....to not invite this girl to my daughter's party because she's a nightmare!!!

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This is so tricky! And all this is new to me so any advice would be great.
My daughter has been friends with a girl called Rose (made up name) for two years. They are both 4. There's a group of kids who have been close since nursery & they have all started school & are in the same class.
Have never been very close to Rose's mum but the girls occasionally meet up at weekends .... Or used to...
Since starting school, Rose has become a bit of a nightmare. According to my daughter, none of the group want to play with her, she hits, shouts, pushes, doesn't listen and is really naughty (all told to me by my daughter & the other kids) and they often tell the teacher .... I've seen Rose doing all of this before & after school.
My daughter is refusing to have her at her birthday party which is really soon & won't invite her. The mum texted to ask what's happening for my daughters birthday...
What would you do?
AIBU to ask the mum if everything is ok at home & mention Rose's behaviour in a gentle & considerate way? And then explain that my daughter doesn't want her at the party? Arghhhhh! Don't want to upset anyone.

Yay great news!

I remember a child aged 5 being excluded from a whole class party in my then KS1 class.
I tried to persuade the mum of birthday child to reconsider but she was adamant that no invite would be forthcoming.
The exiled child was rather outspoken and very clever ,used to adult company.
Her heartbreak (and her mum's )at being left out was very poignant and imo completely avoidable.
This was 20 years ago and I still remember her reaction and my helplessness-I couldn't insist on the invitation but it was shameful and spiteful of the birthday child's parent.🤢

If its 4 or 5 friends being in invited you should be able to set a budget, stick to it and be vague and tactful. If there is only a few girls in the class or it was a whole class thing she either gets invited or you change your plans altogether as she can't be the only one or the only girl not invited.

No ones going to thank you @PamZdzinski for reviving a two year dead zombie thread for irrelevant and fat phobic maundering.

I had to work out why this had been revived...and it was really for that???
Ok....moving on......

Lol 🧟‍♀️ thread!
Now they are 7, I wonder what the situation is now?

For a party invitation, we have one rule, if you went to there party we invite them to yours. I don't think I've never done a whole class party but we would have had a whole class rule too. If you are only inviting 5/6 girls and tour sure Rose isn't being bullied your daughter gets to pick who comes. If this thread had made you think a bit then invite Rose and see what the problem is.