To think my parents are massive CF's

[Shootfirstaskquestionslater]

I didn't know what to get my dad for Christmas so I asked him what he wanted and asked what my budget was and bought some games he showed them to me and said this is what you've got me for Christmas. Last night I got a text message off my mum telling me that I never got my dad anything for Christmas yes I did he got the games apparently when I was handing out presents he never got anything that's because he had already had his my mum has told me that I need to give him the money on top and she's decided that she got him those games well I wish they had told me that. He was expecting to get games as well as money off me. They know I had to sell my jewellery just to be able to get Christmas presents this year because I'm off work sick and this just feels like a kick in the teeth it means that I will now have to give him some of my birthday money. I'm so upset and angry about it all IABU and should I just suck it up and give the grabby shit the money I was already feeling pissed off over how ungrateful my sister was over her present next year no one gets anything.

Sorry didn’t mean to post that🤭

Best of luck at the Drs @Shootfirstaskquestionslater couldni also suggest adding these to the list of things to talk through with the doctor?

-mum (and dad?) claiming they pay your bills when you do.

• the possibility that they would "get physical" if you were to confront them

I just think you're in a vulnerable place right now and the GP needs to get an accurate picture to get the right support in place for you.

It's ok Lucked

Thank you Doublemint I will add that to my list as well. I know they would get physical my dad pushed me in to a wardrobe when I was 21 and I cut my arm that was the last time he or my mum layed a finger on me. I think your right I'm in a very vunrable place right now and my mum seems to use that to get advantage.

I would not be surprised OP if your mother was claiming some sort of carers allowance for you. That's why she 'needs' to be a every doctors appointment you have. And also lie about financially supporting you.
You boyfriend and his family seen like they have your best intreasts in mind.
Let them help you.
You seem like a nice person who is being taken advantage of. Good luck to you OP

To be honest with you RainbowWish it wouldn't surprise me if that is what she's doing. They do have my interests at heart so I will let them help me. Oh thank you

Don't tell your parents anything about your life that they can use against you from now on. For eg. they don't need to know when your next appointment is, keep all private medical & financial letters hidden. Don't talk to them about anything important in your life anymore, just keep it simple like the weather & the telly.

I would strong advise that you get in touch with your local MENCAP & tell one of their advisors that you're being exploited by your parents. Ask them if there's a way of finding out if your mum is fraudulently claiming carers benefit on your behalf.

Thank you Saladtongs I won't be telling them anything any more I'll just keep it to only the none important things from now on. I will get in touch with them and see if they can find out if she is claiming carers for me when she shouldn't be.

DO NOT GIVE HIM MONEY!!
As a parent, if my dd was in your shoes I would 1) help with Christmas, 2)if I said 'you got me this' I would mean "u bought this in name only, i paid for it."

DO NOT GIVE HIM ANY MOBET.

No parent should demand gifts or money but especially not if their dd is having difficulty. Ignore anyone who has different opinion bc your parents should help you. Even the meanest person on earth, my mil, helps. I usually give her a carefully chosen token gift bc she buys herself everything.

Your parents are rude and mean. Nobody has the right to demand a gift....although I strongly recommend that my dh give me something, if we were broke. A token would be perfect.

Abbylee I had no choice but to give him the money so I've paid for the games now. They don't help me out I'm just left to it.

@Shootfirstaskquestionslater did you make that gp appointment yet? Hope you had a good new year too x

You’re making it sound like your paying for the games twice but you haven’t paid for anything so why are you getting so upset?

You’re not out of pocket. Your mum is because he used her card and you was meant to pay her back.

Use the money that you was going to use to buy the games originally. Where is that money?

I don’t get what your problem is?

Didn’t RTFT ignore me

Doublemint I'm going to sort out a doctors appointment today. Thank you it was ok I spent it with my boyfriend and his family and they helped me to get through new years day. Happy New year I hope you had a great new year xxxx