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To hate the dog

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gta · 02/01/2018 11:38

We have a 10 week old puppy . I am 8 weeks pregnant with the most horrendous morning day and night sickness and my sense of smell through the roof.
The dog is NOT house trained and seems to be going backwards rather than improving. He is shitting and pissing EVERYWHERE. Pooing in his own bed. Eating his own poo. Vomiting his poo up. Weeing in his own bed. His bed is washed multiple times a day, new beds have been bought.
I can't cope . I am crying everyday with it all it's disgusting. I dread waking up in the morning feeling sick, being sick and then cleaning up all the piss and shit he's left all over the kitchen floor . I can't stand him being near me . I'm at a complete loss st what to do but I'm absolutely miserable and hate living in my house with him. Please help Sad

OP posts:
AuntLydia · 02/01/2018 11:40

Whilst I'm a firm believer in a dog being for life, it sounds like it would be better for everyone, including the dog, if you rehome him ASAP.

CheapSausagesAndSpam · 02/01/2018 11:40

What breed is she and how long have you had her?

Pombliboo123 · 02/01/2018 11:42

Since she's only 10 weeks old you could have only had her for 2 weeks. She's just a baby, of course she isn't toilet trained yet. You need to go back to basics with her training again. Having a puppy is hard work though.

mumpoints · 02/01/2018 11:42

Obviously you got the dog before you knew you were pregnant. Times have now changed. If you don't think you can keep the dog, better for him to go to a family who can train him now while he's still young.

Horrible decision to have to make though. Sorry.

MrBloomsLeftVeg · 02/01/2018 11:42

Train your dog if it isn't house trained?. Call a behaviourist if you don't know what you are doing. Alternatively rehome to someone who can do these things

Katinkka · 02/01/2018 11:43

Takes a while to house train. You must have only had it 2 weeks. Why would you get a dog when you’re pregnant?

Don’t ever get a dog again.

Ummmmgogo · 02/01/2018 11:43

that sounds horrendous. you will have to rehome it you can't be expected to deal with that when you are pregnant.

Wolfiefan · 02/01/2018 11:43

A 10 week old puppy won't be house trained. Who is doing the training?

mumpoints · 02/01/2018 11:44

^ Oh sorry, I read that as having HAD the puppy for 10 weeks.

Hercules12 · 02/01/2018 11:44

Can you take it back to where you got it from?

Trinity66 · 02/01/2018 11:44

I think if it's stressing you out that much maybe you should try to find the puppy a more suitable home

Singlebutmarried · 02/01/2018 11:45

That’s puppies. It can take them a few weeks to adjust to their new surroundings.

How long have you had him? Has he been wormed and checked for a uti (our pup had a uti and widdled a lot until the abc kicked in, the abx then gave dodgy guts and we had about 3 months of poo)

The food their on has a lot to do with it. Could be your feeding the right amount but in too big a portion at a time (we fed 4x day and put out for toilet straight after) at one year it’s now twice a day, still being booted out for toilet straight after, also every couple of hours when we’re in.

It is hard work, but it’ll settle.

Jayfee · 02/01/2018 11:45

I agree with aunt lydia. You are havng to cope with pregnancy sickness which is very hard and a,new puppy, also very hard. At ten weeks you will have no problem rehoming. But where is your partner in all this???

RedHelenB · 02/01/2018 11:45

Keep putting dog outside it will getc the hang of it. It is unusual to soil the bed though. What sort if dog is it and was it puppy Oadby trained before you took it home.?

Purple567895678956789 · 02/01/2018 11:45

Give the puppy to someone who will housetrain it and love it. And don’t you get any more dogs.

3luckystars · 02/01/2018 11:48

Rehome the dog now and remember this thread if you ever consider getting another one!!!

Good luck.

TheVanguardSix · 02/01/2018 11:48

This is normal. Your dog won't be trained at 10 weeks.

It was a crazy decision to get a dog right now. How will you cope with a pup and a newborn? 8 weeks of puppy school with a newborn??

That's too tough on you. It's not fair for you or the dog. The advice is to get a pup when your youngest is 4.
We got a pup when our youngest was 1. Man, that was tough. It's the walking with dog and toddler that gets really hard.

Don't put a gun to your back. Now is so not the time for this and your DH either gets on board with this or takes over the training entirely.

Did you guys not research this before committing?

KurriKurri · 02/01/2018 11:49

He's behaving exactly as a ten week old puppy will behave. Of course he's not house trained - he's only a baby, he's only just left his mother. What did you imagine having a puppy would be like ? Did you know you were pregnant when you got him ?

He will not have the bladder and bowel control necessary not to have accidents. You need to be taking him out fro a wee/poo every half hour or so, so he gets the idea of going outside for toilet. he will need to go just after he has eaten and when he wakes up from a nap. It is hard work - but you can't blame him, his body isn;t developed enough yet to hold on.

And even if he were trained and going outside, you'd still need to pick up his poos and dispose of them.

Has he been wormed? Have you started his vaccinations? Have you had him examined by a vet?

I would rehome him - early pregnancy is not the time to take on a puppy - they are hard work and you need to put a lot into helping them learn. I think you have underestimated or not understood what having a puppy entails. He's so young he will settle and be happier somewhere else.

thisgirlrides · 02/01/2018 11:49

Who is doing the potty training? It's natural to expect some accidents but that does sound excessive and if you're pregnant I would expect oh to be clearing up all the mess and making a concerted effort to get dog trained pdq. It sounds like you have a dog but no idea what to do with it and are panicking! surely you did your homework and read up on what to expect with a puppy, potty training techniques, invested in bed protectors etc before s/he arrived?

katmarie · 02/01/2018 11:52

House training takes time, our puppy is six months and we still get the odd incident, she's scared of rain so we have to be extra vigilant on rainy days to make her go outside.

When we first got her I had an alarm on my phone to take her out every hour, every couple of hours overnight, and always immediately after food. For the first few weeks I also kept her on a long lead near me at all times so she couldn't run off and mess. I still found myself cleaning up mess at least once a day.

It was a lot, a puppy is a huge responsibility, and it's not for everyone. For you the timing may not be right, so if you really don't think you can cope, then I would follow other posters and urge you to rehome it ASAP.

mydogisthebest · 02/01/2018 11:52

You can only have had the puppy for 2 weeks maximum. Did you know you were pregnant when you got it?

It can take time to house train a puppy and needs lots of time and patience. I house trained my 9 week old puppy in 3 days but I took him outside every time he ate or drunk and lots of times in between. Me and DH also took it in turns to sleep downstairs with him and take him outside a couple of times in the night.

You may be having a rough time but poor pup doesn't sound like he is having that great a time either. Are you trying to train him? Not just toilet training. Are you playing with him?

If you can't look after him properly then maybe he should go back to his breeder. Shame you didn't think it through properly before getting him

TheVanguardSix · 02/01/2018 11:52

Sorry! I read 8 MONTHS pregnant! My apologies! It changes the shape of things knowing you're 8 weeks pregnant.

My advice would be rehome! It's not the right time. A 1 year old dog and newborn won't be a barrel of laughs. Is this your first baby? Go easy on yourself and give the dog a chance to be in a home that is able to accommodate him.

It's ok to not be able to accommodate him, OP. Don't feel guilty. Do what's right.

TheVanguardSix · 02/01/2018 11:53

Back to breeder, not rehome. Sorry. Need more coffee clearly.

katmarie · 02/01/2018 11:54

Ps I was about 20 weeks when we got our puppy so I do understand how difficult it is.

BellBookandCandle · 02/01/2018 11:54

So, you got a little cute puppy for Christmas and now reality has hit.

The pup is just a baby, you have to train and help it learn. You need to be taking it out every half hour and encouraging it to toilet and rewarding it when it goes (you need to make a real big fuss of the clever dog). Ignore accidents inside, just clean them up. Make sure you are using a cleaner that neutralises the smell of urine as that decreases the chance of them using that spot as the toilet. Do not shout at the pup if it toilets inside. All you will do is scare it and increase the chance of it hiding away from you when it needs a wee/poo.

Being pregnant and not being able to cope is a crap excuse though. You need to grow up and either crack on and give the pup a good start in life and make it part of your family or accept that pets aren't for you and never again get an animal.

If you do rehome please though give the pup back to the breeder, if they are a reputable breeder they will take the dog back no problem. If not, please contact a breeder specific rescue, please don't try and rehire the pup yourself, lord knows what misery you may be subjecting it to in the future.