AIBU to be upset at husband for taking naked pics whilst asleep

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Married for 10 years with two young daughters (under 4). DH is a fantastic Dad, caring husband and we are very happy. That was until Monday when I found naked pictures of myself that he had taken when I was asleep or not looking (without consent) and emailed them to himself from his phone. I am so upset and spent last night crying myself to sleep. I honestly don’t know what to do. I’m not sure I will ever be able to trust him again but I also don’t want to break up my family as until now we have been very happy. What should I do? I confronted him and he has been very upset and apologied repeatedly and is begging for another chance. He said it was a huge mistake but I have found a photo dating back to 2015 so I think this has been going on for a while. I feel totally sick and betrayed but I don’t know if I am overreacting by being so upset. AIBU? What would you do?

Thanks in advance x

So essentially it's about what is more important; revenue of MN as a business or protecting MNetters themselves.

It's not on. Like any other sexual activity or fetish it needs to be concenting both ways. Sometimes we take our partners for granted as if we are totally shared property. We forget we are out own sovereign enterties even in marriage. YANBU and this is totally out of order.

I'm sure in many other ways he great. Often hero's and villains are contained in the same person, humans are complex. We are not all good or all bad and various mixes of this. It's up to you how you play this now and if you can work past this.

You know the saying about if you are able to use a website's services for free then you as the user are the commodity. The number of users and the amount of traffic is what MN use to sell their advertising, their jobs website etc etc.