My own dd wouldn’t give a shit if she were one of the non limo friends, i genuinely don’t think her peers would give a shit either, but I still wouldn’t allowe my dd to do it. It’s not about resilience.
If she wants to do something special with only her close friends that’s fine. If she wants to do something with not so close friends, also fine. Overlapping the former with the second nit so much.
It kind sounds like the only reason there’s more than her three best friends invited to laser tag is because you have to pay for a minimum of ten children, you don’t want to pay for ten and on,y take five for eg? Or the on,y way dd can do it is if she takes ten, so it was never going to be more that dds three best friends ? If dd wanted cinema for eg would the same children going to laser tag be also going to cinema?
I’d not want to risk other kids or their parents thinking they only invited because you had to pay for ten regardless, so may as well have people there, if she were always going to have these guests as they are close friends then they’d be in plans for other bday activities? I’d feel bad making dd choose between her friends. It’s sounds like if you could pay for just three friends at laser tag, then that’s what you’d have done? If not, and they also her good friends, then why would you consider transport that didnt include them all? If limo is cheap as it’s mates rates then can you not book two and all kids leave to venue from your house? Or the limo takes the other friends home over a few runs?, birthday girl stays in the whole time obv. Sleepover week before or after if she can’t have them all there.
Smaller numbers were all can do everything, or if they have to be divided into groups and some not do limo, then I’d really have that a different weekend.