To hate the dog

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We have a 10 week old puppy . I am 8 weeks pregnant with the most horrendous morning day and night sickness and my sense of smell through the roof.
The dog is NOT house trained and seems to be going backwards rather than improving. He is shitting and pissing EVERYWHERE. Pooing in his own bed. Eating his own poo. Vomiting his poo up. Weeing in his own bed. His bed is washed multiple times a day, new beds have been bought.
I can't cope . I am crying everyday with it all it's disgusting. I dread waking up in the morning feeling sick, being sick and then cleaning up all the piss and shit he's left all over the kitchen floor . I can't stand him being near me . I'm at a complete loss st what to do but I'm absolutely miserable and hate living in my house with him. Please help

I am on onandestron for the sickness but it barely helps. I feel like a shit person but I'm so depressed with the situation. I'm miserable

It's not good for you or your baby being so stressed out over this, try and find a good home for the puppy

I would start training or I would look into re homing.

The pup will reach its adolescence years by the time you have the baby where they can revert and regress to some of the puppy like behaviours like not listening, toileting in the house and chewing.

This is something that you and your DH need to consider for when your baby arrives.

How can you HATE an innocent puppy? That's a baby animal - it's exactly the same as saying you hate someone's baby.

Give it to someone who knows what they're doing for gods sake and in future, stick to teddy bears.

Aw that poor wee soul - taken from its mum too early, in a strange home without its brothers and sisters and no one to love it just feeling your vibe of hate and resentment- never stood a chance did she? .

Breaks my heart how some dogs end up in such an awful situation ..

There is only one option really - then don't ever get another dog again.

Have either of you actually tried to toilet train the puppy yet or is it too young?
(I've never had a dog as I wasn't prepared to do the work required)

We have a rescue dog who was a Christmas puppy 3 years ago. When the original owners were too lazy to do anything with him he was passed around on Gumtree and had 3 homes by the time he was 1 year old.

As a result he has massive issues. The rescue were only prepared to give him to us because we have experience with difficult dogs. Please find a loving home for him
now before he is too messed up to rehome.

@rhiannon that doesnt make her OH, as you put it, a stupid cunt of a man. If she’s wanted the dog for ages she’s also responsible.

Op, I do feel sorry for you, but this situation is (at least partly) of your own making (I don't know how much your partner had to do with a. getting a puppy, b. too young, which c. makes it likely he came from a backstreet 'breeder' and c. you all seem to be rather clueless as to what to expect from brining a puppy home and how to train him).

Please return him to the breeder IF he came from a reputable one.

If he did not, contact a breed-specific rescue.

Hyperemesis is shit, but it is none of this is the puppy's fault who sounds like he is behaviour, well, like a puppy.

Your situation is exactly why dogs are not for Christmas

What did you think a puppy would be like? They are hard work, i think they are harder work then a newborn! It’s only 10 weeks old, of course it isn’t housetrained. You can either pull yourself together and get that puppy trained or give it back to the breeder/rehome.

OP you don't need to be made to feel like a dick. Listen, it was a bad decision and one you can right. We all make bad decisions. Poor you. It's tough! You've got a furry baby in the house with all that comes with that.
I couldn't imagine the morning sickness combined with dealing with a pup. Oy gevalt! That's too much.

Do you think you'll rehome? How old is DS?
If you go on the puppy journey again research your breeds/mixes. Some dogs train more easily than others. Never get a pup younger than 8 weeks. Don't forget that. Next time, don't leave it in DH's hands to choose. It's a big decision. It's a together thing. We discussed dogs 5 years before taking the plunge. Both DH and I grew up with dogs. It's a big, big commitment. Plan ahead and plan it well for a happier outcome. This goes for every pet.

The OP is getting a well deserved kicking. She said she wanted a dog, her DP got her one and now she’s realised that puppies don’t come ready house trained she’s not interested.

Presumably the poor dog came from a puppy farm as no reputable breeder would allow a dog to be taken away from its mother at 6-7 weeks. DP was a complete idiot for buying from a puppy farm but what’s done is done and, if OP really hates the poor dog, her and DP need to rehome the poor thing properly. Not back to the breeder or free to a good home, but to a breed specific rescue, preferably making a hefty donation.

Some people shouldn’t be allowed animals.

You are not a “shit person” if you accept the reality of a situation and with to improve it. This could mean rehoming that puppy.

Mistakes happen. Then we must deal with the consequences.

Train the dog, accept it will be hard during pregnancy and with a newborn. Adapt willingly, give the dog a happy life.

Or rehome, with help from a responsible source, and feel bad you had to but happy the dog gets a decent shot at a happy life with someone else.

I wholeheartedly recommend you rehome the puppy.

Everyone is a first time owner at some point and people rarely tell you that a pup is like a baby, harder in some ways, easier in others.

Any basic 'getting your first puppy' book will give you this information. It is surely the obligation of the owner to seek and find out information before the puppy arrives rather than waiting to be told.

Dogs are for life and with life comes a host of shitty events and circumstances that we must navigate ourselves through...somehow. A dog is a part of that. Our circumstances aren't their fault and they should be no more disposable that a child. This is coming from someone who has been through extremely tough, unexpected financial circumstances with a 6 month old dog as only my responsibility...fed her before I fed myself many a time and, now, I'm almost 3 years into chronic illness with regular hospitalisations but that little thing is my everything and we make it work and she lives like a bloomin' Queen.

I'm never one for rehoming but do the poor little thing a favour and take it to an animal rescue centre (with a large donation so they can undo your mess).

Don't beat yourself up. The situation s what it is. Your sickness is making it hard to cope. Rehome the dog or if your partner won't agree to this insist an a foster till you feel better and more able to cope. No fault on the puppy's part..he is just st an innocent baby.

Life throws all kind of things at you. You get ill, you get pregnant, shit happens. You have to deal with it. These things are things you have to deal with when you have a dog. And puppies do need a lot of work. They're babies.

And sorry if my comments seem snidey to some people, but I have a houseful of rescue dogs and cats, each passed from pillar to post from peole who jus didn't put enough thought and effort into them. Each one that came with their own hurt and issues due to it. Each one who has become a wonderful pet once the training, exercise and love that they need was put into them.

I always hope that other people have vague notions of how 'it would be lovely to have dog' read these threads and bloody rethink.

I've wanted a dog for years, hell, I grew up with dogs, and I knew myself well enough to opt NOT to get a puppy. Plenty of adult rescue dogs around.

I don't think anybody should 'get a kicking' but taking responsibility for ones actions is a requirement of adulthood IMO.

Whose idea was it to get the pup? How will ds and dh feel about you rehoming him? I wonder if you will feel differently in a few weeks, if the sickness improves a bit?

Hyperemesis is bloody awful. Ondansetron is good stuff so it must be bad for it to not be helping. Are you keeping anything down? You may need a hospital admission for IV fluids and IV ondansetron. Are you on cyclizine too?

Toilet training a pup takes a lot of time energy and perseverance, it definitely doesn't sound like now is the right time. What age was the pup when you got him, surely you have only had him a couple of weeks?

Just get rid of it. Assuming that the puppy is quite young I am sure you will find a loving home for it. Things will only get harder and the last thing you want is a young dog in the house when you have your baby but byvthat point it could be too late to easily find the dog a home.

Btw, why did you put this in to AIBU?
For the record, YABU.

In the doghouse would have garnered less robust responses and more advice.

It really doesn't sound like the best time for you to be getting a dog.

Why don't you rehome her now (easier to find a puppy a home than an adult dog)

And you can 100% focus on your pregnancy and arrival of your new baby.

Into, sure, but I'd get deleted if I said that about the OP too.

Poor little pup. If you hate it so much then take it to a rehoming centre at least.

Don't get any more pets either.

Why on earth are some people comparing the puppy to a baby?

Op is 8 weeks pregnant, feels horrendously sick, and the dog is shitting and pissing ALL OVER the house, the carpet, the furniture etc. That would make most people want to retch, let alone if you were already suffering with morning sickness.

That is FAR more distressing, than looking after a baby, when you feel well in yourself, and the baby's poo is contained within a nappy.

Some people on here are seriously goady and without any compassion.

Everyone is a first time owner at some point and people rarely tell you that a pup is like a baby, harder in some ways

Er, if you do a bit of very basic research on the internet or even just go to the Doghouse forum on here, you will find all of this out very easily. I've never owned a dog, been desperate for one for years but DH wasn't up for it, and then we were trying for a baby - I'm now pregnant with HG so I understand OP's sickness problems. I'm 16 weeks now and it's only started to get much better over the last week or so, before that I'd been housebound for the last few months, vomiting many times a day and the smell of my guinea pigs urine & faeces has been somewhat difficult to deal with them, but that doesn't change how I feel about them at all, I utterly adore them, they're my tiny little fluffy babies. And there is no way I would have got a dog whilst TTC or knowing I was pregnant - pregnancy sickness is not a rare condition and it's reasonable to assume that you may end up very ill during pregnancy or at least the first trimester, so it's clearly not a wise time to take on a puppy and just hope that you'll breeze through it all and not get sick .

From reading the posts you will be unable to take the puppy safely back to your backyard breeder so you need to pass it on to local reputable rescue centre - if you don't know any try RSPCA as a starting point. The puppy will be easily rehomed as it's so young and will end up in a nice family that actually do their research prior to getting an animal.

People like OP thoroughly enrage me and I'm glad to see other people feel similarly from the posts on here. That poor puppy.