To think gender alters the perception of what is said on MN?

[1DAD2KIDS]

I use a username that clearly identifies my gender (and is also my biological sex). Often I feel that if people assumed I was a woman their response would be different. Or if you swapped the genders around some people's responses would be completely different?

[Elendon]

We both sorted it out. DadDadDad.

[DadDadDad]

Thanks, Elendon. I'm glad you got it sorted.

[Elendon]

It's fine and now resolved.

[DadDadDad]

@Elendon - I've been offline for two hours, and have just seen what's happened, see my PM to you. Hopefully, MNHQ will withdraw my earlier post.

[UsedtobeFeckless]

If people actually want to blend they choose a neutral user name. Simples.

[StatelessPrincess]

I don't really care if men use mumsnet although I like that it's mostly women. I do find the idea that MN would be enriched by more men completely laughable. Is the OP ever coming back I wonder?

[Pumperthepumper]

I would just like to clarify that when I said ‘NAM do that on here’ I meant ‘NAM choose a gendered nn. I’m yet to see a poster with an obviously male nn just blend in and not make a big deal about being man.

[LineysRunner]

To be pedantic, Sensimila wrote 'don't like' not 'hate'.

Please don't misquote her.

[Sensimilla]

I don't 'hate a sub-section of society'

I'm just bored by their dominance and entitlement. I really enjoy conversations, where they aren't; because it doesn't happen often

[Sensimilla]

But what about when a man first posts and hasn't demonstrated the behaviour you describe

That's the whole point, though. I've never seen it happen. Men always 'demonstrate the behaviour'...it's obvious from posting style, not username, who is male

[Elendon]

But you quoted me anyway, after I specifically withdrew the post and posted after that I was going to self report it.

@DadDadDad.

Perhaps I won't engage with you in a discussion after all.

[Pumperthepumper]

Sorry again, stupid phone. I totally agree with that statement. Exactly that.

[Pumperthepumper]

For me, there is no need to announce you're a man unless it's directly relevant which is not usually the case. Because it doesn't matter what your sex is, unless you make it a problem.

Sorry, this by Assassinated is much more succinct than mine.

[Pumperthepumper]

That I can understand. But what about when a man first posts and hasn't demonstrated the behaviour you describe - do you immediately treat that with additional suspicion (in the way I assume Sensi does given her strong feeling about men)?

No, why would I? If a man posted on say, the baby boards about his ff baby not gaining weight, I’d happily give him the same advice I’d give a woman.

I do think it’s odd though, that a man would choose an obviously gendered nn, on a predominately female website - then deny that they think sex is relevant. I know NAM do that here but I struggle to believe it’s just thoughtlessness to those who do.

[UsedtobeFeckless]

It's more the "Laydeez! I am here to enrich your conversations with my Manly Perspective!" that sometimes creeps into proceedings that puts my back up - that said though, most blokes on here are fine ...

[AssassinatedBeauty]

Yes! Because it's a fair bet that you're a man...

[DadDadDad]

Sorry, Assassinated, I could have been clearer - I meant "is that also an accurate summary of how you respond to male posters?"

For me, there is no need to announce you're a man unless it's directly relevant which is not usually the case. Because it doesn't matter what your sex is, unless you make it a problem.

Agreed. Does having a "Dad" username equate to "announcing you're a man" in your mind?

[DadDadDad]

I have no problem whatsoever with men posting. But posting under the guise of understanding women better then refusing to acknowledge the answer, I have no time for.

That I can understand. But what about when a man first posts and hasn't demonstrated the behaviour you describe - do you immediately treat that with additional suspicion (in the way I assume Sensi does given her strong feeling about men)?

[AssassinatedBeauty]

You'd have to ask Sensi, DadDadDad, if that's an accurate summary of her individual feelings.

I don't care if men post, if they behave as normal posters do. For me, there is no need to announce you're a man unless it's directly relevant which is not usually the case. Because it doesn't matter what your sex is, unless you make it a problem.

[Elendon]

Sorry DadDadDad

I'm going to report my post. Will post later!

[Elendon]

It is a stance which I have seen too often to be funny- the pretence that everyone is being horrible to feminists.

Well I've not seen it and I hang around the feminist boards like yourself Lass

I have read some of your posts regarding everyday sexism in which you have said you have never witnessed such an occurrence and that it has never happened to you.

Swings and roundabouts. Eh?

[Pumperthepumper]

DadDadDad I answered that. I have no problem whatsoever with men posting. But posting under the guise of understanding women better then refusing to acknowledge the answer, I have no time for.

[DadDadDad]

Seriously though, do you wonder why some posters might behave that way? I wonder what could cause them to do that?

Assassinated - I said earlier that it would be good to hear the answers to that from those who behave that way (ie treat male posters with a higher level of scrutiny / scepticism / cynicism).

Sensi indicated it's because she hates men, so presumably doesn't trust them to present honest arguments. Is that a fair summary?