To exclude some guests from part of DDs birthday celebration?

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DD wants to have a laser tag party for her birthday and there's a minimum of ten children that you have to pay for. I'd like to surprise her with a limo trip there but obviously not everyone can fit in. The limo I'm looking at booking would fit me, her, two of her siblings and three best friends in. I was thinking of having the three best friends over for a sleepover the night before and meeting the other guests at laser tag. But is it unreasonable to exclude some guests in this way do you think?

I am seriously expecting Simon Cowell to turn up at the next X Factor auditions in a Picasso after this thread!

A parent did this at my son's school. (To do with the the girls parents only so I just got to watch in fascination)
Big expensive extravaganza with a and b listers.

They got called into school to be told off for the upset and disruption they had caused. It blew up like a fart on fire.

The following year they had all the girls round for a small bit of cake after school.

I am seriously expecting Simon Cowell to turn up at the next X Factor auditions in a Picasso after this thread!

He'll decide who can have a lift with him by using the 6 Chair Challenge. Louis will have to walk. Luckily he is resilient.

Let the others go home after the laser tag, then the limo picks up the ones coming for sleepover

*Let the others go home after the laser tag, then the limo picks up the ones coming for sleepover

That's even worse. Who would actually do such a cunty thing?

Why is it cunty? Not everyone can go

I wonder how many people here saying "no two-tiers for guests" think evening-only invites for weddings are okay?

This is a non-starter, surely?

So many reasons:

1. it is very mean spirited
2. it teaches your dd and the other kids very poor life lessons and even more poor manners.
3. I would be worried about the number of no shows from the B list.
4. what if the B listers actually group together and start picking on your dd?

An evening only wedding invite is at least transparent. The OP said in an earlier post that they would arrive in the limo before the other guests arrived so they wouldn't see, but the limo ride would get mentioned. Understandably so as they'd be excited. But it wouldn't to me seem like the best start to the party.

I wouldn't want to do a sleepover ever the night before to try and avoid overtired and grumpy children for the party itself. I think delaying the sleepover by a week then using the limo then for a drive around and then drop-off would be the way to go.

I also don't like two tier wedding invitations. I think they're bad manners.

Oh maaaaaaaan, please don't do it! Friendships are so fragile at this age, it really throws the cat amongst the pidgeons at a time when being invited to this sort of thing is kind of a big deal.

I’ve had many wedding invites for the evening reception only for work colleagues, friends from an activity/club, extended family and I have no problem with it. I’m an adult and appreciate the invite that has been given. These are 10 year old children.

you wouldn't do this kind of party as an adult (activities aside, i mean the two tier part), so it's not good to teach children that its okay, IMO anyway.

i can't imagine now having 5 friends over for dinner and then 4 more join after for a party for example. all or nothing or separate nights

All sounds rather tacky and OTT to me. Two tier guests for a 10 year olds limo- sleepover party? I'd can that and just go with the laser tag.

I also don't like two tier wedding invitations. I think they're bad manners

They are the norm for many cultures, so calling that bad manners IS bad manners.

I wonder how many people here saying "no two-tiers for guests" think evening-only invites for weddings are okay?

Totally different thing. And children are not adults.

So OP, what are you going to do?

Just wait til you have to deal with your dd friends fallout when the b listers dont want to play with or socialize with her and gets exculed from parties (b listers parents will most likely treat your dd like you treated there child aka have a party then make your dd go home while rest to the best bits or simply not bother to invite her)

If your plan is the cul her friendship circle its a great plan if not dont do it.

Really rude and poor form OP, especially with girls aged 9/10.

Imagine turning up to what you thought was a party and finding out you're only invited to the end bit.

Ditch the limo and do the sleepover another time.

Absolutely no.

Rude to other guests.

Do it another time.

Evening invitations for weddings are fine so long as it's still a bloody good party. Also they're for LOADS of people, not 5 young children.

'And a Limo that only takes 7 passengers - Thats a Piccasso.'

Do the limo on a separate day together.

I had a meal for DD on one day and she did Segway with her closer friends another day.

At £40 a head, paying for 8 children was already a lot and we didn't have more car space.

If it happens after her party... they won't be taking about it at the laser tag.

Do people really think 10 year olds give a flying fuck if middle aged people think a limo is tacky? Virtually everything kids like is tacky, that's the fun of it!

^^This

It's quite rude saying it's tacky actually.

16 year olds have limos... nothing tacky about it. Sounds more like jealousy to me.

Absolutely do not do this. Really bad manners IMO.