**Trigger Warning - sensitive subject Title edited by MNHQ** I am absolutely heartbroken and I need to know I'm not being unreasonable to end a friendship *Very sensitive subject*

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I had a molar pregnancy this year and it was fucking awful. I’ve seen a ‘friend’ today in the street and she completely blanked me. I messaged her when I got home and asked what was wrong.

And I got back a tirade of abuse about how I’d had an abortion and killed my baby and that if I never got pregnant again it would be karma.

I did have a D&C to remove the molar pregnancy but it wasn’t a baby, it was a complete molar pregnancy with no genetic tissue. It fucking broke me to have that operation but I’ve never considered it to be an abortion.

I have not replied as it’s totally flawed me, but I need to know im not being unreasonable to tell her to go fuck herself

No do it. Shes no friend of yours. Even if it was an abortion its none of her damn business.

No yanbu at all.
Im so sorry, this is no friend.
Even if you had had an abortion no real friend would say this too you!
Im afraid id screw the upper hand and tell her to go fuck herself.

She is very, very, very stupid. But hey, she's done you a favour, and now you can carry on with your life minus a shit friend.

And besides, even if you'd terminated a normal pregnancy, that too would have been none of her fucking business.

She is an absolute twat and has no idea what she’s going on about. I would cut all ties forthwith!

She sounds like she has other issues-does she have fertility problems at all?

It wasn’t a baby but maybe she doesn’t understand that? Have you been able to explain? Not that you should have to anyway.

How dare she? I'd be furious and that would be the end of the friendship for me.

I’m so sorry I’ve asked mumsnet to edit the title to say sensitve subject

I am so sorry for your loss

This woman is no friend of yours. Ignore her. Your true friends will support you

YANBU at all!

I'm so sorry this has happened (both molar pregnancy and friend). A real friend would be supporting you through the loss of the pregnancy not judging you based on ignorance!

Tell her to google it and never contact you again.

YANBU. Sorry for your loss

Your friend is a twat. And she would still be massively out of order even if you had had an abortion.

Wow, just wow.

She sounds callous and cruel at worst and ignorant at best.

Either way...don't waste any time or head space on her.

I would message her and tell her that you didn't have an abortion - there never was a baby as that it was a molar pregnancy.

Then add that she's shown herself to be an absolutely disgusting person and to never contact you again.

She’s got a baby. Think it might have taken a while to conceive. I think I might just block her and leave it at that

Your former friend is a thick, judgemental knobhead.

What an awful woman. Definitely cut her out. How on earth can she talk about Karma?

She obviously has no idea what a molar pregnancy is -or is just a cruel bitch.
I'm so sorry OP . It must be incredibly painful and you don't have to explain yourself to anyone.

Not much of a 'friend' is she?
That's the last thing you need, some judgemental twat who thinks she knows what you've been through, when she clearly doesn't have a clue.
Cut her off - there are much better people out there.

I don't know what a molar pregnancy is, but she sounds like an absolute arsehole and your life will be better without her in it.

Is it too early for ? I want to write back but it’s over, I know that.

I'd tell her to educate herself then block her. Stupid woman, in every sense of the word. Not that she would have any reason to be so nasty to someone who has had a termination, none of her business to judge! You know now how horrible a person she is, though one less friend in such a difficult time must be tough. I'm sorry for what you're going through, please be kind to yourself and don't give her another second of your thoughts.

@Ummmmgogo a complete molar pregnancy is where an egg with no dna is fertilised and grows like a cancer. It looks like snow on the 12 week scan, hcg of over 1million and awful symptoms.

A partial molar pregnancy is where 1 egg is fertilised by 2 sperm so it can be the placenta that grows like a cancer

I’d tell her to google what a molar pregnancy is, then go fuck herself, then I’d block the bitch

for you

She is very, very, very stupid. But hey, she's done you a favour, and now you can carry on with your life minus a shit friend

^^ This...

I would still send her a message saying "have you any fucking idea what a molar pregnancy is?" Then block her.

She is a bloody idiot.