To think gender alters the perception of what is said on MN?

[1DAD2KIDS]

I use a username that clearly identifies my gender (and is also my biological sex). Often I feel that if people assumed I was a woman their response would be different. Or if you swapped the genders around some people's responses would be completely different?

Onion, were they regarding finances by any chance?

I often find, even if the username isn't obvious, you can tell it is a man posting, especially if it is an OP, men seem to have a distinct style of writing, so a name change won't always mean much.

Mansplaining' does not mean 'a man explaining'. It is not frustration that the voice belongs to a man. It means a man explaining to women something that those women are experts in, and doing it in a way where he believes he is educating them as if he knows more than they do

Mansplaining gets thrown out more frequently than that. You get feministplaining too.

I think I am being helpful by having a name that shows I'm male, because sometimes it's relevant, and I appreciate that the default assumption is that a poster is female. But equally, I don't think anyone should be obliged to indicate their gender, and contributions can be judged without that information.

Yes DadDadDad, but you don't post patronising bollocks or threads that anyone who has been on here for more than a couple of weeks must know will get everyone frothing.

Unlike the OP.

I've been assumed to be male because I objected to one of the 'all men are crap' posts.

Of course no one here knows if I am or not.

Although we all have different perceptions on things to some my mere visibility as a man on here is like a red rag to a bull.

No. It's the style and content of your posts that gets backs up. Again and again and again.

It is a bit odd to have a shouty capitalised DAD user name. But it might be more about what you post than anything.

I think I am being helpful by having a name that shows I'm male

I agree. There are posters who just love doing detective work and analysing writing styles to determine "you must be a man !". You save them the effort.

I do enjoy a good "you must be a man" outing. My favourites are the 20 something year old poster who triumphantly told me (a post- menopausal mother) "I had so much to learn about being a woman".

Or more seriously the poster who was told she was a man who was either (a) a man but had invented an elaborate backstory over a long posting history including talking about her and her children leaving a violent relationship or (b) was actually a woman.

Thanks, Bore. I think I have been once accused of mansplaining. Simple rule for me (as with any comment on MN): if several posters then subsequently agree with an accusation of mansplaining, then they probably have a point, otherwise it's probably the other poster who is taking bollocks.

If anything, my observation is that some male posters get away with goady fuckery that wouldn't be tolerated otherwise.

As usual D^3, you speak great sense.

Something i notice on mn is that if people write about young girls bullying or being mean people will always say "Oh yes girls are so horrible/bitchy" but if someone writes about boys being equally nasty, people never say that boys are nasty.

YANBU. Under a previous username I have been accused of being a male and of being a troll because I didn't agree with the Queen Bs on the threads.

Onion, were they regarding finances by any chance?

Yes, where each partner was earning more than the other partner.

Also, I imagine there are an awful lot of MNers with 1 dad and 2 children...

Yup there are double standards on here. Sexism sucks.

I'd still rather be here than most places on the Internet.

I feel the only time men are treat differently to women on here is when they feel the need to announce 'I am a man, here is my view' as if everyone should focus on the manly opinion.

If you are concerned, pick a different name where the fact that you are male is not obvious? And don't feel the need to announce your sex (NOT GENDER) when posting.

I suspect, however, it's your style of writing (including blaming others for not responding the way you want them to), and/or the things you are writing, so maybe look into changing that too.

Yes, I think this too but didn't want to say it incase it was used as an example of how men are treat differently or something

There are double standards sometimes based on if a woman or man posts.

Weight gain and financial arrangements seem to be the hot potatoes.

And teeth.

Whereas elsewhere on the internet (and the wider world) men and women are treated entirely equally

Women are very used to getting a different response to the ones men will get in a male-dominated environment