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To have bought DD a Krispy Kreme?

238 replies

IJustNeedaKitkat · 25/11/2017 17:45

I've been really ill the last few weeks; middle ear infections in both ears, and on Thursday and Friday both ear drums perforated thanks to the infection. I've been in absolute agony and have lost the majority of my hearing.

DH could only take a few days off work when I was really suffering because it's the busiest time of year for his company. But DD has been so good; eating all her food without fuss, playing or watching TV quietly while I snoozed on the sofa when I had no energy, helping me feed the cat by putting the bowl of food that I've filled on the floor as at one point bending down like that made me lightheaded, she's put her toys away without having to be asked repeatedly etc you get the picture.

She's only 2 and a half, and has really really impressed me with her behaviour. I've still got only about a quarter on my hearing (50% in right in, 5% in my left - just a rough guess), but we went shopping today to finish the rest of the Christmas shopping - she has a few extra needs, but didn't play up once; when walking she stayed nearby holding my hand or the pushchair where it was really busy and got into her pushchair without a fuss when I asked her too.

We passed a Krispy Kreme stall on our way in and DD was happy just to look and say "wow". So I bought her one as an extra special treat and told her why - because she's been so well behaved over the last few weeks when mummys been ill and she was well behaved that day. I took a photo to put on Facebook. She chose it herself - a ring donut with milk chocolate glaze and white chocolate sprinkles. It was quite expensive for a donut at £2 something but she deserved it, she even managed until we got home and had had her tea before asking for it.

A friend said it was an awful thing to give a 2 year old they contain a lot of sugar and it'll rot her teeth. She said I'd have been better getting her some normal sweets or a small chocolate bar. I'm usually pretty strict on sugar, she's only allowed water or milk to drink unless we're at my mums or PILs where she's allowed squash. She's allowed sweets and chocolate but I try and limit it to a few times a week and even then it's only something small like a fudge bar or half a kinder egg. I make sure she brushes her teeth in the morning when she gets up and also before she goes to bed at night (apart from the odd time she's fallen asleep in the car and been carried in asleep) and the dentist never has a problem with her teeth when we go. The friend knows this.

But I'm doubting myself, possibly because I'm still taking painkillers every 4 hours and still on quite strong antibiotics to clear the infection which is still lingering. I just wanted DD to know that her good behaviour had been noticed.

So WIBU to buy the donut for a 2 year old?

OP posts:
Battleax · 25/11/2017 17:47

YWBU to post it on FB.

Katinkka · 25/11/2017 17:47

No you weren’t being unreasonable.

MovingOnUpMovingOnOut · 25/11/2017 17:48

Gosh some people need to lighten up. It’s a donut, not crack.

Hope she enjoyed it :)

blueskyinmarch · 25/11/2017 17:48

It was a donut not crack cocaine. It was a lovely treat and not something she has everyday. It was absolutely fine for you to buy it for her.

moobeana · 25/11/2017 17:48

No! They need rewarding just like anyone else. My 2 year old would probably have been given half now and half later, but no not unreasonable!

1 a day, unreasonable.
1 as an occasional treat, totally fine!

PinkHeart5914 · 25/11/2017 17:48

1 doughnut now and then will NOT rot her teeth. Some sugar now and then will NOT rot anyone’s teeth.

Yanbu to buy your own child a cake, tell your friend to fuck off and mind her own business

MovingOnUpMovingOnOut · 25/11/2017 17:48

Post what you like on FB too. Nothing unreasonable about that.

ilovesooty · 25/11/2017 17:49

Buy her what you like and post it where you like. No one else's business.

OrangeCrush19 · 25/11/2017 17:49

YWNBU and your daughter sounds fantastic.

Did you have one too? Apparently they’re excellent for sore ears. Get well soon!

dementedpixie · 25/11/2017 17:49

You're friend sounds like a complete killjoy. Maybe she wanted one too!

fizzicles · 25/11/2017 17:49

Of course YANBU. You are allowed to treat your daughter occasionally and your friend does not need to lecture you.

AdalindSchade · 25/11/2017 17:49

That's a bloody long post about a donut
Don't second guess yourself! It's no big deal. You don't need to have a reason to buy your kid a donut nor do you have to justify it. Ignore your judgemental cow and tryst yourself more.

Nacknick · 25/11/2017 17:49

Of course you're not BU, she sounds like she's been a little star. Tell your friend to mind her own business.

hareagain · 25/11/2017 17:49

Wow

EssentialHummus · 25/11/2017 17:49

Not at all. It sounds like she enjoyed the shop/display and you wanted to treat her. Sounds just fine! Not sure why anyone would take it upon themselves to comment.

Bubblebubblepop · 25/11/2017 17:49

Your friend is rude. Glad you're feeling a little better, sounds awful

dementedpixie · 25/11/2017 17:49

Your*

Battleax · 25/11/2017 17:49

tell your friend to fuck off and mind her own business

OR... just don't post the tiny details of your life on FB for criticism?

IJustNeedaKitkat · 25/11/2017 17:50

Orange Unfortunately didn't get myself one as I bought it at the end of our trip and only have enough change on me for DDs, but next time I'll get myself one.

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MrsAJ27 · 25/11/2017 17:50

No YANBU to buy your DD a doughnut, it was a treat.

SootSprite · 25/11/2017 17:50

The only thing you were unreasonable about is not having bought yourself one too. She sounds like a lovely little girl who has thoroughly earned a treat or two. I hope you feel better soon.

CurlyRover · 25/11/2017 17:51

YANBU to buy her one. It's a one off.

Ignore your friend on this occasion. Of course her teeth aren't going to fall out over one doughnut!!

Hope you feel better soon Flowers

IJustNeedaKitkat · 25/11/2017 17:51

I was posting to show my family and literally captioned it "enjoying a rare treat" but the krispy kreme packaging was in the background.

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ivykaty44 · 25/11/2017 17:52

It’s up to you how you feed your dc

My dd used to live jam donughts and I would get a couple now and then

I just don’t like food being used as ‘treats’ as to me that starts putting symbols on food. This can lead to association which I don’t believe is a good state for brain and food

Each to there own

scaryteacher · 25/11/2017 17:55

Your DD has more restraint than I do. I buy the boxes of 12!! In my defence, I don't live in the UK, and I can only get them when I go back.

I hope she enjoyed every bite; sounds like she deserved it.

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