That this behaviour is totally not ok?!

[Angelwendy]

Im on holiday with my OH this week and have just found a few photos of a topless sunbather on his phone that he must have taken earlier (was looking at a photo he had taken of me from last night).
I'm gutted as I'm going to have to confront him about this asap and it's going to ruin the holiday which I've been looking forward to for so long and has cost us a small fortune. Would never have expected this sort of behaviour from him! Absolutely fuming!!!!

I think you might be over reacting. Does it really have to ruin your holiday? It depends on your relationship in general. Do you trust him? Do you generally have a good/solid relationship? If you do then i don't think it's that big a deal. If you don't like it, tell him and hopefully he'll apologise. But I can't see that it's worth going mad over, unless there are other issues you haven't stated.

Yadnbu, and I dont think most women would have been happy about him sneaking a photo of them either.

Um OP is not overreacting, what a fucking creep.

YANBU! Why is he taking pics of topless women?

Yuk, is he 12?

No you aren’t over reacting! I would hit the roof that he was both perving other another woman AND taking photos of her without her permission. He’s a creep.

That is really not ok! YANBU

YANBU it's really gross for him to take pictures of a topless woman without her knowledge to presumably wank over later. Plus extremely disrespectful to the OP.

I don't think your overreacting at all! You've just discovered that your OH sees women as sexual objects, that he thinks it's okay to photograph them naked, and then presumably he sent the photographs on to friends too?
He's a complete prick.
That would be the end of the relationship for me. :(

He's 33. Im incredibly upset that he would behave like this. Not only does it make me feel shit about myself (he knows I'm insecure about my boobs) but it's also creepy and weird behaviour. Plus I'm sure the woman would be creeped out too. I'll confront him when he's back from the gym

Overreacting?? Would you be happy to have a man taking photos of you bathing topless Sunny, presumably so he could wank over them later? OP your partner is hideous creep. Taking photos of strangers is so blagggggh.

Disgusting

Hide his phone till you get home.

Can't believe the first response was YABU. Jesus.

It's NOT ok for some perv to take pics of someone sunbathing ffs. Absolute creep and I would be packing his bag for him.

No, it’s not okay, it is disrespectful to both of you. I would be very clear how you feel, very clear that what he had done is unacceptable and say that this is not a joke, it has damaged your relationship. If it’s a one off, accept that his behaviour is out of character, and give him the benefit of the doubt. Enjoy your holiday as much as you can.

Off topic but . . . He's at the gym on holiday?! Something tells me this guy is mainly concerned about himself.

Off topic, but a lot of hotels have gyms on the premises, it's not that odd.

Nothing wrong with taking some time out for the gym on holiday, I do that! But I'd hit the roof if I was the OP. That's just not on and is creepy and pervy, not to mention totally disrespectful.

So creepy, did he have her consent to take the pictures?

He's behaved like a disgusting creepy pervert. If he tries to minimise it, ask him if he'd like you to show the pictures to the woman or her mail family members or friends and ask them if it's ok? He'll tell you you're over reacting so tell him you ARE going to show them and offer to take your top off so they can have some topless photos of you. After all, it's not a big deal. 😒 He'll shit himself. Funny how men think it's not a big deal, until you offer to discuss it with other people. 😒

Throw the creepy fuckers stuff in the pool and tell him to get his own room because he aint staying with you.

Disgusting animal.

There was a thread like this several months ago and the ops oh had been taking pictures of women and sending them to his friends back home. Vile behaviour.

I doubt it was to wank over if he's on holiday with OP.... more likely to whatsapp a 'lads' group or something bitter experience which is even worse imho.

Yuk!!

I doubt it was to wank over if he's on holiday with OP.... more likely to whatsapp a 'lads' group or something

This is more than likely exactly what he's done!

Things like that don't offend or worry me, but it seems plenty find it 'creepy'.