To be offended that another school mum has unfriended me on FB?

[monkeyblonde]

She's not a close friend, but all other mums are still on there. I'm a bit nervous about going back to school!

I can’t totally understand how you’ve been triggered by this if you had difficulties at school. I unfriend a lot (usually people who aren’t friends or family and I’m having a cull) and I’ve been unfriended. I’m not bothered about those who have unfriended me as I’m not friends with them and I assume they’re culling too. Think of it in those terms then don’t think about it anymore. Life’s too short x

Sorry that should say I CAN not Can’t totally understand , apologies

Many years ago I was I friended and unfriended by a vague acquaintance. I later found out via a common (real life) friend they had unfriended me because...they were applying for a job with the Secret Service and ‘thought I might be a liability’. Which, if nothing else, proves that there are pathetic reasons for cutting contact on social reason. I knew someone else who would friend or unfriend people to make the number of friends an even number of 0 or 5. If this person isn’t a close friend, there could be any number of equally pathetic reasons she has unfriended you. Don’t sweat it.

Blimey I never care if people unfriend me. It's rubbish social media.

Maybe she's just having a cull of people she doesn't really hand out with.

I sometimes do that, it's nothing personal.

go one step father OP... go onto FaceBook and Block Her

really mess with her head...

How is unfriending someone on Facebook bullying? Perhaps she just realised you don’t really have much in common. It’s not an act of war.

A lot of my friends were deleted over Christmas. Neither of us did it. I didn't know until my aunt and 2 close friends asked why I had intended them.

YABU

It's facebook, not real life! I regularly go through my "friend list" and cull the numbers, doesn't mean I'm a bully or I'm insulting you. It simply means we don't interact with each other so there's no point in you being on my list. It's about privacy, if we don't interact then I don't really want you on my list reading about my fight with the tumble dryer!

The people throwing the word 'bullying' around should be ashamed of themselves.

I hope by the time you kids are using social media, you've sorted yourselves out.

I can only imagine how much worse you'll be making your teenagers feel, by telling them someone they're not even close friends with is bullying them, due to spring cleaning their friend list

your kids

I know for a fact that one school mum unfriended another because of her sweary political rants (such as anyone who voted Tory/Brexit is a "cunt"). I've no idea what the other mum's political views are but, as a Labour voting remainer, her posts make me cringe. I've unfollowed her as wouldn't get away with unfriending.

It may not be as obvious as the above example. Have you ever posted anything that may upset certain people without you realising? Someone defriended me after the referendum, presumably for expressing my displeasure at the result (no swearing!). No loss, wasn't really a friend and she kept posting about how wealthy she was & her spoilt child so I probably should've defriended her!

I don't post much anymore or get involved in debates, just use it to keep in touch with distant friends & family, many of whom I'm unsure of their political persuasions so wouldn't wish to irritate them with mine!

I unfriend people who I've fallen out of contact with (they've left place of work) or they never like or comment on my posts. I hope they're not offended but its nothing personal!

OP - maybe this will help - I am friends on facebook with some mums from school but would not want to be with MANY MANY others! this has NOTHING to do with how much I like them really it's just about close friendship versus someone I say hi to but don't really see in my personal life.

There are mums I think are nice people who I don't want to be friends with on facebook. She is just guarding her privacy. its not bullying and it's no reason to feel offended.

I've Unfriended people because I was clearing up my Facebook and never really spoke to them, I've unfriended people because they were only on there to snoop for someone else, I've unfriended people because I disagreed with the shite they come out with and I've unfriended because of a hundred different reasons. Just shrug it off. It could have been any reason so don't take it to heart.

I came off FB after being the person who scrolled it before even getting out of bed etc

I missed it first few days and actually realised how much of my time was spent on it. I've turned full circle and now hate SM of any sort and even hesitate on here as negative comments bring you down.
it's amazing the people who hide behind SM and say things they wouldn't normally for fear of a square go!
it's all false, a false world and if I were you, I'd delete the whole flaming thing.
do it. trust me. you WILL feel better

For heaven's sake it's Facebook!!! Or did you really offend her? Get off Facebook, it's for idiots.

Well if you post sexist nonsense like that, I'd have defriended you!

This. I'll second that Mrs Terry Pratchett

OP I really didn't know people feel so upset and bullied when people take them off their FB. I clear out now and again and just assumed people wouldn't even notice.

Do you ever actually talk to this woman? I have a policy that I won't keep anyone who doesn't speak to me in real life. A local childminder that I see on the school run once added me but then when I said hello at school she blanked me So I took her off. And several others that either don't interact with me on fb or in real life. I honestly didn't think people would notice or care.

@liketoshop

For heaven's sake it's Facebook!!! Or did you really offend her? Get off Facebook, it's for idiots.

Oh, FFS. How rude.

Don't judge everyone who uses a whole medium like this as idiots. I have used it for 10 years, and have almost 100 people on there who I actually know in real life. Not 500 fake friends, most of who I don't know! I have never ever ever had a single problem with it, I share pics and info, and so does everyone else I have on there, and it's a great way to keep in touch with relatives and friends who live far away.

Saying people who use are idiots is just fucking nasty. If YOU have had problems with it, maybe that says more about you.

She may not have unfriendly you I've been accused of this before and haven't taken such action. Sometimes fb does do funny things. Like the others have said I'd try not to be too sensitive -fb friends and real friends are/can be completely differently!

*unfriended
*different

If this is the stress and anxiety that social media causes an adult, imagine what it is doing to our poor children.

Let this posting be a cautionary tale.

OP: Brush it off and walk tall.

With not all that much respect, I have to say that, if you can be bothered with crap like being unfriended on Facebook, you need something to occupy your time properly.