To want to leave him over this?

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I want to have kids and have always told Dh that I want 1 or 2. I told him this even before getting married and he agreed to it.

He is now back tracking saying that our lives are good as they are. He already has kids from a previous relationship and he feels that he is done. He says he hates being responsible for kids and enjoys the lie ins when they are not around. He said why would I want to ruin our lives?

I am beyond annoyed. His kids are not an annoyance to be tolerated (that is how he sees it). This alone makes me not want to have kids with him anyway, how can he talk about his own children like that.

If we did have kids together I feel like he would take all the joy out of the pregnancy and raising of the child anyway as he views it all so negatively. And to top it all off expecting me to help with raising his kids and have none of my own is a bit too much. I feel that he is very selfish and acts like a spoiled child. Sorry for the rant!

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Don't rush into anything. I may have missed this but how old are you and how old are your dhs children?

I think deep down you know that he doesn't want children and that in itself is fine. What isn't fine is telling someone you wa t to have children with them getting married with that in mind and then coming clean that you really don't want them,

If he doesn't want them then do not have dc with him, it will be hell. Every bad thing will be your fault. Every time you are disturbed in the night it will be your fault. Every time you are late it will be the baby's fault and in turn yours.
If you don't get your figure back, your fault.
If only you hadn't had children.

Even if he does say he's changed his mind and wants more children and will have two with you - you know how he feels about the children he already has.

Do you want to have two more children with someone who sees them as a burden?

Not unreasonable to leave. This isn’t something that can be compromised- you either do or don’t. I understand it’s jars when emotions are involved- easy for a stranger to say pack up your entire life and leave now, I would.... but ultimately even if you did have children, he doesn’t sound as if he’s be any kind of decent father. You married under the impression that children were something you both wanted. He has now gone back on that. If you can, I would walk away.