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2 hours late.

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Mrsknackered · 31/12/2017 20:33

Children in bed for 6.15pm with DP's bestfriend and his new girlfriend arriving for 6.30pm. I've made dinner and had the table set since that time. Said it couldn't be a ridiculously late thing as I have desperately got to prep for exams.
Got a text at 7.30pm saying 'we are running to the shop first, need anything?' I replied 'no thank you, dinner's getting cold!' No reply.
We've been stood up haven't we!?
Really wish I had stuck with the original plan of revision, Grey's Anatomy and a take away :( AIBU to just cancel now? And have a (very rare) evening with DP?

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Ashamedandblamed · 01/01/2018 20:24

I'd say call round. I'll be napping so won't answer. Good fucking bye

Passmethecrisps · 01/01/2018 20:27

But it is also the fact that he thinks getting pissed lets him off the hook. As if “ah well, you can’t help get pissed and then randomly fall asleep in a shop”

I love a drink but I would be mortified if my drinking meant I missed an engagement like this

talulahbeige · 01/01/2018 20:29

My guess is they sent the “just at the shop” message to the wrong person. It should have gone to the “better offer” they received.

lurkingnotlurking · 01/01/2018 20:31

talulahbeige bingo! Yes, I think you have it

Straycatblue · 01/01/2018 20:32

My guess is they sent the “just at the shop” message to the wrong person. It should have gone to the “better offer” they received.

Just what I was about to post ^

to be honest his behaviour last night and then his replies today have told you all you need to know. He hasnt even acknowledged that they have put you out financially by the very fact you have bought and prepared food for them.
Disengage and don't invite them around again.

CoffeeAndCupcakes85 · 01/01/2018 20:33

I was thinking the same Talulah. Especially as he's probably already been drinking. He may have not even realised that he sent it to the wrong person, hence why he thinks his "we fell asleep" excuse was believable!

CoffeeAndCupcakes85 · 01/01/2018 20:33

*he'd

GlitteryFluff · 01/01/2018 20:34

Yeah I agree that the text was a mistake and they haven't even twigged yet that they sent it. So don't understand why you're annoyed over them 'napping'.

kaytee87 · 01/01/2018 20:35

You need to pull him up on the inconsistencies in his bullshit story excuse.

Blatherskite · 01/01/2018 20:35

I'd have to call him out on the shop/nap scenario. It makes no sense!

AtrociousCircumstance · 01/01/2018 20:35

What a twat. Don't waste any more time on them.

Also, the arrogance of 'I'll call round soon' as if he'd be welcome, and of course in his own leisurely sweet vague time?!

Prick.

pictish · 01/01/2018 20:40

"You're not sorry and you can fuck off."

Clutterbugsmum · 01/01/2018 20:41

Text back like most liar's you are too stupid to keep your lies straight. So either you were not at the shops when you texted me to say you were running late all be it you were already 1 hour late or you had a nap at the shopping centre as per you text when you were 2 hours late.

So lets face it either way you did not want to see X and me last night, so we think it is best that we don't make any arrangements until further notice.

And then ignore any further texts from him.

SpongeBobJudgeyPants · 01/01/2018 20:42

They're being tw*ts, but how long do you want to play text ping-pong for? I would just avoid them in future.

CoffeeBreakIn5 · 01/01/2018 20:42

Oh please call him out on the text! Ask him if he remembers telling you he was at the shop?

RedDogsBeg · 01/01/2018 20:44

That sounds like exactly what happened talulahbiege. I'd have to call him out on the lying and tell him you are not interested in him 'dropping around soon to apologise', if he wants to put things right he needs to stop lying and arrange to see your husband asap to apologise in person.

Singlebutmarried · 01/01/2018 20:44

And not just telling you he was at the shop, but asking if you needed anything.

Lunde · 01/01/2018 20:44

My guess is they sent the “just at the shop” message to the wrong person. It should have gone to the “better offer” they received.

yep!

Otherwise it would be impressive that they managed to go to the shop and be active on Whatsapp while taking a "nap"

EvilDoctorHogmanayDuck · 01/01/2018 20:46

This is unbelievable! I'd dump them.

OhPleaseNotThatAgain · 01/01/2018 20:47

Otherwise it would be impressive that they managed to go to the shop and be active on Whatsapp while taking a "nap

Yes. The unplanned nap that they still managed to set the alarm for.

Parapaparpar · 01/01/2018 20:50

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CheeseyToast · 01/01/2018 20:50

Regardless of what "really" happened, which you will never know because he's untruthful, he has offended you and is not bothered about it. Which tells you all you need to know about the value of the friendship.

I wouldn't be sending any passive aggressive- or aggressive- texts. Leave him with his own words/lies and move right along.

You did the right thing by getting on with enjoying your night. Don't let this guy sap any more of your energy.

MsHarry · 01/01/2018 20:52

Pair of shits!

RedDogsBeg · 01/01/2018 20:53

Well he's go some skills I'll give him that, sleepshopping and sleeptexting is very impressive.

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Mrsknackered · 01/01/2018 20:58

Talulah I think you've cracked it! That makes much more sense. Also, would explain why he didn't phone to excuse himself at any point - background noise would have given him up.

But yes, I'm giving up texting backwards and forwards. He's not sorry, he's a twat kind of always thought it If he was sorry he would have contacted DP today, and apologised profusely. He hasn't. He's only apologised because I've questioned him.

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