Another meal bill splitting thread...

[frenchfancy17]

Went out for a family meal today. I had a meal and dessert which came to £12.
I asked my mum to give my share of the money to person who paid the bill on their card for convenience as I had to dash for the School run and then I'd pay her back.

Get a text off my mum asking me if I'd known we were paying a bit towards my grandparents meal too (it was my grand birthday.) I text her back saying I didn't know this and how much was it then?

She texts back saying £20.
There was 10 of us at the meal including grandparents. 4 others had alcohol and expensive meals compared to mine... My auntie decided that we could just split the bill (8 of us.)

My mum said she said this at the table AFTER the meal. I didn't hear it!

She's being a CF isn't she?
My mum's also annoyed at it being decided for us!

I think it's a lovely idea to pay for your grandparents meal and would be happy to chip in. However, I am sure I will be alone in thinking this amidst CF-ery admonishments

So you are paying £4 towards each of your grandparents meals? Seems ok to me? But yes should have been discussed previously.

It's not a lot of money and I don't see the issue with treating your grandparents

Im reading it as an extra £20.No i would say no to that amount,how bout x.

What's a CF?

Cheeky fucker. Should have been sorted prior to the meal.

£20 total or £20 extra. Tell your aunt directly not to be a CF and she should have told you first.

Cheeky Fucker

I’m confused. Their meal was £20 or you had to pay £20?

Im reading it as an extra £20.No i would say no to that amount,how bout x.

nah she texts how much she owes her mom and she said £20 so her own meal was £12 and the balance would be towards the grandparents meal, plus the tip I assume? That sounds ok to me, not enough to warrant being annoyed about

What's a CF?

Cheeky fucker

Not sure this is a CF rather than miscommunication

So an extra £8? And the total bill was 8 x £20, or £160 - i.e. £16 a person? So you've effectively treated your family to £8. Is that what you're saying on the maths?

I wouldn't fall out with family over that, no.

I wouldnt begrudge paying the extra or contributing to family members drinking alcohol.

As pp and if that includes tip, treating you gp isn’t actually much extra. If money is tight I can see why it’s annoying but not cf or worth arguing about as it was a family celebration

It reads like your total comes to £20, so £12 for your own meal and £8 towards your grandparents' meals. It's not a lot of money in the grand scheme of things. I would hold back on calling your aunty a cheeky fucker, I don't see how she benefits from this. She's suggested that everyone chips in to do a nice thing and everyone who was there agreed.

You could kick off about this being agreed in your absence maybe, I wouldn't bother for the sake of £8 though.

This is exactly why, when eating out with a group, I order the most expensive item on the menu plus multiple drinks. At least if they want to split equally I've had my money's worth!

I wouldn’t be bothered by this.

It's only £8, let it go.

I would just politely decline. Tell them sorry, but no You'll pay for what you had, and contribute towards the birthday meal. That is all.

It was £20 total.

I don't mind treating Grandparents at all. I do mind being told to do so and having notice.

Also pretty sure that I've paid not only for my grandparents but for shares of other people's meals. Don't mind doing it if everyone has similar but when people have alcohol and wayyy more than me then yes I do. And yes back to the no notice thing...

My only thought is that MNetters need to let go of the term 'CF'. It's happened and it's over now.

It reads to me like you already paid £12. Then you get a text from your mum, adding a further £20.
If that's the case, then that's batshit. If it's just a further £8 to total £20 then not so bad but i'd still be annoyed.

Cross post, not so bad then.

I don't think it's about paying for GP's, it's more about subsiding someone else's fillet steak and champagne expensive meal/drink when the OP only had pasta and tap water or similar!

I would be annoyed too.

It's not a lot of money to some people no but to me it is! People shouldn't assume that everyone is ok about splitting! Plus money that I'd already given my Gran for her birthday.