**Trigger Warning - sensitive subject Title edited by MNHQ** I am absolutely heartbroken and I need to know I'm not being unreasonable to end a friendship *Very sensitive subject*

[PhDPepper]

I had a molar pregnancy this year and it was fucking awful. I’ve seen a ‘friend’ today in the street and she completely blanked me. I messaged her when I got home and asked what was wrong.

And I got back a tirade of abuse about how I’d had an abortion and killed my baby and that if I never got pregnant again it would be karma.

I did have a D&C to remove the molar pregnancy but it wasn’t a baby, it was a complete molar pregnancy with no genetic tissue. It fucking broke me to have that operation but I’ve never considered it to be an abortion.

I have not replied as it’s totally flawed me, but I need to know im not being unreasonable to tell her to go fuck herself

First of all I'm so sorry for all you have had to got through.
I think you should absolutely send her a link re the molar pregnancy and then block her.
She is totally ignorant, unfeeling and stupid - So sorry for you again.
PS - It's certainly not too early for or now. xxx

Cut her off OP - 1) she is clearly uninformed and has no understanding of the biology of such situations 2) she showed you zero compassion after you've have a hellish time.

She's not your friend, she's not worth your time and effort. As hard as it might be to accept, you don't need such people dragging you down.

Sorry for all your difficulties

I agree, id text back 'molar pregnancy not abortion, google it and get the fuck out of my life'

You deserve better x

Friend ? nope , just someone you used to be nice to until you realised what a massive cunt she was ! Send her a link to molar pregnancy then block her sharpish , let her stew in her own fetid juices .

And I bet she has taken the MAP at least once in her lifetime , but chooses to ignore that , as she is a special Mamma to her ickle bubba now

Your 'friend' is a loon. Clearly she has no idea what she's on about.
Also even if you had had an abortion what business would she have commenting on it anyway?
She's not a nice person and you are well rid.
Hope you are ok op-horrible thing to go through and you didn't need this too.

A lot more compassion she'd be a narcissist

What an ignorant insensitive person
Maybe you should tell her to google the difference between a molar pregnancy and an abortion

I'm sorry for you loss btw

So sorry you had such an upsetting experience.

Where did she get this total misinformation from? Is someone else equally misinformed and talking about your business? Or did someone say 'poor DrPepper, had a terrible shock..molar pg...had to be removed' and this witless moron came to the wrong conclusion?

But her behaviour was just horrible anyway. What a way to speak to someone she thought had had a termination.

I like "Google 'molar pregnancy', then google 'shit friend' and 'judgemental arse' and you'll be up to speed on everything "

I'm so sorry this has happened to you, I hope you have some real life support. Please be kind to yourself. 💐
I would send her the link, so that she can "get her facts straight".
I would also mention that you don't want any further contact, ever.
It isn't too early now ! 🍷🍷

PhDPepper

“I have been through hell having suffered a molar pregnancy. Google it. Then, on top of all that, someone I thought was a friend was an utter bitch to me because of some stupid, mistaken idea that I had had an abortion. You should be absolutely ashamed of yourself. Don’t contact me again”.

Phew! That was cathartic. I would def send something along these lines - she shouldnt be allowed to get away with such vile behaviour.

So sorry for what you have been through

For starters she’s a dumbass to not understand the difference between a termination and molar pregnancy or any miscarriage for that matter. Secondly she’s a dumbass for judging anyone, not in the least a friend, even if they did have a termination... and lastly she’s not a friend of yours, ditch her.

Sorry for your loss .

Well isn't she as thick as pigshit.

I had a suspected molar pregnancy earlier this year, it was only after the d and c that they were able to say it was not. I am able to umderstand some of the emotions that you've gone through. You really do not need this person in your life. Why anyone would say that to any woman who had miscarried is beyond belief. I'd send her a link to molar pregnancies and then just remove her from my life.

I really hope you have support in reali life feom people that love and care for you.

💐

OP, do you have some support around you? If not, suggest you contact your GP soonest. This is a very difficult time for you and you don't need to go it alone.

This other woman is unkind and thoughtless at best, and spiteful and vindictive at worst. You would probably get more compassion from a complete stranger at a bus stop. Suggest you block, hold your head up high, and get on with the rest of your life. Your body, your business.

Send the vile bitch the link via Tommy’s.

Just the link, and tell her to she’s vile, insensitive and judgmental and no friend of yours.

Then drink wine.

Jesus Christ there is some truly awful people around who you’d never expect hey!

So sorry

My heart aches for you.

She is not worth your distress, but I can totally understand why you are distraught.

As others have said, no matter what she thought you'd done, it was none of her business.

You must have been in pieces, thinking you were pregnant and discovering this awful condition.

I'm so sorry that you're going through this! How dare she make you feel this way!

I'd definitely educate her, make her feel shit! Then tell her to fuck off! Stupid bitch!

Where did she get this information from?

I would also be letting mutual friends know about her behaviour. Frankly, calling her a bitch is an insult to bitches!

Another vote here for educating her but either way, she has for whatever reason proven herself to be a total cow and thus not a friend. Friendship is about supporting friends whether or not you agree with their choices and without involving your own personal baggage.

However I'm erring towards education before blocking because if you didn't tell her about the d&c (which I'm assuming given that if you had, you would already have explained what a molar pregnancy is), who did?

I would send her the link to the NHS molar pregnancy web page (www.nhs.uk/conditions/Molar-pregnancy/Pages/Introduction.aspx) along with a brief message thanking her for showing her true colours in a situation where a real friend would have been nothing but supportive. In the circumstances, I think I could even forgive you for pointing out that you hope karma doesn't bite her ass by letting her experience a molar pregnancy too.

Wow thank you for the support, I’ve ordered a takeaway and I’m considering replying with sending her a link to molar pregnancy and then telling her to fuck off.

My DH is so angry he wants to reply to her

"You clearly have no idea what a molar pregnancy is, so Google is your friend here. I, however, am not. Go inform yourself then go fuck yourself"