To be offended that another school mum has unfriended me on FB?

[monkeyblonde]

She's not a close friend, but all other mums are still on there. I'm a bit nervous about going back to school!

Your not going to school? Your child is.

You drop off and pick up and go about your life. It isn't a big deal.

Come off Facebook, it’s all utter nonsense xxx

I have a ‘friend’ that does this. She just likes drama. Ignore it and act as you normally would.

I mean this nicely, honestly, but grow up.

You need to give much less of a shit.

Just because someone else acts like a bully, doesn't mean you have to act bullied.

Both replies so far are my thoughts, just been feeling a bit low generally. My mums generation never had to deal with this rubbish! Now I know why I've always preferred to work with/for men.

I have unfriended people that I accepted requests from in haste, but after thought, don't want knowing any aspect of my life, when we don't even say hello to each other.
If someone unfriended me, I wouldn't give it a moments thought.

Agreed again - she is a bully, and I don't know why I'm feeling upset - it's just like being back at school again and has dragged up all the horrible memories. I do need to grow up.

This does not need to be an issue. Turn up at school. Drop off your kid. Turn up at home time and collect. Job done. This should be a tiny part of your life. You really don't need to give a shit.

Some people use Facebook differently to you. Maybe she uses it to keep in touch with her very closest family and friends and not school gate mums. She might feel strange about sharing everything that she puts on Facebook with you. It doesn’t matter, it’s not mean, you’re just not that close. Honestly don’t give it another thought and carry on as you did before

MN is full of hard faced don't care posters but in real life most people I know would at least be a bit pissed off to be unfriended if they don't know why and if you;re feeling low anyway it's bound to sting.

It's only natural imo to be hurt but maybe it's more about her than you

It's all very well saying 'this shouldn't matter' but easier said than done. Fake not caring though OP till it becomes true. Smile but be cool when you see them, don't run away but don't make a big effort to speak either.

What sort of stuff do you post on facebook? I find myself getting quite irritated by some of the school mums who post such inane drivel that I have unfriended them. Not because I dislike them but because it does my head in to read endless posts starting with 'Today the kiddiewinks did ....' The kiddiewinks are nearly in their teens ffs.

So maybe you just aren't her type of person She probably has nothing against you but finds you tedious. No offence meant, just pointing out that we aren't all the same.

Also if you posted anything by Britain First, admitted to voting Tory, said you agreed with fox hunting or were constantly trying to flog something like that Aloe Vera shit then you'd also be removed.

It's not really very nice to unfriend people. Try not to take it personally especially as she isn't a very close friend.. It could be that she just wants to have less FB friends. People having like 600 friends on FB is just a bit mad IMHO.

I agree with Foxes. She or just uses Facebook in a different way from you. Don’t think about it any more.

I know why I've always preferred to work with/for men.

Well if you post sexist nonsense like that, I'd have defriended you!

If she’s a bully you’re better off in my opinion!

Don't worry... nice people will still be nice.

A school Mum did this (I hadn't even 0noticed) it is now embarrassing for her as she is the type of person to fall out with people and then

When I retired I unfriended all my workmates because I wanted to move on and not be one of those saddos clinging onto the old network. It was simple to do and very cathartic for me . I have not sent any Christmas cards either and I went in and explained this to them. The reason I am telling you this is because they are not my friends , this mum is not your friend , you have to move on and let it go .....Good luck my dear you can do this

My record was being unfriended by 12 people in one month I swear a lot on there and I'm quite political so I figured they are Tories ha!

Seriously OP, it's shit but try not to overthink these things. She's probably just had one of those wanky 'clear outs' of FB friends and if you haven't liked her posts she's got rid. Who needs a friend like that eh?

I was cut because of Doctor Who once. Man those nerds will burn you!

Sorry .. pressed post when my kids jumped on me.

And then becomes friends again... our children are still in the same years so we still have contact. She now talks to me again and it would be too embarrassing for her to friend request again and I sure as hell am not going to add her.

Did she do one of those hideous: "I'm having a clear out on FB so if you're still here in 20 minutes be grateful" statuses first?

This doesn't need to be a huge deal honestly it doesn't matter your kids just go to school together you take your kid to school talk to the people you like be civil to the rest drop and go.

I wouldnt take it personally since as you say shes not a close friend, maybe shes just cutting down her friends list and the people that arent close friends got culled first.
It doesnt actually mean you cant speak to each other/be friends in real life, I deleted lots of workmates from my fb because they werent close friends, I still speak to them and hang around with them and go out wiht them on nights out. Its not a personal slight on any of them.