To be annoyed that because my dd isn't potty trained everyone thinks she's thick?

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Well maybe not everyone but all dh's family.

She's just 2 and has a cousin who is basically the same age. This little girl is obviously very bright and has potty trained basically overnight. My dd is perhaps only average or not as bright but I don't need it rammed down my throat all the time. Every time we see them they say 'not potty trained yet then' and 'X is potty trained and she's four weeks younger than dd'

She's been better than dd since she was born. This is just the latest thing in a procession of stuff my dd can't do. I realise dd will never be as good as her cousin. I don't need it pointed out to me all the time!

It's really getting on my nerves. My dd can't help not being as clever can she? I'm sure she won't go to school in nappies.

Next time they mention it say...

You -'Oh, do you know how old Mark Zuckerberg* was when he potty trained?'
Them -'No'
You - 'Yea no one does, because it has no fucking bearing on how successful you are in later life'

*Use any successful person, I was just on facebook so had him on my mind

Dd potty trained early, along with doing lots of things early, and (now teens) is exceptional intelligence wise. And I can vouch the two aren't related. With hindsight there are lots of things that indicated she was beyond 'just bright' (which I didn't realise till she was years older). But potty training and everything of that nature really had nothing to do with it. She potty trained early because she really, really wanted the same knickers as friends 4yr old, not cos bladder control is related to iq. On the other hand she was older than average before she was dry at night. And walked late. Wasn't interested in reading before reception but by the summer term was years ahead.

Another friends ds was always physically well behind dd, and behind average, despite being older. Talked very late, mobile late, used cutlery late, potty trained late etc. And by 5 there was no difference, it all levelled out, same as there isn't now as teens.

I'd also ignore any competitive parents. Talking to other parents of gifted dc, the vast majority of us all thought we had bright, but fairly average kids when they were little. Whereas those who were banging on about their wonder child at preschool age and staging displays of their skills ime all seem to have average dc who were hothoused/ pressured slightly ahead in the early years.

I feel sorry for them really, I don't get pleasure from watching dd enjoy or achieve something based on how it compares to others, I'm only concerned with her. Whether that's something she's great at, average or distinctly bad at but enjoys. Must be quite sad to only take pleasure if you think they've done it better than peers.

My almost two year old has only just started walking, I wouldn't worry! 😂