! I’ve just turned it into about moaning about my mum.

Loved mine - she's no longer with us and I really miss her. Have a few of her things around the house so I can still feel her presence and I find it a huge comfort.

EggsOnheads, I’m afraid not, he’s recently got engaged!

Mine's lovely. She knows when to be involved, and when to back off. We're the closest part of family geographically, but there's never been any demanding, stifling behaviour.
I've known her over 20 years now, and she was a great help when I lost my own mum, and later my dad. FIL is lovely too.

Love her. They live in the US so don't see her as often as we would like. Wish they lived closer! We do FaceTime everyday with the girls before bed, which is lovely.

Brilliantly. She’s so supportive. We’re all so lucky to have her in our lives.