to be frustrated by plus size bloggers

[fcek]

First of all I am plus size myself but I find the plus size bloggers out there to be really disappointing in terms of the outfits they show and the message they put out.

There are some bloggers who wear clothes that are 2-3 sizes too small either because they think they are that size or because (most likely) they want to show off the fact they are fat because its all they talk about in between their fashion photos. I'd rather just learn about the clothes not to read defensive posts all the time.

And there are other bloggers who wear ridiculously bright clothes, lots of in your face make up and jewellery to seemingly 'hide' the fact that they are plus size.

Where are all the 'normal' plus size bloggers? with normal looking clothes that people would actually wear, that actually fit them, who have an interest in fashion without pushing a particular 'cause' down our throats in every second post?

I quite like becky barnes and arched eyebrow. Their blogs are relatively normal and they are of a similar size / shape to me.

Wannabe Princess is the worst. Nothing personal but her blog comes under the first category above. She doesn't wear clothes that actually fit her or are in any way fashionable. Diamond and Pearls comes under the second category with the OTT make up/jewellery/clothes. Neither of them do plus size people any favours, contrary to what they might think, they just make us more objects of fun.

Can anyone recommend a blogger who promotes clothes people would actually wear and that actually fit?

fcek If you cannot see yourself wearing what some bloggers wear, then find other bloggers that fit in with the type of style you like.

I'm glad that you've been able to find a positive in this, in that you've been able to find some bloggers with similar styles to yours.

Thanks DiamondsnPearls

Maybe people shouldn’t be judged by size or appearance. People should be treated equally because that’s what everyone is. And maybe there shouldn’t be people like you who have kids teaching them to single people out because they are different. Get a life or a job instead of palming the kids off to school and sitting on mumsnet.

I am also a plus size blogger,with a full time job and Mum to a 10 year old. I am not here to tell anyone how to live their life but I do believe in living your best life and not waiting to you are a certain dress size and thinking that suddenly your life will dramatically change.
At 42 I am one of the older bloggers and I like to show what I wear on an everyday basis as often women of my age get left out and lack representation.
I am really quite saddened by some of the comments I have seen on this thread especially those aimed at my fellow bloggers as these are people I am lucky enough to know in real life and they have had such a positive impact on my life.
If you want to come and see me you can find me over at NattyNikki I promise I don’t bite!

This thread has just turned into bloggers promoting themselves.

Which seems to be an improvement on personal attacks

I would rather see a thread of blogger promotion than one filled with fat shaming!!

I would rather see a thread of blogger promotion than one filled with fat shaming

Completely agree with this!

This thread has been going round in my mind the past few days and it’s made me think of trying some plus size blogging myself. It’s really reinforced for me how much fun and how valuable it is. It’s a shame that hurtful comments were made, but I think overall this thread has had a really positive message!

Many plus size blogs are no better than pro anorexia blogs and I should know, having friends and family suffer from anorexia and bulimia, and another friend lose their 30 year old daughter to obesity related problems.

Both are eating disorders, both are unhealthy and both types of websites promote 'body confidence' and 'look at what I'm wearing and how (badly) it fits my body"

Both types of blogs/websites use similar hashtags, have followers and an 'army' of friends who will jump on you if you dare to criticise them.

It's very worrying that the pro anorexia movement is criticised and gets no publicity (quite right of course) but the plus size movement is applauded when it is equally as dangerous, especially when you read of plus size bloggers being criticised for losing weight and applauded for standing up to eg tv shows who want them to do a diet show.

There are lots of plus size bloggers who are maybe a size 18 or 20, but I would call that more 'mid size'. At what point does plus size, stop being plus size? what is the minimum, what is the maximum? You can't say someone at size 18 is plus size alongside someone who is size eg 34!

Of course you can wear nice clothes at size 30 odd, but to say your size is a good thing is delusional and dangerous. There are young people influenced by this and its very worrying. I watched that 'plus size wars' online as a result of this thread and that girl in the wig and her reaction to Tess Holliday, that's very worrying and akin to seeing some kind of pop star, except a pop star doesn't encourage someone to put their lives at risk.

My neighbour's daughter is very very fat. Neighbour says she was apparently told by her doctor not to have any more kids because the first one nearly killed her because of her weight. She went ahead and had another kid. Spent months in hospital afterwards due to complications. neighbour and his wife are doing the majority of the child care.

The fact that family members have come on here to defend their plus size blogger children is reminiscent of benefit culture - the parents live that way so the kids do so as well. There is little escape as it is normalised.

Have nc for this post because I have seen plus size fans making threats to anyone who disagrees with their movement and I have noticed that this thread is being discussed on twitter and reddit in a similar vein.

In response to the Lady V comment, they have loads of dresses that show no cleavage, I wear them to work most days.

bonnie You are talking utter bollocks, you know that right?

Having had an eating disorder and used pro-ana forums I can safely say that the overlaps are minimal - in fact the only overlap is that both groups are full of women who've spent their lives being judged on how the look and are looking for a way to feel better about themselves.

You would have a point if any plus size bloggers were telling people to gain weight, but I've never seen any evidence of that.

What plus size bloggers do say is that they want everyone to feel comfortable in their own skin, and that they shouldn't be forced to change their bodies (so the complete opposite to pro-ana)

And god forbid parents should defend their children's choice to try and help others.

DiamondsnPearls I just looked at your blog for the first time. I'd never read any plus size blogs before reading this thread. You have a lovely smile and Im looking forwards to reading more of your work. As a plus size Brit I found your blog refreshing.