To think gender alters the perception of what is said on MN?

[1DAD2KIDS]

I use a username that clearly identifies my gender (and is also my biological sex). Often I feel that if people assumed I was a woman their response would be different. Or if you swapped the genders around some people's responses would be completely different?

[FlashTheSloth]

Onion, were they regarding finances by any chance?

I often find, even if the username isn't obvious, you can tell it is a man posting, especially if it is an OP, men seem to have a distinct style of writing, so a name change won't always mean much.

[LassWiTheDelicateAir]

Mansplaining' does not mean 'a man explaining'. It is not frustration that the voice belongs to a man. It means a man explaining to women something that those women are experts in, and doing it in a way where he believes he is educating them as if he knows more than they do

Mansplaining gets thrown out more frequently than that. You get feministplaining too.

[DadDadDad]

I think I am being helpful by having a name that shows I'm male, because sometimes it's relevant, and I appreciate that the default assumption is that a poster is female. But equally, I don't think anyone should be obliged to indicate their gender, and contributions can be judged without that information.

[BoreOfWhabylon]

Yes DadDadDad, but you don't post patronising bollocks or threads that anyone who has been on here for more than a couple of weeks must know will get everyone frothing.

Unlike the OP.

[specialsubject]

I've been assumed to be male because I objected to one of the 'all men are crap' posts.

Of course no one here knows if I am or not.

[BoreOfWhabylon]

Although we all have different perceptions on things to some my mere visibility as a man on here is like a red rag to a bull.

No. It's the style and content of your posts that gets backs up. Again and again and again.

[Sparklingbrook]

It is a bit odd to have a shouty capitalised DAD user name. But it might be more about what you post than anything.

[LassWiTheDelicateAir]

I think I am being helpful by having a name that shows I'm male

I agree. There are posters who just love doing detective work and analysing writing styles to determine "you must be a man !". You save them the effort.

I do enjoy a good "you must be a man" outing. My favourites are the 20 something year old poster who triumphantly told me (a post- menopausal mother) "I had so much to learn about being a woman".

Or more seriously the poster who was told she was a man who was either (a) a man but had invented an elaborate backstory over a long posting history including talking about her and her children leaving a violent relationship or (b) was actually a woman.

[DadDadDad]

Thanks, Bore. I think I have been once accused of mansplaining. Simple rule for me (as with any comment on MN): if several posters then subsequently agree with an accusation of mansplaining, then they probably have a point, otherwise it's probably the other poster who is taking bollocks.

[user1495832265]

If anything, my observation is that some male posters get away with goady fuckery that wouldn't be tolerated otherwise.

[BoreOfWhabylon]

As usual D^3, you speak great sense.

[MuseumGardens]

Something i notice on mn is that if people write about young girls bullying or being mean people will always say "Oh yes girls are so horrible/bitchy" but if someone writes about boys being equally nasty, people never say that boys are nasty.

[BoreOfWhabylon]

[BabyDreams2018]

YANBU. Under a previous username I have been accused of being a male and of being a troll because I didn't agree with the Queen Bs on the threads.

[OnionKnight]

Onion, were they regarding finances by any chance?

Yes, where each partner was earning more than the other partner.

[PhilODox]

Also, I imagine there are an awful lot of MNers with 1 dad and 2 children...

[annandale]

Yup there are double standards on here. Sexism sucks.

I'd still rather be here than most places on the Internet.

[TheGoalIsToStayOutOfTheHole]

I feel the only time men are treat differently to women on here is when they feel the need to announce 'I am a man, here is my view' as if everyone should focus on the manly opinion.

If you are concerned, pick a different name where the fact that you are male is not obvious? And don't feel the need to announce your sex (NOT GENDER) when posting.

[TheGoalIsToStayOutOfTheHole]

I suspect, however, it's your style of writing (including blaming others for not responding the way you want them to), and/or the things you are writing, so maybe look into changing that too.

Yes, I think this too but didn't want to say it incase it was used as an example of how men are treat differently or something

[Peanutbuttercheese]

There are double standards sometimes based on if a woman or man posts.

Weight gain and financial arrangements seem to be the hot potatoes.

[LiminalTides]

And teeth.

[PineappleScrunchie]

Whereas elsewhere on the internet (and the wider world) men and women are treated entirely equally

[HerSymphonyAndSong]

Women are very used to getting a different response to the ones men will get in a male-dominated environment