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To think my parents are massive CF's

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Shootfirstaskquestionslater · 27/12/2017 06:28

I didn't know what to get my dad for Christmas so I asked him what he wanted and asked what my budget was and bought some games he showed them to me and said this is what you've got me for Christmas. Last night I got a text message off my mum telling me that I never got my dad anything for Christmas yes I did he got the games apparently when I was handing out presents he never got anything that's because he had already had his my mum has told me that I need to give him the money on top and she's decided that she got him those games well I wish they had told me that. He was expecting to get games as well as money off me. They know I had to sell my jewellery just to be able to get Christmas presents this year because I'm off work sick and this just feels like a kick in the teeth it means that I will now have to give him some of my birthday money. I'm so upset and angry about it all IABU and should I just suck it up and give the grabby shit the money I was already feeling pissed off over how ungrateful my sister was over her present next year no one gets anything.

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Ginmakesitallok · 27/12/2017 06:34

Wow. I can't imagine my mum asking me for money at Xmas. Did you buy the games or did your dad? Don't give him your birthday money!

DrMadelineMaxwell · 27/12/2017 06:39

Just keep reiterating that you got your dad the games, because you did.

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Shootfirstaskquestionslater · 27/12/2017 06:39

My dad got them because he bought one off the Xbox live and he told me that it was what I had bought him for Christmas and now they are both saying that I didn't get him anything and I need to give him money but I did get him something he got the games or am I missing something my mum is saying that the games are off her not me.

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MrsPicklesonSmythe · 27/12/2017 06:40

It’s not clear from your post, did you give him the money for the games when he bought them?

Either way no one should be getting themselves into financial hardship over Xmas presents and it’s unfair of your family to be demanding st s time when you are struggling.
If you’ve already paid for the games and he’s not happy then it’s tough, you can’t afford any more presents simple as that.

RaeSkywalker · 27/12/2017 06:41

Did you pay them back for the games? I’m confused.

CheapSausagesAndSpam · 27/12/2017 06:43

Was he expecting you to give him money for the games and you didn't?

Either way they're both being mean and grabby!

MrsPicklesonSmythe · 27/12/2017 06:43

You didn’t actually give your dad any money? My sister and I used to do the same thing each year we both buy our own to the same value and say ‘you’ve bought me xyz’ or buy it ourselves then send the money to each other but you haven’t paid for anything he has.

YABU bvsuse you haven’t bought him anything. It doesn’t change the fact that you can’t afford it though and the are bu to demand knowing you’re strapped.

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Shootfirstaskquestionslater · 27/12/2017 06:43

No when he bought them I didn't have the money to hand to give him so he used my mum's card but they suppose to be off me and my mum never said anything to me about the money and now they are saying that I didn't buy my dad a Christmas but the games where his Christmas present from me and he knew that and now am being told that I have to give him money as well as the games because he had nothing on Christmas day off me.

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steff13 · 27/12/2017 06:43

Did you buy the games or not?

Yeahsureokay · 27/12/2017 06:43

Did he buy the games with his own money with the expectation to be reimbursed with cash for them from you on Christmas Day? So then the games technically would have been from you (i.e. Bought from you)

Or did you already give him the money for the games, and now he expects more money as well?

rjay123 · 27/12/2017 06:44

So your dad bought games off Xbox Live, and he paid?

Did you give him any money for the Xbox games?

Yeahsureokay · 27/12/2017 06:44

Sorry cross post op

steff13 · 27/12/2017 06:45

But if you didn't buy them, they're not from you.

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Shootfirstaskquestionslater · 27/12/2017 06:46

He was suppose to tell me what games he wanted so that I could buy them for him but instead he chose to go ahead and buy the games instead I wish I had stuck to my original plan and just given him money.

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ememem84 · 27/12/2017 06:46

So you didn’t give your dad the money for the games he bought himself?

If you didn’t then it does look like you didn’t get him anything for Christmas. He bought his own gifts

iamkahleesi · 27/12/2017 06:46

Hmmm, so you didn't pay for the games? You didn't buy the games? You didn't physically give them to him? Sorry OP but there's no way they are a gift from you, you didn't get him anything for Christmas.

Yeahsureokay · 27/12/2017 06:46

If you've not given any money for them then they aren't from you. He bought and paid for the games.

However if you are seriously struggling for money your parents shouldn't be expecting gifts from you and leaving you without enough money for bills and food etc.

Blankscreen · 27/12/2017 06:47

So you didn't actually pay for the games?

How old is your dad to be playing on xbox?

Your parents sound very weird but usually you should.reimburse some one in this situation which you didn't because you can't afford to and your parents should understand this.

steff13 · 27/12/2017 06:47

So give him money now. To be clear, you haven't given him a gift that you paid for or money, correct? So give him the money you wish you had given him in the first place.

LunarGirl · 27/12/2017 06:47

So your dad bought the games. It was paid for with your mum's card. You haven't given your mum that money back. All correct?

In which case, they're right. You haven't got him anything! If you can't afford it why didn't you just agree not to do presents this year?

Figgygal · 27/12/2017 06:48

So you didn't give him money for the games?

steff13 · 27/12/2017 06:48

How old is your dad to be playing on xbox?

My father-in-law has an Xbox and he's almost 70.

Yeahsureokay · 27/12/2017 06:49

So give him the money now for them? All sorted.

Hotpinkangel19 · 27/12/2017 06:49

You never bought him anything, he bought them himself..... why did you not pay him/your mum back?

Yeahsureokay · 27/12/2017 06:49

There's an age limit on gaming

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