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To hate the dog

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gta · 02/01/2018 11:38

We have a 10 week old puppy . I am 8 weeks pregnant with the most horrendous morning day and night sickness and my sense of smell through the roof.
The dog is NOT house trained and seems to be going backwards rather than improving. He is shitting and pissing EVERYWHERE. Pooing in his own bed. Eating his own poo. Vomiting his poo up. Weeing in his own bed. His bed is washed multiple times a day, new beds have been bought.
I can't cope . I am crying everyday with it all it's disgusting. I dread waking up in the morning feeling sick, being sick and then cleaning up all the piss and shit he's left all over the kitchen floor . I can't stand him being near me . I'm at a complete loss st what to do but I'm absolutely miserable and hate living in my house with him. Please help Sad

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ellephant · 03/01/2018 21:17

@mydogisthebest this thread isn't about me and I don't need advice. My comments have been taken out of context. When I say "cry" I mean a few yelps for me after I'd left the room, not crying hours on end and in distress - I have a fully crate trained and toilet trained dog. My dog puts herself to bed in her crate (with door open) and is never crated for long as there's almost always someone home.
I've offered advice to the OP on methods that worked for me - just because your training methods may have differed, doesn't make mine or anyone else's wrong.
I think everyone here just wants to help. 🤷🏼‍♀️

SchadenfreudePersonified · 03/01/2018 22:54

I've just seen a french bulldog puppy video on "the tube of you"

How can anyone get annoyed with/ hate these little cuties!

ShoesHaveSouls · 03/01/2018 23:04

Hard to believe anyone hating those lovely little pups, isn't it?

Wolfiefan · 03/01/2018 23:05

I don't think anyone hates the pups. I think people worry that dogs are being deliberately bred to have breathing and other difficulties. That's not cute.

ShoesHaveSouls · 03/01/2018 23:07

OP hates the pup she has right now. She said so.

I'm not bashing the OP (see my pp on this thread) - but that pup, the subject of this thread, is being hated right now.

mishfish · 03/01/2018 23:10

Are you reacting angrily when puppy pooes and wees inside? A dog won’t shit their bed unless they’re trying to hide it (because of angry reactions for instance)

SchadenfreudePersonified · 03/01/2018 23:18

For cat lovers who may be considering a career change

FreudianSlurp · 04/01/2018 00:20

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mydogisthebest · 04/01/2018 08:47

My dog never cried even once when in his crate because I made sure he was totally happy with it before ever shutting him in it. I fully intended getting rid of the crate once he was a year old because it takes up so much room but he is now 5 and still has a crate because he loves to sleep in it

FreudianSlurp · 04/01/2018 08:56

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Lilliepixie · 04/01/2018 09:03

Get a crate, make that his home. Toys, bed, etc.
Contain him to one room if you can- stair gates
Take him outside every half hour. WAIT FOR.HIM TO GO. You have to do this in the middle of the night too. Praise him when he's finished, not when he's in the middle of it.
If he's eating his poop you might want to change his food.
And that young, should be on 3 small meals a day, his stomach is tiny.
I am very Angry that this puppy was away from his mother at 6 weeks.

freshstart24 · 04/01/2018 09:13

Great advice on this thread OP. I'm not sure how much you've taken on board- not surprising given how poorly and tired you are.

The fact that so many posters suggest rehoming is very telling.

Seriously, you need to rehome this poor pup- for his sake, your children's sake and your sanity. Please do this- stand up to your partner and do the right thing.

SchadenfreudePersonified · 04/01/2018 10:55

I think, because I was getting up every 3 hours during the night to let her into the garden

You are a better dog mammy than most people slurp.

FreudianSlurp · 04/01/2018 11:07

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TheExecutionersBong · 04/01/2018 11:25

Shame there isn’t an empathy and IQ test to ensure a puppy goes to a decent and loving home.

Yeah. This. You must be a special kind of stupid to ask for a puppy, get a puppy, and then immediately decide you hate it. Let this be a lesson in thinking things through.

Rehome this poor little puppy to someone reputable, and NEVER get a dog or any kind of pet again.

Oh and when things get a bit difficult with your new baby, why don't you just rehome that too!

You should be ashamed.

RLOU88 · 04/01/2018 11:41

I’m so angry at this. You need to do so much research before you get a dog. What did you think it would be like ? I don’t think this has anything to do with your morning sickness you have only been solely responsible for the poor mite for a matter of hours and he is already facing getting rehoused! Imagine how scared he already feels, he has only been with you a couple of weeks. Honestly if I could come and take him myself I would! To

MistressPage · 04/01/2018 14:32

Oh and when things get a bit difficult with your new baby, why don't you just rehome that too!

Enough with this nonsense. Dogs are in no way the same as babies.

KingsX · 04/01/2018 17:35

OP, be kind to yourself - people here aren't being at all understanding of your pregnancy sickness.
Rehome the dog and don't feel bad about it. He's young and really won't care where he goes, as long as someone feeds him.

People with the dog poo = human baby poo crap. As if it does. She already has a child so knows well enough how to deal with her own baby's poo, which for the most part is contained in a nappy or at worst, just out and on their trousers/vest - NOT all over the house. It's not at all the same thing. And when the baby comes, mama won't be sick with HG. My cousin's sil was hospitalized with HG it can be that bad - people saying suck it up haven't got a clue.

woollytights · 04/01/2018 18:34

Some people are very bloody strange thinking a dog is more important or even comparable to a fellow human being. Implying this woman doesn't deserve her baby (after she's suffered a miscarriage), wishing she could send the baby back, bleating about cute the "poor puppy" is. Training a dog is really hard and lots of people find they can't cope. It's not that unusual. As much as it's a sad situation for everyone involved, some of you have really crossed the line in terms of how you've lashed out at this woman. She's come here and asked for help, not dumped the dog on a motorway.

Bumsnetnetbums · 04/01/2018 18:53

Bloidy hell. Who actually thinks that a dog and a baby are the same, will be treated the same? I get animal lovers to a point but dogs arent babies, are not related to us, have different needs smells behaviours. As if the OP is not going to cope with a baby cos they made a mistake getting a dog.
And the posters shouting to NEVER have another dog. Why not? Circumstances change. The way people talk shes been cruel and hurt the dog not just struggling with its smell.

RLOU88 · 04/01/2018 19:12

It’s nothing to do with them being the same, it’s to do with responsibility and selfishness. The dog didn’t ask to get taken from it’s mum and given to her. It’s not a baby, no, but it probably has more feelings than people think. If it smells toilet train it and spray some air freshener. You do not give up after two weeks because your stomach is feeling fragile! The sickness will pass, the memories for the dog being put in a shelter probably won’t.

goodbyeeee · 04/01/2018 19:20

You do not give up after two weeks because your stomach is feeling fragile! The sickness will pass, the memories for the dog being put in a shelter probably won’t.

FFS - please please educate yourself on HG. There is a very good information page on NHS choices. It's a serious condition very far removed from "normal" pregnancy sickness.

Please think before putting the boot into a woman that's in the early stages of pregnancy, having recently suffered a miscarriage who is ill with a serious condition and is clearly desperate for support.

Bumsnetnetbums · 04/01/2018 19:21

Its hg not a bit of sickness. Tbh the propblem is the husband

SchadenfreudePersonified · 04/01/2018 22:26

I've got the cleverest dog in the world

Grin

As you say Slurp - haven't we all! Grin

Mrscaindingle · 04/01/2018 22:50

The thing is you can do all the research there is but if you've never owned a dog before you really have no idea how difficult it is going to be. I spent many months debating on whether or not to get a dog, whether to get a rescue dog, what breed etc. I decided on a puppy as there were so few rescue dogs that could go to a home with children. I had been told they were hard work but OMG I was not prepared for how difficult it was going to be. I did seriously consider rehoming him at one point as I thought I had made a terrible mistake, and that was without severe morning sickness. I hope the op re homes this puppy with someone who can give him a good home.

My dog is now 4 and obviously we would not be without him, it's one of the best things I ever did for me and the kids. And he for sure is the cleverest and handsomest dog in the world Grin