You’re way off the mark if you are calling troll menstrual, at least I’m definitely no sock puppet, I’ve been here a very long time & I’m guessing the OP got frightened off by the presumptuous ott speculation.
I personally don’t find it indefensible either, though my point has also been misconstrued several times over. I will try one more time though & then like the OP I’m out.
IF the OP was talking about the majority of the kids riding in the limo etc & a very small group being left out, then I would actually agree with you all, but they aren’t. The minority of the DCs get the extra party treat. The majority get to go to the laser park or whatever.
In my experience, unless there is bullying involved, which isn’t suggested here. Then DCs actually tend to take stuff like this very much in their stride, (mine certainly has when it’s happened to her). It’s only when parents blow it up about of all proportion & to be all unfair & how awful of the party girl & the DPs to leave you out around their own DCs, that the invitees pick up on that vibe & become upset by it. If DPs are laid back by the lack of full invite & understanding of the reasons why that happens & it’s absolutely nothing to do with their DCs friendship or selves (we don’t all have bottomless pockets & fleets of limos). Then DCs take it in their strides & it’s a non issue. Simple really.
I also agree that limos are tacky as hell, I bet the OP probably does too, but girls this sort of age love tack, the tackier the better & it’s about them, not the adults. I would bet some of the DCs aren’t actually bothered about the limo either, I remember mine thought it silly as it just rode around in circles, so she was unimpressed by the car itself & didn’t see the point, so she was happy to miss out.