To show the headteacher this...

[nevertoobigforharibo]

Some of the parents at my child’s school set up a Facebook page for parents of year 6 children to discuss homework/trips/reminders etc. The page is really useful.

Teachers are aware of the page (most year groups have one) and have asked on a recent newsletter that any issues parents may have with regards to class teachers, bullying etc are not discussed and are addressed with the class teacher instead. We all follow these rules.

Today one of the SMSA’s (dinner lady/lunchtime supervisor) at the school posted the following... (I have no idea why she is in the group actually as she doesn’t have a child at the school so she has since been removed from the page)

Post edited by MNHQ so that is is no longer a verbatim account "Dinner lady posted about pupils throwing unwanted food on the floor and their attitude towards her and expecting her to tidy up".

I get the frustration and think the boys involved should be dealt with but I found this really inappropriate.

A couple of parents commented that they felt this was an inappropriate place to post this and the person should go to their manager/headteacher to discuss the incident as she was discussing children (our children!) that she works with. She then replied with ‘I could name the children if I wanted to but haven’t as I want to remain professional.’

I have screenshot her post and comments and mentioned to DP that I’m going to bring it to the headteachers attention but he thinks I should keep out of it.

Any opinions?

I think OP did a very swift turnaround there. There was no sympathy shown for the dinner lady in the original post.
OP wanted to complain about her.
Horrible.
Yes you could say.. but shes realised how wrong that was through comments here.* Im sure thats the whole point of AIBU.. many people get defensive atleast op hasn’t.*

Glad you realise where she is coming from. I'd be talking to my child. Don't take it to the headmaster. Poor woman. Add her back to the group. She sees your kids at school! Priceless!

They can't exclude, can't risk being accused of 'discriminating' and have absolutely NO back up from anywhere when parents start whining to OFSTED

OFSTED don't investigate 'whining' from parents unless it flags a serious issue.

OFSTED don't investigate 'whining' from parents unless it flags a serious issue.

Obviously.
I don't think I mentioned parental whining triggering an investigation.

However, they do take note of all 'complaints'.Parents are also asked their opinion about the school through questionnaires during inspections.

hayli
Yes, very true! I suppose it's cynical of me to think that the back peddling is only to save face.

OFSTED??? have you ever tried to make a complaint to OFSTED. They will not listen to anything. Parent questionnaire - ever filled one in? 4 questions rated on a 1-5 scale, no place for comments or specifics.

Ofsted completely ignored our parents questionnaire just said there was a very small minority of parents who thought there were issues but they needed to be told there weren't (that very small minority was a third of parents and 4 Heads in 4 years might suggest there are issues). Much preferred Head no. 3 who was ousted as they were likely to be downgraded on their Ofsted to the one who ticks all their boxes.

lily With all respect how do you know a 'small minority' was a third of parents?

I find it hard to believe thry would ignore a third of parents being unhappy unless what they were annoyed about was things linked to preference like 'we don't like how thry do uniform' or 'school give detentions and we don't like it because it inconveniences us'.

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Lily might be going by the responses to the questionnaire. You can see how people rated different areas. A third of negative responses to an area would be quite high

Thanks Heidi. Yes you see responses to Ofsted questionnaire online which showed a third choosing the worst option for leadership and governance, also there was a petition with over 100 signatures in it plus lots of complaints. Tbf to Ofsted it maybe they had access to confidential information which showed a reasonable reason for what happened but to say it was a very small minority was ridiculous, the MP, LEA, Dept for Ed all got 40 plus complaints many from multiple parents.