That this behaviour is totally not ok?!

[Angelwendy]

Im on holiday with my OH this week and have just found a few photos of a topless sunbather on his phone that he must have taken earlier (was looking at a photo he had taken of me from last night).
I'm gutted as I'm going to have to confront him about this asap and it's going to ruin the holiday which I've been looking forward to for so long and has cost us a small fortune. Would never have expected this sort of behaviour from him! Absolutely fuming!!!!

He's said we'll sunbathe in the family area of the pool for the rest of the holiday (there's an adult only area with a wall up where topless sunbathing is allowed) to stop me worrying

to stop me worrying

he is STILL putting this hysteria on YOU OP.
he is NOT saying that he won't actually be in the adult area and behave like a normal respectable adult. no. He will subject you to other peoples kids instead.

Where are you? somewhere like Egypt? where women cover so men don't look?

Has he 'gone native'?

How about men don't fucking ogle so women can go about their normal lives without some dickhead perving over them..

Yanbu. Awful behaviour, not easy I know but I would be ending the relationship. He has shown a complete lack of respect for you and women. It might not be the first time he has done something like this either.

Oh he's a creeper! It's barely a step up from taking photos of women in changing rooms or up skirt shots.

Makes my skin crawl. For anyone saying YABU, I guess the litmus test would be asking the woman he photographed how she feels about being wank material?

Oh dear. He sounds like he's not sorry he took the photos but terribly sorry he's been caught. He's shown you who he is.

I get what you are saying about your holiday, OP. Sometimes you can't just "get another flight home" or have dinner separately. It'll be awkward. Ditch him when you get home. Don't let him make you the problem - he's trying to turn it all around on YOU when it's HIS behaviour that is wrong.

"Doesn't find her attractive" - that really isn't the point. "Oh I took a photo of a half naked woman but it's ok because I don't find her attractive" BULLSHIT. He doesn't understand. He wants to "stop you worrying" and "let" you look at his phone and messages "whenever you want". He's turning it all around to you, the hysterical paranoid girlfriend who is being "ridiculous". And the sulking? He needs to grow up. I'm sorry this has happened, OP. I hope you do manage to get some enjoyment out of your holiday. WRT your day-to-day relationship (as it were), you say it's really good - you rarely argue, he's romantic, you have great sex, he "helps you out a lot" . Does he have your back? Look after you when you're ill? I ask because - and I hate to pour even more rain on your parade, but I'm trying to picture the long term prospects with this guy - romance fades. Sex changes - or disappears. If you're contemplating having kids with this man, it's a fair bet that romance and sex will be the first casualties and if he's great at the wining and dining and wooing but not so hot on the daily grind (pardon the pun) now, what is left? Does he make you laugh/smile when you're having a shit day? Does he put you first? I'm guessing you probably don't want to spend your lovely holiday rethinking everything about him but this very unpleasant and unexpected incident would make me look at everything else about him, especially as it's come out of the blue.

and for you OP.