To be offended that another school mum has unfriended me on FB?

[monkeyblonde]

She's not a close friend, but all other mums are still on there. I'm a bit nervous about going back to school!

I'm beginning to think some people only use MN to bitch at others.

OP - I would wonder why I had been unfriended too. I tend to unfollow people rather than unfriend.

The only thing you can do is try to forget it. There could be lots of reasons why she unfriended you.

Seriously. New year people have a clear out on fb of people they dont talk to much. Its facebook not real life.

Agree it is a bit rude. But she should be the one to be embarrassed when you next see her. Just act normal like you dont give a shit!

FB isn't real life so I am not required to put up with "opinions" i don't feel comfortable with. I have unfriended many a school parent for racism, sexism, bitching and vaguebooking. No big deal. I am perfectly polite face to face but i have no interest in wading through such stuff in my freetime.

I unfriendly people all the time
I like to keep my inner circle quite small and don't want everyone knowing my business
I had no idea that people are so bothered by it

I unfriend people on a regular basis. If I wouldn't interact with them in person, why would I want them to see the ins and outs of my personal life?! If someone who would never normally speak to me finds that offensive they need to grow up.

This thread is making me feel better about defriending someone a few months ago. She was actively unfriendly in RL and we really didn't get on, it seemed stupid to have her as my fb 'friend'

But the OP hasn't said she's been unfriendly in rl to this woman scabbersley.

I know, but the casual way people seem to defriend is making me feel better! I really struggled with it!

Hi Op.
Probably better to post in chat for a more sensitive response.

However I would be very upset too.

My New Year's Resolution is to change my response to this type of thing. I find the whole school thing hard. I won't go into great detail but I thought someone was a friend and have been 'dumped'. I never fail to be taken aback by this type of behaviour ie friend one minute, not the next or in your case FB then not. Unless someone is deeply unpleasant why would there be a need to unfriend?

Just fake it til you make it as will I

*I shouldn't have made the 'men' comment but I've never seen males whispering in a corner of the playground and go quiet when you go near”

Proportionally how many men compared to women are at the school gates? Yeah you shouldn’t have made the ‘men’ comment and a simple retraction would have sufficed, doubling down speaks more to character that I wouldn’t be so friendly with.

This woman is an acquaintance she wasn’t your friend, if she was, you would be discussing it with her. One of the many reasons why I don’t use Facebook, it turns supposed adults into naval gazing teens who think the world is watching them.

Put this into perspective, this woman clicked a button.

@battlecuntone

Really, this is what you're worried about? Gods. I wish this was all i had to be worried about.

FGS, there's always one isn't there? 🙄 The one who loves to play the 'life problems top trumps' game!

Hope it was all OK, and you didn't feel awkward or bad at the school @monkeyblonde

A close family member unfriended me. I still have no idea why. We hadn't argued or anything and for her this was a huge snub towards me.

I don't post controversial stuff on FB and I am not an over sharer. There was no reason to take me off FB except to let me know that for some reason she really doesn't like me anymore (although a couple of days before she seemed to). No skin off my nose.

I really wouldn't worry about it OP.

Hi, OP - if you want a board with heavy traffic but without the 'flavour' of AIBU, you might be better off in Chat

I agree. Try chat.

I've been baffled by people who took me off Facebook but continue as normal is every other respect. I dont post much to facebook at all. Cant be that.

I just block them back.

A couple of years ago I deleted everyone of my FB account as I was fed up of being ignored. No phone calls, no messages nothing jut the me me me of FB. Of coarse I didn't realise that they didn't know I'd blocked everyone and though it was personal!
I'm still on FB due to the kids school clubs and selling pages, but no longer have to look at other people's crap. I'm happpier!!

You can just unfollow rather than unfriend them, that way you don't have to put up with their me, me posts and at the same time not cause offence. Win, win.

I've been baffled by people who took me off Facebook but continue as normal is every other respect. I dont post much to facebook at all. Cant be that

Baffled, really? Gosh, didn't think about it for long did you? People delete those that don't interact with them, its that simple.

Fakebook is narcissistic & highly competetive in a bad way, anyway

Only for narcissistic and highly competitive people. It's a medium that merely reflects the user.

Baffled, really? Gosh, didn't think about it for long did you? People delete those that don't interact with them, its that simple.

Well not always. As I said, my family member deleted me and we interacted a lot. Nothing happened in-between me last talking to her a couple of days before and her defriending me. I hadn't even posted anything that she could have taken the wrong way.

Some people just like the drama.

My mum has bad eyesight and is always friending and unfriending people by mistake. It’s easy to do on an iPhone. My toddler has sent a fair few random friend requests to people. It may be just a case of butter fingers rather than anything personal. It may be something minor like a comment on Brexit, a photo of your Christmas tree or an accidental game request sent by one of your kids. Be secure in yourself and you won’t care.

Are you sure she hasn't deactivated her account?

A close family member unfriended me as well as a shed load of others, I never go on FB much so maybe that’s why. It’s really not worth worrying about imo

Does this pass the 'so what' test? I don't think so - perhaps ignore Facebook altogether as a new year resolution and you will have more time and less fretting.

Not read every post, sorry, but I came off Facef**kingbook over a year ago and it wasn’t a day too soon. So much bloody politics, so much my kids are better than yours, my house is fancier than yours, she said this, you can’t post that, someone’s blocked me but not them! In a world where we are more and more stressed it’s something to bin and pronto!