**Trigger Warning - sensitive subject Title edited by MNHQ** I am absolutely heartbroken and I need to know I'm not being unreasonable to end a friendship *Very sensitive subject*

[PhDPepper]

I had a molar pregnancy this year and it was fucking awful. I’ve seen a ‘friend’ today in the street and she completely blanked me. I messaged her when I got home and asked what was wrong.

And I got back a tirade of abuse about how I’d had an abortion and killed my baby and that if I never got pregnant again it would be karma.

I did have a D&C to remove the molar pregnancy but it wasn’t a baby, it was a complete molar pregnancy with no genetic tissue. It fucking broke me to have that operation but I’ve never considered it to be an abortion.

I have not replied as it’s totally flawed me, but I need to know im not being unreasonable to tell her to go fuck herself

Oh, and then block her obviously. Even if it hadn't been a molar pregnancy that's still not the way that friends talk to one another. I'm really sorry you've had to put up with this after all you have been through.

Awful, just awful behaviour from her. Inexcusable.

Ridiculous that she has seen your post about molar pregnancy and STILL spouts this nonsense. Complete brainless idiot.

But who in hell sets up a FB support Group about such a sensitive subject and doesn’t make it secret or closed??!! Really poor Admin there too.

F-ing hell. Your so called friend is an absolute fuckwitted cunt. Sorry but I'm so angry and upset for you.

I think Hmmmhashtag has a perfect response.

OP. for you and anything else you need right now. Adding to the complete slating of the woman and her weak social and thinking skills. I hope you're doing ok following the d&c as I had infections etc.
Send her a link to mn and this thread. Because fuck her x

@Rednailsandnaeknickers I know. I was so gutted when I realised, apparently the groups privacy was updated when Facebook updated? I left the group almost immediately after finding out it was public (after getting a ton of messages)

You poor thing OP I cannot imagine how awful things have been for you. Finding out pregnancy was molar, and then having to abort- you have to what the hell were you meant to do?!!!

You are better off without this fuckwit in your life. There is no excuse for such abhorrent behaviour, even if it had been a 'normal' pregnancy and you'd had an abortion. Friends are there for you when times are hard. This woman seems to want to make things worse. She should go fuck herself.

I hope that you are healing OP.

It's totally FLOORED you, not flawed you

ooohlalalala in this whole upsetting story, that's the one thing you think most appropriate to comment on??? Really?

Op, Yanbu to tell her to fuck herself. So sorry for what you've been through x

"You do know that in a molar pregnancy there is no baby?"

Then block.

What an unpleasant piece of work she is.

Firstly sorry for your trauma. Please do text her as per other OP have suggested calling her out on this. I.e googling what a Molar Pregnancy is and then block her. For me, id need that last word, that last confirmation etc to move on swiftly. You may be different but I'd need to put the record very firmly straight then once I had done that move on. Otherwise there would be no guarantee there was a 'misunderstanding' or lack of knowledge or misinformation etc before I could move on.

Gincision I think the posted was trying to say that "flawed" means "made imperfect", and that she was anxious that, given the circumstances, Pepper should not see herself as imperfect.

@flakebook has it spot on

If that's the case Balloonslayer then apologies to Ooohlalalala. It read as though they were being a grammar and spelling twat, which I didn't think the op needed...

Agree with @Flakebook.

So sorry, OP. Talk about adding insult to injury. Could you ask a mutual friend to educate her and make her understand just what she’s done, by proxy? Then you and your dh don’t have to dignify it with a direct response.

I hope the takeaway is fantastic

Just thinking more about this, have you fallen out with her before? It’s such an odd response, even for the most staunch prolifer! Like she is being deliberately ignorant to MAKE you fall out with her!

Normally I’d say ignore and block but in this she needs to be told. Sorry OP you are having to deal with this.

It's totally FLOORED you, not flawed you. You're well rid of this person.

Whereas someone who makes a point of correcting someone in such an emotive post is a positive influence?! Take a look at yourself before you criticise others.

I’d send her the following:

Before you judge somebody you really should educate yourself. For your information a molar pregnancy is a disease not a foetus. You can’t abort a baby that doesn’t even exist. www.miscarriageassociation.org.uk/information/molar-pregnancy/
I just hope that you never have to experience what I went through and endure abuse from completely ignorant and spiteful people.

First, I am sorry for your loss, as for that "friend" Shame on her! She seriously lacks any empathy and understanding. You are well rid of her.

So sorry for your loss. She sounds a cruel fool, and you are well shot of her!

Sorry for what happened to you op. That is very sad and difficult for you. This person is in no way your friend. What an absolutely horrible thing to say to you.

Not the action of a friend. You deserve compassion and support.

I’m sorry you’ve had to go through both a molar pregnancy, and deal with such an ignorant and insensitive attitude. I had a molar pregnancy three years ago. I found that, because it is so rare, people were even less familiar with how to deal with it. They didn’t understand all the additional treatments and potential challenges and side effects associated with a molar pregnancy. It sounds to me, however, that this person is actually wilfully ignorant, as well as judgemental and foolish, so best that she fuck right off, really.

I know that you will be waiting for the effects of the chemo to leave your system but, should you choose to try again for a baby, I hope it will give you some hope to know that I managed to conceive quite quickly once I was given permission, and actually had twins! I was so worried that I would have to go through the whole thing again, but fortunately it is just a memory now. Sending you lots of strength.

In this case I would reply, because she's being an ignorant spiteful cunt and she needs to know that And then tell her to fuck off.

@TitusAndromedon thank you so much! That’s so good to hear, I think we might wait a few years before trying again it was just so traumatic

Perhaps . It might be a good idea if your DH spoke to her?. I can't help wondering if she has the whole story. I'm quite anti abortion but I'll add for the right reasons but this woman's reaction and behavior does seem to be rather or very extreme. What was she like before this incident may I ask.

Also. Please don't be too harsh with medical students they too have to learn to understand and it is quite a rather rare occurrence one which they'll rarely see..