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2 hours late.

294 replies

Mrsknackered · 31/12/2017 20:33

Children in bed for 6.15pm with DP's bestfriend and his new girlfriend arriving for 6.30pm. I've made dinner and had the table set since that time. Said it couldn't be a ridiculously late thing as I have desperately got to prep for exams.
Got a text at 7.30pm saying 'we are running to the shop first, need anything?' I replied 'no thank you, dinner's getting cold!' No reply.
We've been stood up haven't we!?
Really wish I had stuck with the original plan of revision, Grey's Anatomy and a take away :( AIBU to just cancel now? And have a (very rare) evening with DP?

OP posts:
cakeflower · 01/01/2018 22:58

You’ve got to call him out on this!

dangerrabbit · 01/01/2018 23:01

I would personally ignore the second text he sent you and not bother contacting them again - how rude.

NeilPetark · 01/01/2018 23:06

I would reply ‘yes I often find going to the shop so exhausting I have to go home for a nap afterwards. Don’t bother making it up to DP, it’s obvious you’re talking bollocks’.

Original poster
Mrsknackered · 01/01/2018 23:20

Haha, some of these replies are so good but there's no point feeding into it at this stage. DP and I were laughing at the 'nap wasn't planned, but he set an alarm' response, as it had completely gone over our heads Grin

Nice to see you @Traffig !

OP posts:
Traffig · 01/01/2018 23:23

Mrsknackered Flowers

Bigbertha123 · 02/01/2018 01:22

I think that your DPs new girlfriend may be my MIL Wink. She has missed several dinners and visits because she accidentally fell asleep!

verystressedmum · 02/01/2018 01:29

Didn’t you say how can you have been asleep you text me from the shop at 7.30 and I replied Confused

Stolenchoccies · 02/01/2018 01:50

wasthe shop ikea? They have nice beds Grin

FrivolouslyFancifulFannie · 02/01/2018 02:03

Maybe he was on his way hence the shop message but she didnt want to come in the first place or they had been bickering about it before hand as she wanted to go elsewhere so they were running late. He was on his when he asked about the shop then she got her way and they went elsewhere, now hes back peddling

TwoDrifters · 02/01/2018 07:20

People are missing the point. Even if the “shop text” was meant for someone else, the OP replied to it. So at that point the “friend” should have realised he’d sent the text in error, and the OP clearly told him his dinner, that she had made, was getting cold.

Ironmanrocks · 02/01/2018 09:07

If you can be bothered I would check HER fb page - he might not post pics on his or be tagged, but assuming they are friends of hers, there will will be pics there.

Also, if he sent the text to the wrong person, he probably thought the reply was from the wrong person too. Maybe. Then if he was pissed/knackered this morning, he may not have noticed. Just a thought.

Flowers
NewYearNewUsername · 02/01/2018 09:31

So they were due to arrive at 6.30. An hour later they were nipping to the shop. You explicitly told them you didn't need anything and food was getting cold. They ignored that and instead took an impromptu "nap" that was so unexpected they set an alarm, which they slept through.

I'm in the camp that thinks the shop text was meant to go to someone else and they ditched you for a better offer and made up a bullshit excuse. Contradicting yourself so soon after shows it was total crap. You can't set an alarm for an unplanned nap. I'd be calling them on that crock of shit.

If they can't even see what's disrespectful about their behaviour then I'm sorry but I couldn't be friends with someone like that.

caringcarer · 02/01/2018 14:28

Text to say you expected them 2 hours ago. You are feeling under the weather and so now gone to bed.

Couchpotato3 · 02/01/2018 15:46

"Don't bother calling round. We won't be at home (to you, ever again)."

pictish · 02/01/2018 16:45

There are only two things worse than a shit liar and those are a shit liar who persists with the lie and a shit liar who persists with the lie and gets annoyed when they are called out on it.

People who defend their lies make shit friends. Fact.

ThePants999 · 02/01/2018 16:55

@gingergenius - yes, absolutely. I love a good CF story, and the "we took a nap" message was a classic.

doubleshotespresso · 02/01/2018 17:31

OP this was unbelievably rude at the first point but this "friend" has let himself further down since, how he views this as not disrespectful is both baffling and unforgivable.
I had at the beginning of this thread hoped he would turn up at your door on New Years Day offering sincere profuse feeble apologies accompanied with a nice bunch of flowers or something similar.
In your or your DH shoes, I would struggle with any civil contact from this point on I really would.

RedDogsBeg · 02/01/2018 17:48

@caringcarer I think the time for sending that sort of text is long gone, don't you? Or have you not read the full thread or at the very least checked the date and time of the opening post?

MsAdorabelleDearheartVonLipwig · 02/01/2018 21:07

I wonder if the penny has dropped yet that he texted the wrong person about being at the shop. Grin

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