Do I need to cancel my wedding?

[Haggishappens]

FIL has cancer, diagnosed 4 weeks ago as untreatable and there's nothing they can do, he was given 4-8 months.

We were due to get married in April but obviously moved the wedding forward as fast as we could, which was to this weekend.

Problem is, in the last 48 hours FIL has gone from fully functioning to bed bound and a bit confused. He's lost the strength in his legs completely and he's very weak.

DP wants the wedding to go ahead but I'm not sure if we should cancel?

FIL probably won't be well enough to attend and the whole reason for moving it forward was so he could be there

Haven't spoken to MIL about it as they have much much more important things to think about, so should we cancel or go ahead? What if he doesn't make it? How do you even cancel a wedding at this stage?

Help

Best wishes for your wedding day-you deserve a wonderful day after the stress you all have been through in the lead up to it.

What a stressful situation all round, but I hope you have as a lovely a day as possible and that your FIL gets there.

(Just a thought - they've probably already covered this with his doctors but my dad suddenly got weak and confused last week and it was a simple urine infection.)

Hope you have a truly lovely day.

I hope your FIL manages to come. What a lovely thoughtful person you are for wanting to cancel to lessen the stress for your DP and in laws.

I hope you have a beautiful wedding day.

Good luck and hope FIL can manage to come xx

Oh Haggis i really hope FIL makes it and you have a lovely day.

I hope you have a lovely day and the happiness overcomes any sadness.

I think fil, although can’t be there, would be happier dying knowing he lived long enough to see you as a married couple (rather than actually seeing the actual service). Have a lovely day and spend time with fil after. I think I’d postpone honeymoon

Fingers crossed fil can make it. What a horrible situation for you all. Hope your dp will be ok - it’s very sad all round but I’m sure your fil will be delighted that you went ahead.

Enjoy the day as much as you can. It will be bittersweet.

Go ahead with it. I lost my mum in June to cancer. There were so many emergencies and false alarms along the way. If we'd cancelled stuff every time we'd never have done anything. Best thing is to carry on as best you can - and since your DP wants to go ahead, this might be his way of coping. Sorry you're going through this.

I hope you all have a magical day and FIL gets to see you both married. I will be thinking of you all

I hope you have fabulous wedding day and all does well for all of you

Happy wedding day OP

I hope today is filled with joy

Happy wedding day! You've made the right decision

Best wishes on your wedding day, hope it is filled with special memories for your family

Sending lots of wedding

Happy Wedding Day!

I hope your FIL makes it and you have a truly lovely day.

Haggis

What a difficult situation you are all in. I hope you manage to make your day special. Congratulations on your wedding day.

Congratulations on your wedding day and with best wishes to you, your DP and your PILs

Congratulations! I hope the day works out beautifully for you all.

for you all.