**Trigger Warning - sensitive subject Title edited by MNHQ** I am absolutely heartbroken and I need to know I'm not being unreasonable to end a friendship *Very sensitive subject*

[PhDPepper]

I had a molar pregnancy this year and it was fucking awful. I’ve seen a ‘friend’ today in the street and she completely blanked me. I messaged her when I got home and asked what was wrong.

And I got back a tirade of abuse about how I’d had an abortion and killed my baby and that if I never got pregnant again it would be karma.

I did have a D&C to remove the molar pregnancy but it wasn’t a baby, it was a complete molar pregnancy with no genetic tissue. It fucking broke me to have that operation but I’ve never considered it to be an abortion.

I have not replied as it’s totally flawed me, but I need to know im not being unreasonable to tell her to go fuck herself

Set the cow straight. Tell her to google Molar Pregnancy, even better send her a link. Then tell her to google 'shit friend' and block. Sorry for what you've gone through.

She is both seriously callous and seriously stupid. Not a friend you need. So sorry you had to go through this.

Don't block her without first having a right go at her or she'll never learn. What an absolute arse of a woman. You poor thing.

That is vile OP, but you know YANBU. What a horrible cow.

Why did she assume you had an abortion?!

Avoid avoid avoid!

Hope you are OK. Sorry to hear about what happened.

This is not a friendship. Find someone nice to talk to. I'm really sorry you were friends with a nasty person and for your hard time.

I am afraid I would have to text her "You clearly have no idea what a molar pregnancy is. I suggest you educate yourself (have you heard of Google?) and dont bother contacting me again when you realise what a complete fucking idiot you have made of yourself."

@PhDpepper that sounds like a horrendous experience. I'm so sorry you had to go through that. thank you for explaining.

I stand by my opinion that you need to get her the fuck out of your life xx

Exactly what BatBelle said.
Your well rid of such a toxic person.

Dear Judgemental Bitch, my pregnancy was a molar pregnancy. (Then use your explanation above). The only thing I have aborted recently is our friendship and good riddance to that.

Ps

No point in texting abuse.

I'd just text back:

You are mistaken, I did not have an abortion.

And then cut her off forever.

Even if you had an abortion, she is supposed to be a friend, that of course does mean that she will tell you the truth, and sometimes that truth is hard to hear, however in this case, where was at least the text / e-mail to you when she found out that you had an "abortion", either to say "I'm sorry but I don't believe women have a right to choose, and so I'm going to not contact you again" or "I hear you had to make a choice, are you okay? Do you want to talk?". If she's so convinced it was an abortion, how come she magically knows it wasn't a product of rape? She's either petty minded, or she wants a child, but hasn't been able to have one for whatever reason. In either case, not your issue.

I personally think she needs to be educated before she’s blocked.

She shouldn’t think badly of you and she should know that what she has said and done is totally wrong and she needs to feel bad for that.

If anything, just so she doesn’t bloody to it to anyone else.

Tell her what you told us, then block the bastard.

Firstly, what an awful thing for you to have gone through. I hope you have support to help you recover.
Second, what a horrible person your "friend" is. Obviously she is totally ignorant & the post re her doing you a favour is spot on. If I were you I'd message her & tell her what happened (a shortened version) & then say, " Never contact me again", & block her.

Fucking hell what an absolutely awful thing to think, let alone text. Judgemental cow.

I'm so sorry to hear what you've been through OP. Please don't let this ex-friend upset yuo too much. She really isn't worth the steam off your piss

I think 'fuck off' is the only appropriate response here.

Sorry OP.

Firstly I'm so heartily sorry for you loss..
Please do not use the fact that she took a while to conceive as an excuse for her sickening twisted behavior That's not your doing, op. Plus She's got her baby now.
YA 110% NBU to tell her to go and fuck herself.

Unbelievable. YANBU at all. She's an idiot and deserves a piece of your mind after that.

I'd message back:

There was no baby. I had a molar pregnancy. Google it. And understand that I am blocking you now for being a nasty insensitive cow.

Maybe text her the link and shame her it awful behaviour I am so sorry for your loss

I agree with PP, whilst it’s not your job to educate her there is no way I would not tell her what a ducking idiot she is and include a link to NHS website on molar pregnancies. Look after yourself OP

What if you'd actually needed an abortion? What a fucking awful person. I would do as pp's suggest and tell her what a molar pregnancy is and then ignore her forever.

I wouldnt bother with her again tbh i know what a molar pregnancy is but regardless she shouldn't have judged you even if you had aborted for whatever reason for you ,you have been through an awful time you don't need idiots like her in your life .

Wow. She's not your problem, I wouldn't deign to explain myself to her. Block and move on.

I'm so sorry you've had a molar pregnancy.

I personally think she needs to be educated before she’s blocked.

^ This. I hadn't heard of this before this thread and having read about it I can only imagine how awful it must have been for you. No one with genuine empathy would judge someone for an abortion as you never know the reason for one (and even if you did, bodily autonomy tells us that it is no ones business other than your own). In your case it wasn't even an abortion, which make her comments even more abhorrent (if that is even possible).

Educate her. But the friendship is over.