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2 hours late.

294 replies

Mrsknackered · 31/12/2017 20:33

Children in bed for 6.15pm with DP's bestfriend and his new girlfriend arriving for 6.30pm. I've made dinner and had the table set since that time. Said it couldn't be a ridiculously late thing as I have desperately got to prep for exams.
Got a text at 7.30pm saying 'we are running to the shop first, need anything?' I replied 'no thank you, dinner's getting cold!' No reply.
We've been stood up haven't we!?
Really wish I had stuck with the original plan of revision, Grey's Anatomy and a take away :( AIBU to just cancel now? And have a (very rare) evening with DP?

OP posts:
MissEliza · 01/01/2018 21:01

Oh god yes he must have sent the text to the wrong person. I am so thick not to have worked that out.

RedDogsBeg · 01/01/2018 21:05

He's not much of a 'best' friend, or even a friend is he? Has your dp seen him in a twat coloured light after this?

gingergenius · 01/01/2018 21:07

That does make sense! What a cunt!

gingergenius · 01/01/2018 21:08

Will the cheeky fuckery never end????

Moreisnnogedag · 01/01/2018 21:09

Agh its a shame for your husband though. It’s pretty gutting to realise where you stand on someone’s list when you consider them a close friend.

But yes the message was meant for someone else. You’re better than me because I’d be getting more riled up and question him about the shop trip.

froginapond · 01/01/2018 21:11

@passmethecrisps

Completely GUBBED my DH's phone.

Never heard that word before (GUBBED) and I love it. (Had to google it - it's Scottish! But you knew that :D ) Grin

Where I come from, we'd say BOST. (Black country.) Grin

Re the OP.

Disrespectful because we agreed dinner at 6.30, then an hour later at 7.30 you were “going to the shops”, an hour after that DP called to see where you were & no answer... because apparently you were “napping” - whilst at the shops? It’s just a lame excuse and a poor way to treat friends. Please do make it up to DP.

Yep THIS ^ response from @nosquirrels is fab!

And heyyyyy.... I also wonder if the 'just at the shop' text was meant for their 'better offer...'

TBH I am all for giving people a second chance, and if they came to me tail between their legs, saying they were so sorry, and they fucked up and they had been terrible friends, and please forgive us and so on, I would, straight up, give them another chance.

But after the obnoxious 'why have we been disrespectful' bollocks, and the shit way they have been behaving, I would say 'fuck em.

Notreallyarsed · 01/01/2018 21:14

“Didn’t plan to have a nap”???? Is he 4? Fuck me what an absolute twat.

MadMags · 01/01/2018 21:14

Anything on Facebook? Fuckers!

Text back “do let me know which shop allows you to nap in the middle of it. Might come in handy.”

JesusInTheCabbageVan · 01/01/2018 21:20

Please reply with nosquirrels' suggestion! If you don't reply, they'll see it as an admission that you were wrong!

gingergenius · 01/01/2018 21:20

Agreed I'd not be taking the moral high ground and I'd be beyond angry, manners be damned.

You're a better person than me OP!

LaughingLlama · 01/01/2018 21:21

Fuck me! How fucking rude!
Another one for the ever growing cheeky fucker club!

RidingWindhorses · 01/01/2018 21:31

Disrespectful because we agreed dinner at 6.30, then an hour later at 7.30 you were “going to the shops”, an hour after that DP called to see where you were & no answer... because apparently you were “napping” - whilst at the shops? It’s just a lame excuse and a poor way to treat friends. Please do make it to DP.

All fine apart from the last sentence. Don't beg him for anything. He can't 'make it up' to your DP. Unrepentant crap lying is worthless in a friend.

He's shown his true colours.

MelonKnee · 01/01/2018 21:41

OP - even if his going to the shop text wasn't meant for DP, you replied with 'no thank you, dinner's getting cold!'

So they knew the score.

And although he's DP's friend, I'm assuming it was you that made dinner, so they were disrespectful to you as much as him.

SchoolMoney · 01/01/2018 21:45

Bloody hell OP. Rude and stupid twats..

VeraVinegarTits · 01/01/2018 21:51

Cheeky little shit. Good for you sending that text, that he doesn't see the issue shows what a wanker he really is.

FlashTheSloth · 01/01/2018 21:55

I'd need to ask about the shop text though. Definitely must have been sent to the wrong person. He probably doesn't even realise.

Meowstro · 01/01/2018 22:05

When they come round ask what time the nap started, after they were in the shop or after he was on WhatsApp 3 minutes before one of your posts after 9pm? Hmm

Morphene · 01/01/2018 22:12

wow - that's some CF right there...

Ceebs85 · 01/01/2018 22:13

Oh yes that makes a lot more sense.

And in a way makes it so much worse. They could have cancelled earlier. You wouldn't have gone to so much trouble on the day etc etc but instead they let you cook a meal for them which probably went to waste. AND he has no idea that this is not how to behave.

Hope your DP is ok. It's shit when you realise a friend isn't really a friend.

ssd · 01/01/2018 22:29

make plans with him, get him to come round to yours...and be out...when he texts say "oh yes we went to asda, it wasn't planned"

and leave it there

ThePants999 · 01/01/2018 22:34

I'm so sorry, OP, but thank you so much for the entertainment. For those of us not personally affected, this CFery was hilarious!

Caramelbutthorn · 01/01/2018 22:40

Just a thought.... maybe they had a better offer and text the wrong host to say they were at the shops did they want anything. They might have thought they’d tell you they fell asleep and go to the other event instead. They haven’t yet worked out they text the wrong host so don’t realise their lie makes no sense

JanKind · 01/01/2018 22:40

If he can't see that he was disrespectful then you are wasting your time with this person as it will happen again. Drop him.

Traffig · 01/01/2018 22:45

I'm really sorry OP and poor OH, that is so mean.
What a horrible self centred lying weasel! Angry

gingergenius · 01/01/2018 22:46

@ThePants999 was that a genuine response?

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