Facebook related to warn you all! Would you be offended?

[BlueNeighbourhood1]

So I'm a member of several local groups - Because of where I live it's all villages and I'm part of each of their Facebook groups.

Tonight in one of them a post appears. Basically a young lad (about 20-23) had taken a picture of a girl he didn't know and the back of her in a shop. She was wearing an equestrian centre hoody. His caption to the post was "Feel sorry for the horse she rides" or something similar to that. The girl had seen the post and she had screenshot and posted to the local group saying how hurt she was.

I'm in two minds about it - I certainly think it's fat-shaming and not to be condoned at all. But people jumped on it saying they were going to tell his employers, and get him fired. He wasn't even a member of the group to go and apologise and instead had friends defending him the whole time. I'm sure he thought he was just being clever and doing it for likes and banter but he doesn't realise the impact he could've had on the girls life either.

Do you guys think everyone overreacted or he deserves whatever comes his way?

Deleting the post doesn't mean it's gone and there won't be consequences, nor does him apologising. And yes there's a very real possibility of him losing his job if he's so foolish to have his FB open with his employers information and shit like this on it.

A harsh lesson for the lad, and deservedly so. He needs to keep his opinions to himself, and get off social media. It’s all about engaging brain, mouth and finger...

He treated this girl appallingly and he deserves what he gets . I only hope he learns his lesson and the girl is ok bless her.

@scrabbler3 You are absolutely right. His post, however, was even more incredulous given his fiancé (who defended him to the hilt) was overweight herself (not dissimilar to the girl he was mocking) and the pair of them wouldn't have been out of place on Jeremy Kyle. I just don't understand why she would stick up for him. I absolutely detest bullies and the current phenomenon of humiliating strangers over the Internet in the name of banter- particularly when perpetuated by grown adults who should be setting a better example to their children.

MrsPworkingmummy From what I read a couple of people have said they are going to his employer on Monday as they both work at the same place as him, then I'd imagine with the type of place they work in even if they didn't go to a manager the gossip of what he's done will spread quickly. This will make things incredibly uncomfortable for him I'd imagine.

The fiance and his friends acted very childish in their defence of him too, it was like conversing with 14 year olds. When all he had to do was apologise himself.

In the days before Facebook, I was fat-shamed in the street by a man in his 20's in a convertible - I was crossing a road and he shouted at me to "Shift your fat arse darlin'" to which his mates all sniggered. Red faced, I dashed the rest of the way home to check out the monstrosity of my size 12 backside in the bathroom mirror.

The words of this twat man-child caused me to develop anorexia at the age of 16, which progressed to Bulimia a few years later. When I could no longer make myself vomit, I then went on to develop a major addiction to laxitives, taking 10 a day (your body gets used to the initial 1-a-day dose so you have to constantly up it). I then developed an addiction to over-exercising and shrank even more. I eventually weened myself off the laxitives (it took a year) and finally now, at the age of 43 I'm happy and content with my body and if I could meet that man, I would give him one hell of a slap round the face. Yes, maybe I should have been less insecure, but his words set off over 20 years of problems. I'm hoping the girl who this man took a picture of is stronger than I was.

I've no doubt at all this story will hit the Daily Mail and other media.

And quite frankly I hope it does.

That'll teach him a lesson whether he loses his job or not.

worra that's exactly what he's hoping for - 'fame'

What he's more likely to get is his P45.

I hope he remember this when his daughter is older...his stupid fiancée too. Fuck muppets.

That poor girl, I hope she’s comforted by most people thinking he’s a dickhead.

It's a really horrible thing to say.

I can't imagine anyone would expect the girl to find it funny. Because it's not.

"Banter" my arse. It's abuse.

As a society, technology has developed faster than us.

This behaviour is clearly unacceptable, but we do not yet have a fully developed social and legal structure in place to govern the technology we have created.

In future generations, this governance will exist, but we will only be there if we come down hard on examples like this, and demonstrate that there are still consequences to your actions even if you have hidden behind a screen to carry them out.

The false sense of invincibility and anonymity that online users currently possess will gradually diminish in future years, once the idea that you will suffer consequences and / or legal action becomes entirely normal and accepted.

Please don't feel sorry for him in the slightest. No doubt he wanted to be "facebook famous"
Yes he has a life and family to support.
But what if that girl pictured didn't have a good strong character.
What if she had been down about herself and how she looks as it was and did something very silly because of that post.
He deserves everything he get her and some.
No one forced him to take that picture.
And no one forced him to make that girl feel like shit.
He is only worried he will lose his job not the impact he has had on that girl.
He is a man and should act like one. That means owning up and faces the consequences of his actions.

He is a prick and he deserves what he gets and so does his Fiance for defending him.

What a disgusting bit of behaviour. He deserves whatever happens. And I agree with the PP who has pointed out the horrible potential consequences of treating other people in such a callous and nasty way.

But I hope his employer also has a clear and stringent social media usage policy that covers this sort of thing, with properly laid-out proportionate steps to be taken in the event of an employee bringing their company into disrepute on their personal social media accounts. Because if they don't and they sack him peremptorily, that's not very fair either.

Actions should have consequences for everyone, businesses included.

BlueNeighbourhood I think we must be from the same area because I saw this as well. I think the girl had a right to be annoyed as he was commenting on her size but I'm pretty sure the post got pulled didn't it?

He's a fucking Wank stain and. Trust me that's me being ridiculously polite.
Teying to act like the big I am.
If i had to swear under oath Id have to say i hope this "horse" finds and chins him.
Who the Fuck is he like George Clooneys secret better looking twin.

Tying ffs not teying. I'm that fuming. I can't even spell.

Hə has a family to support. Well perhaps he should have thought of that before he started behaving like key board warrior.
If in the very unlikely event he does lose his job of he can't get another one. He's only got himself to blame. No one asked him to behave like a twat.

Hope the bastard is really sweating it.

FFS I've spelt trying wrong again. Grrrr I'll get back in Web.

www.news.com.au/lifestyle/real-life/news-life/tributes-for-14yearold-dolly-everett-flow-in-following-her-tragic-suicide/news-story/aabdb67a476a5347f5859b793330167a

A 14 year old girl took her life last week because of cyber bullying.

This little prick might think he's funny and clever, but that was a real person he took a photo of. For all we know, riding might be the one good thing in this girl's life, and he has ruined it.

'A young lad (about 20-23)' - no, that's an adult man.

THANK YOU.

I’m so fucking sick of this ‘lad’, ‘kid’ thing to describe twenty-something adults.

That American tosser who posted a video of a suicide victim in Japan is described on YouTube as a ‘kid’. . He’s 22.

They’re not kids or lads, stop infantilising grown men, giving them an excuse to act like utter tools.

Midnite - ❤️ How sad that this girl couldn’t see how wonderful and lovely she was.

This manchild should know better. As a pp said, how could he think posting something so horrible is acceptable and who taught him its ok? Vile behaviour. Poor girl/young woman.

Broadcasting your ignorance/ stupidity/ nastiness has consequences.

I too am sick of the infantilisation of grown arse men and the pathological need to protect their fragile ego’s. I’m far more interested in why tue OP felt sorry for the family of this arsehole, ‘the young lad’ characterisation feeds the ‘he couldn’t possibly of understood the consequences of his behaviour’ free pass, which society all to often gives men.

Look how quickly the #MeToo movement—temporary moment that Hollywood can congratulate itself for giving a crap about something it really doesn’t give a crap about—, is now being called a witch hunt. I do not understand how we as a society feel the need to protect men from the consequences of their own god awful behaviour.

My workplace has strict social media rules about what I can and cannot post, many employers do nowadays. If I posted this I would expect to be handed my termination. Everyone knows the effects of trolling and viral "fame" these days, there's no excuse for his behavior, and his employers have every right to do what they feel is necessary. Twunt.