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To hate the dog

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gta · 02/01/2018 11:38

We have a 10 week old puppy . I am 8 weeks pregnant with the most horrendous morning day and night sickness and my sense of smell through the roof.
The dog is NOT house trained and seems to be going backwards rather than improving. He is shitting and pissing EVERYWHERE. Pooing in his own bed. Eating his own poo. Vomiting his poo up. Weeing in his own bed. His bed is washed multiple times a day, new beds have been bought.
I can't cope . I am crying everyday with it all it's disgusting. I dread waking up in the morning feeling sick, being sick and then cleaning up all the piss and shit he's left all over the kitchen floor . I can't stand him being near me . I'm at a complete loss st what to do but I'm absolutely miserable and hate living in my house with him. Please help Sad

OP posts:
TheVanguardSix · 02/01/2018 12:08

At 10 weeks our pup vomitted on top of his poo. Then DC1 (then 13) was going out the door to school and gagged at the sight of the vomit covered poo and got sick all over the doggy vomit poo.

Fun and games. That was great.

Purple567895678956789 · 02/01/2018 12:09

@pasta so then she can feel the same as her poor puppy who is in a house where the owner “can’t stand being near him”. Poor little thing. Cruel.

Mumthedogsbeensick · 02/01/2018 12:10

Puppies need a lot of attention and cannot train themselves. If you are near Hull op I will take your puppy. We have two boxer dogs and I have plenty of time for walks and training.

Rebeccaslicker · 02/01/2018 12:10

Poor dog. This is a really sad post Sad

JaneEyre70 · 02/01/2018 12:11

There needs to be much tighter licensing on dog owner so idiots can't have them for Christmas and try and dump them 2 weeks later. Poor puppy Sad. I feel sick reading this.

OfaFrenchmind2 · 02/01/2018 12:11

It's a dog. As nice as they are, they are never going to be as important as a baby or a child, or your peace of mind. It is still young enough to be desirable and re homed easily, so do yourself a favour and send it back or re home it.

Next time you get a dog, be sure you will not have a life-changing event in the same time and maybe take an adolescent dog that has been trained.

Congratulations on your pregnancy!

BuffysFavouriteStake · 02/01/2018 12:11

Poor puppy. Puppies need training, toilet training, constant attention and lots and lots of love, and it doesn't sound like this poor mite is getting any of them. Pooing and weeing in own bed is often a sign of unhappiness or stress.

For its sake, return it to the breeder (if reputable) or take it to a rehoming shelter. Do NOT sell it or give it away to just anyone. And never get a pet again.

Clandestino · 02/01/2018 12:12

Goodness, I think you lot have made sure that OP feels like shit now

TBH, she should feel like shit because she got herself a cute puppy and thought it's going to be a walk in the garden because they are so cute in the Andrex ad.
She needs to train the puppy and her partner needs to pitch in too. The poor dog clearly suffers from being a neglected Christmas present.
I have no compassion for the OP, none at all.
OP, please rehome the puppy. You clearly aren't suitable to be a dog owner, don't make the poor animal suffer.

FreddieClaryHorshieLion · 02/01/2018 12:12

Why did you even get a puppy?

But I do believe that being honest in regards to things like that is extremely important.

The puppy is still young and doesn’t seem to have any bad habits (from neglect. Yet...)
Giving it back to the breeder or finding a new home (with people that know that one has to house train puppies and are currently also able to do so, unlike you...) is currently still possible.

But it will get more and more difficult the longer you keep it!

So, be honest with yourself (I’m actually really glad you decided to ask for advice) and either commit or give it back to the breeder / rehome it.

OhWhatFuckeryIsThisNow · 02/01/2018 12:12

Lord you are getting a kicking here op. I'd imagine you didn't know you were pregnant when you got the dog? And no one knows how bad your morning sickness will be, so perfect storm. How come you are doing all the cleaning up? Whose idea was the dog? I'd get to vet-rule out infections (and confirm the dog is the age claimed) get their advice. If you really can't cope, like everyone said, back to breeder, so pup can find a new home. (Being nosy, what breed?)

Wolfiefan · 02/01/2018 12:12

The OP should feel like shit.
Poor pup.
And don't hand it back to the breeder. I bet it's come from a puppy farm. No reputable breeder would let a dog go at Christmas.
Sad

ShatnersWig · 02/01/2018 12:12

Here's a post the OP made in September on a thread about barking dogs. The last 5 words are rather ironic in view of this thread.

*We have 'dodgy' neighbours who have two German shepherds they leave out 24/7 365 , rain or shine . They are obviously guard or protection dogs and every night are barking at 2/3/4am
People like this don't care *

AuntLydia · 02/01/2018 12:13

So I see from a previous thread that your partner bought it as a present. He needs to return it to the breeder. This has been going on for a few weeks now. He needs to fix it.

SlothMama · 02/01/2018 12:13

Take the puppy back to it's breeder, house training isn't difficult just time consuming.
Any decent breeder will take the puppy back and find it a new owner.

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gta · 02/01/2018 12:13

If I knew I would be pregnant and this poorly I would never have got the dog.

I already have a son so do know babies poo themselves and I have to clean it up. I can cope with that it's fine and it's different, I won't feel constantly sick then. It's so difficult having to clean up dog shit day in day out when you can't stop being sick.

My partner has been off for ten days over Xmas but he's back in work today so I'm doing it all on my own.

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UrsulaPandress · 02/01/2018 12:13

Poor puppy.

To be fair, my puppy reduced me to tears in the first few weeks, but I did love him.

Puppy will be picking up on your unhappiness. Please rehome him.

Bostin · 02/01/2018 12:13

I don’t think we have all made her feel like shit pasta. Yes this is a subject that people feel passionate about but there are plenty of people saying it’s best just to throw in the towel now.

Munchyseeds · 02/01/2018 12:14

Do the right thing and take the poor puppy back to where you got it from....tell them you made a big mistake
Good luck with the baby

SlothMama · 02/01/2018 12:14

This is why giving animals as presents is a dumb idea, they are great for the first week or so but then reality hits and they end up in already overfilled shelters.

CaptainBrickbeard · 02/01/2018 12:16

When I got pregnant, I also conceived a totally irrational dislike of our cat. He was fully housetrained and very independent so I didn’t even have to do anything for him but I really didn’t like him. Being a cat, he absolutely didn’t give a shit btw. I loved him again once I’d had the baby and he was a very cosseted and adored cat (with total disdain for our children who were passionately and slavishly devoted to him). So I really understand how you feel, OP. And I had terrible sickness and banned my husband from making coffee as the slightest whiff of it would send me retching and puking immediately. The idea of cleaning up dog shit in that state gives me the horrors. It must be torture.

Your situation is very different to mine as a puppy needs a lot of intensive work and it doesn’t sound like you are up to that. Can you get in touch with the breeder and find another home for it? Whatever the rights and wrongs, you can’t look after this dog, so rehome it responsibly and I hope the sickness ends soon and I wish you a happy, healthy pregnancy.

(Also, you won’t hate your baby or resent cleaning up its poo by the way, as a pp suggested - a puppy is not the same as your own baby).

honeyroar · 02/01/2018 12:16

Poor little pup. Only been away from his mum for a couple of weeks and already unloved.☹️. Yes contact the breeder and see if they can take it back. I wouldn't be surprised if they won't. Breeders that sell pups just before Xmas don't usually have the best morals, they're about the money. If not please contact a good local rescue.

I hope you cope better with a baby. That's going to shit and vomit too.

NoSquirrels · 02/01/2018 12:16

He’s very very young and needs committed training.

You clearly cannot do this, and will not be able to commit in future as you are now pregnant and the dog will have a better life with someone else.

Please contact the breeder ASAP.

I hope to God it was a reputable breeder but a puppy being homed at Christmas is not usually a sign of someone with the dog’s best interests at heart. Sad

Please please don’t keep this puppy. It’s young enough to make a great dog for someone else if rehomed soon. Don’t struggle on, ruin the dog and then rehome. Please do the right thing straight away.

OfaFrenchmind2 · 02/01/2018 12:17

From what I gather, OP did not choose to have this dog, so she should not have to bear the brunt of educating it when pregnant. Go take your snide comments and shove them up either your mouth or you ass, the outcome is pretty much the same.

BakedBeans47 · 02/01/2018 12:17

YABU but best rehoming the pup now while he’s still young and has a chance of a loving home who will raise and look after him properly.

ThumbWitchesAbroad · 02/01/2018 12:17

Got to agree, this is not the right time for you to have a puppy.

Please take it back and explain that you cannot have the puppy at this time - it's not fair on the pup either as it will be picking up on your anger and frustration, which will make it anxious and more likely to make more mess.

Awful for all of you. Let the dog go to someone who can manage the situation better.

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