To suddenly find DH really annoying and smelly

[halloweenpumpkincametotea]

Don't know what's happened. I love him. We've had a great relationship for the last 10 years. But for the last week I can barely look at him. He chews loudly, farts, is sweaty, is very very boring, always moans and looks so miserable.

What the hell is going on???? Why am i suddenly seeing all this stuff and not the gorgeous man I love? I just want to get back to how I used to feel about him up til last week! He hasn't changed - pretty sure his chewing style etc.. have always been the same, but suddenly it's jut all really annoying me and turning me off :(

Has this happened to anyone else? Will I click back to my normal self soon?

Help! (I am genuinely actually a bit stressed about this. We have dc's and I do love him)

My first thought too was...pregnant. Or peri menopausal.

Pregnant or menopause.

I had early menopause and it was hellish, but your symptoms sound exactly the same as mine were. I expected mine because it was a result of an op, but you might want to see your doctor about yours.

He chews loudly, farts, is sweaty, is very very boring, always moans and looks so miserable.

I think you're just seeing him clearly. Did you really never notice those things before?

I hated my DP during Pregnancy, especially his smell so that is a strong contender. I haveny experienced pre-menopause yet so no idea if it is similar.

Pregnant was my first thought.

That’s exactly how I felt towards dh, lasted through full pregnancy! 3 weeks postpartum and still the same 🤦🏻‍♀️

Pregnant was my first thought too ...

Just remember you are not all that, you also fart, chews, etc etc but he still loves you.

I thought pregnant too

Also think pregnant I'm 18 weeks pregnant and my husband hasn't been allowed to touch me or breathe near me in three months

Another one who thought pregnant! I couldn't stand my DH when I was pregnant... he used to breathe near me when I was trying to sleep!

I go through phases of finding DH annoying or intolerable for extremely petty reasons. Then I reflect on just how fucking annoying I am a lot of the time, and start viewing him with a strange combination of pity (because he has to put up with me) and respect (because he rarely lets on how frustrating it is living with me, whereas I’m far less tolerant).

I am genuinely wondering whether she's pregnant or menopausal?

Am I also pregnant (no, my Dh just annoys me, but this is fascinating)

Maybe you have just gone off him.

I was thinking PMS :)

Sorry to derail....but is finding your partner irritating a sign of pregnancy? I’ve never heard that, I can’t believe how many people have suggested it

@reasonablellama I think just being irritable is, but they tend to be the brunt of it because they stink and annoying because you see them all the time!

My DP has been a bit smelly lately. Hope I'm not pregnant again.

We need an update!!!

It sounds as if you married a man.
The real question is why you didn't notice all of this before...

Yes LLama. Your sense of smell is more heightened in pregnancy so you don't poison yourself and your baby by eating rotten food. So your partner smells different. As does coffee. Bleurgh.

I’ve never seen POAS before but I recognised what it meant immediately.

I fear I am spending too much time on mumsnet.

I get really irritated by dh regularly. We've been together years. It comes and goes though. I just avoid him for a while.

Could you at least get him some decent deodorant and turn the heating down? I couldn't cope with the excessive sweatiness.

Thanks for all the replies everyone! I'll let u know if pregnant!! but suspect not!! (not been too much opportunity!!! .. but maybe!!!) could b the perimenopause - that could perhaps also explain later (maybe missed) time of the month!!!

Anyway, if I was a right grump when I started this post, I'm not now!!! You have all made me laugh sooo much!!!!

I'll try to let u know if I get to the bottom of it!!!

(Thanks Acrossthepond55, hopefully this feeling will go as quickly as it's come! I do love him. No underlying probs with the marriage I think. Despite the fun on here! (And I'm definitely laughing along ) I am genuinely a bit stressed about it! because I do love him!)

Ps. To those pointing out I'm no saint either! ... yes this is v v true!!! :)