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To suddenly find DH really annoying and smelly

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halloweenpumpkincametotea · 26/10/2017 20:50

Don't know what's happened. I love him. We've had a great relationship for the last 10 years. But for the last week I can barely look at him. He chews loudly, farts, is sweaty, is very very boring, always moans and looks so miserable.

What the hell is going on???? Why am i suddenly seeing all this stuff and not the gorgeous man I love? I just want to get back to how I used to feel about him up til last week! He hasn't changed - pretty sure his chewing style etc.. have always been the same, but suddenly it's jut all really annoying me and turning me off :(

Has this happened to anyone else? Will I click back to my normal self soon?

Help! (I am genuinely actually a bit stressed about this. We have dc's and I do love him)

OP posts:
FaithEverPresent · 26/10/2017 22:39

My first thought was hormones...pregnancy, PMS or yes, perimenopausal. My sense of smell was through the roof during pregnancy. I am extremely huffy with (not so D)H the week before AF is due when he is intensely irritating.

I’ve just remembered a pregnancy thing. Had my 12 week scan and waited for ages to see a doctor afterwards. We were both hangry, I still had morning sickness. I sent him to the shop to get food because he was annoying me so much I wanted to take my shoe off just to have something to throw at his head to make him shut up! (Er, no DHs were harmed during this incidence).

IfYouGoDownToTheWoodsToday · 26/10/2017 22:39

I feel exactly the same about 3 days a month, just before my period.

Dh is aware and doesn’t take offence when I tell him every month that I think we need to separate.Hmm I actually love him to bits Grin

FairyDogMother11 · 26/10/2017 22:46

I get irrationally angry by the way DP does everything the day before my period! His mere presence is enough to send me into a furious rage. I love him so so much and usually can't keep my hands off him, I couldn't ask for a better partner. It's only ever that one day a month that I feel like a monster towards him (luckily!) Grin

ZigZagIntoTheBlue · 26/10/2017 22:49

Have you sent not so d h out for a test??

BuzzKillington · 26/10/2017 23:08

My dh is perfect and I want to murder him for about 5 days a month.

I thought this was normal.

randomuntrainedcuntowner · 26/10/2017 23:15

Are you pregnant?

Maursh · 27/10/2017 04:48

The other possibility is that his smell has changed....some illnesses do this.

LiquoricePickle · 27/10/2017 04:49

I immediately thought pregnant too!

Kokeshi123 · 27/10/2017 05:09

Did you recently change your birth control method? Hormonal birth control can influence the way you feel about your partner's smells.

Elllicam · 27/10/2017 05:20

I also thought pregnant :) let us know OP.

hiddley · 27/10/2017 05:24

Sounds like me on a good day lol

kaytee87 · 27/10/2017 05:38

I thought pregnant too

picklemepopcorn · 27/10/2017 06:34

Could he be getting less inhibited with age and actually smellier and noisier?

I swear my DH has gradually forgotten all the manners his mother ever taught him. He's cheery, but be sits at the table grinning like a loon, slurping, chomping and waving his cutlery around.

zebedebe · 27/10/2017 06:41

Have you not had sex in a while? I find when I go through gaps without doing it with my DH I do start to find loads of things about him very annoying.

Tensecondrule · 27/10/2017 06:47

Well this is very interesting! I’ve felt the same on and off for the last 12 months or so and I’m definitely peri menopausal. Things he’s always done now make me want to stab him 😐

derxa · 27/10/2017 07:01

He's cheery, but be sits at the table grinning like a loon, slurping, chomping and waving his cutlery around. pickle Grin

That made me laugh.

justkeeponsmiling · 27/10/2017 07:02

I also thing pregnant Grin

frumpety · 27/10/2017 07:17

Just checking , this peri menopausal malarkey , when does it normally kick in ? Have developed a unfounded loathing of DH Hmm Would be relieved if it is hormone related !

Nannyplumssillyoldelf · 27/10/2017 07:20

I get like this when I'm pre menstrual.

Sassenach85 · 27/10/2017 07:24

I need to know now ... 😂

StickThatInYourPipe · 27/10/2017 07:30

I really need to knownif your pregnant or premenopausal now! Good luck op!

WHATISTHISNIGHTMARE · 27/10/2017 07:34

I am perimenopausal - is that why I can't stand anyone on the tube and had to move away from the person EATING CRISPS Angry?

Sent this text to my sister yesterday:

"I feel intolerant towards everybody and everything on the train. Think I must he a horrible person."

I am glad to know there might be an explanation. The people putting on make up, eating, talking too loudly, REPEATEDLY TAPPING THEIR HANDS IN A RHYTHM RIGHT NEXT TO ME Angry, they all give me the rage.

It's not a nice feeling and I was worried I was turning into scrooge.

thegirlupnorth · 27/10/2017 07:37

I used to be like this, I called it my one week of the month where everything got on my tits and I couldn't cope, the other three weeks were fine, fecking hormones.

Snapodile · 27/10/2017 07:49

Just a thought - has your DH recently had a change in medication? My DH changed his steroids once, and he stank.
I realise this doesn't explain the other annoyances.

PeriPostwoman · 27/10/2017 08:20

I have found my people. My dh was brought up well yet his eating merrily chomping and way to speak or do things is so off-putting to me. I am peri-menopausal and now wonder if it is hormones and not him.