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Do I need to cancel my wedding?

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Haggishappens · 26/10/2017 18:30

FIL has cancer, diagnosed 4 weeks ago as untreatable and there's nothing they can do, he was given 4-8 months.

We were due to get married in April but obviously moved the wedding forward as fast as we could, which was to this weekend.

Problem is, in the last 48 hours FIL has gone from fully functioning to bed bound and a bit confused. He's lost the strength in his legs completely and he's very weak.

DP wants the wedding to go ahead but I'm not sure if we should cancel?

FIL probably won't be well enough to attend and the whole reason for moving it forward was so he could be there Sad

Haven't spoken to MIL about it as they have much much more important things to think about, so should we cancel or go ahead? What if he doesn't make it? How do you even cancel a wedding at this stage?

Help Sad

OP posts:
ghostyslovesheets · 30/10/2017 08:16

Congratulations Flowers

Whinesalot · 30/10/2017 08:24

That is such a lively photo. I bet fil was so pleased that he managed to attend.

Whinesalot · 30/10/2017 08:24

Lovely even

maddiemookins16mum · 30/10/2017 08:30

Awww, what a lovely post for a Monday morning. Congratulations.

Candlelight234 · 30/10/2017 08:30

Congratulations and what a lovely picture x

JenniferYellowHat1980 · 30/10/2017 08:34

Congratulations OP. I was going to suggest a course of steroids from the GP which got my DM through my DB’s wedding but obviously no need. Might be worth bearing in mind for another time though.

GinIsIn · 30/10/2017 08:36

Congratulations, Mrs!!

wobblywonderwoman · 30/10/2017 08:38

Congratulations xxxx

Mittens1969 · 30/10/2017 08:39

Congratulations, OP. Flowers

bluebell34567 · 30/10/2017 08:40

Congratulations! what a beautiful picture!

Kleptronic · 30/10/2017 08:40

Congratulations Flowers

CandyMelts · 30/10/2017 08:44

So pleased for you, few little tears here - I'm so pleased you could celebrate together Flowers

PoppyPopcorn · 30/10/2017 08:47

This is lovely. Just goes to show in a world of tacky poems asking for money and families falling out over wedding seating plans that there are some people who have a clear vision of what's really important and shift heaven and earth to make it happen.

Congratulations Haggis and Mr Haggis and wishing you both a long and happy marriage.

LittleLights · 30/10/2017 08:50

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OnlyToday · 30/10/2017 08:52

Fab photo. Congrats and I'm pleased for everyone that your FIL could attend. 🌺🌺🌺

Lukeandlorelai4Ever · 30/10/2017 08:52

Congrats!

Summerswallow · 30/10/2017 08:55

So pleased for you, lovely photo!

CotswoldStrife · 30/10/2017 08:55

Congratulations, you look absolutely stunning and I'm glad you had a wonderful day.

Ilovewillow · 30/10/2017 08:56

Late to the thread but many congratulations, you both look fab! I’m sure your MIL and FIL have so many happy memories! Flowers

Doilooklikeatourist · 30/10/2017 09:00

Exactly what PoppyPocorn said
Congratulations Mrs Haggis

CryingMessFFS · 30/10/2017 09:03

Congratulations! It’s so fantastic that your FIL was able to be there Flowers

TheWhyteRoseShallRiseAgain · 30/10/2017 09:04

Congratulations MrsHaggisHappens what a beautiful photo and I'm so glad FIL was well enough. Wishing you a very happy marriage Flowers

ReeOkAh · 30/10/2017 09:04

Congratulations! What a fabulous photograph. Flowers

Ninjakittysmells · 30/10/2017 09:06

Oh! Gorgeous photo, so pleased he made it and you all had a wonderful day. Congratulations!

redshoeblueshoe · 30/10/2017 09:14

Congratulations MrsHaggis Flowers Cake Wine
What a beautiful photo

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