**Trigger Warning - sensitive subject Title edited by MNHQ** I am absolutely heartbroken and I need to know I'm not being unreasonable to end a friendship *Very sensitive subject*

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I had a molar pregnancy this year and it was fucking awful. I’ve seen a ‘friend’ today in the street and she completely blanked me. I messaged her when I got home and asked what was wrong.

And I got back a tirade of abuse about how I’d had an abortion and killed my baby and that if I never got pregnant again it would be karma.

I did have a D&C to remove the molar pregnancy but it wasn’t a baby, it was a complete molar pregnancy with no genetic tissue. It fucking broke me to have that operation but I’ve never considered it to be an abortion.

I have not replied as it’s totally flawed me, but I need to know im not being unreasonable to tell her to go fuck herself

Well we’re on our holidays now, WiFi on the plane.. win!! He finalised the invoice before we left. It’s a bit bigger than anticipated

Have a lovely holiday!!

Have a fantastic holiday! I’d love to be a fly on the wall when the silly cow opens the invoice!

Have a great time away. I'm totally jealous! :-)

Have a wonderful holiday.

We now have proof that MLM aficionados are indeed pod people, as in Invasion of the Body Snatchers. No real human being would have behaved quite so amazingly insensitively (one would hope).

"Toaster" is going to be one of those classic things people quote to show they've been on MN for years, isn't it?

I hope you and your DH have lovely holiday after everything you have been through.

I’m so sorry for your loss. A friend is someone who is there for you and understands your pain. This woman is an ignorant heartless person. Not a friend. My names is Shabs. I have just had my 7 loss. 5 miscarriages and 1 ectopic currently having another PREGNANCY in unknown location- ectopic. Heartbroken doesn’t even cover it. In 2007 I had our beautiful son who we were blessed with. He is our whole life. Our angel. Shortly after 8 months late I got pregnant unfortunately losses the baby at 5 weeks, then lost consequent 3 more until the consultant decided to do tests to learn I have sticky blood. A plan was devised future pregnancy take aspirin. Unfortunately 5 miscarriages later we weren’t successful. We bagan to accept that we won’t gave anym children. We were very fortunate and blessed we had our beautiful son so we were happy. Our son desperately wanted a sibling but as he got older he stopped talking about it. I was told my eggs were low and I wouldn’t get pregnant again. Heartbreaking as that was we again accepted it and decided enough is enough. Physical and mental torture was too much for us all. My body couldn’t do it so let it go. Then 2012 we got pregnant again very shocked and surprised. Didn’t get excited felt numb as fear was the main feeling. Straightaway started bleeding usual, visited early preg unit same routine. Too early, do hcg bloods, repeat then scan unfortunately scan showed baby in tube 😞😮 No way was I listening to them. I refused point blank no chance your not doing anything. Consultant telling me you can rupture anytime. I walked out of hospital. Got to my car cried eyes out and sat. My phone was ringing it was the consultant who was very worried. Pls come back you can rupture your in danger. Still I wouldn’t listen. I rang my husband told him what they were saying. It was school pickup time. I said I’m going to pickup our son. Hubby said no you go into hospital I’ll get him I’m coming. Reality of the situation. Went back into hospital still refusing to listen. Consultant took me to private room try to explain to me but no chance I wasn’t listening. My hubby came he got told. I kept saying no I e got no pain no bleeding at this point I had no bleeding. Consultant said we are goi g to admit you monitor you and scan you again in the morning then we will take you to theatre. Delusional I was looking at him. Next say had scan was shown everything had to listen. Went had surgery. I remember crying for days no words just tears. After that we decided no way. Got on with life. Now our son is 10 and we are happy with our little family. 23rd Oct 2017. I had a major shoulder surgery. 7 days later no period decided do a test. Never ever thought it would be Positive. Did 3 all positive. Then thought after this long if god has made me conceive surely he will let us keep it. Today is 17/11/17 and the last weeks having been hell bloods, repeat bloods, bleeding no bleeding. Then 3 scans no visual. Ectopic Pregnancy unknown location. Omg. Couldn’t believe what was happening. I’ve been is hospital since Monday severe pain, Wednesday given the medical mwthextrate injection to stop pregnancy growing in the wrong location. The pain is unreal and it hasn’t finished yet. Day 4 blood test, day 7 to see if hcg reduces if not then another injection if that fails they have to surgically go in and see. I’m in so much pain. The nurse said it will be like a period. Are you for real this is worse than labour. Nurse said I don’t know never had kids and I don’t want to. Seriously have a heart. This is my story so far xx

I just wanted to share my story I thought it may help me ease this pain. At the moment I’m feeling so unwell that I can’t even start to really understand that I’ve had another loss. I’m crying all the time. I’m very emotional but I’m keeping to myself. Haven’t told friends just 2 who have been helping with our son. My family are in another city so it’s not easy for them to be with me. Over the phone they are supporting me. What I need is to hold some one and cry my eyes out. I can’t hold my hubby he is A very closed person doesn’t talk openly about feelings I wish he would it would make the pain less is we could share it together. Our son is always around he doesn’t know we were pregnant. He found out we maybe but we told him we can only hope we won’t know for some weeks but then I got taken into hospital and his first words were your Not pregnant are you? I said no baby, he replied I’m not bothered I’m ok. To hear his little voice say those words when only the day before he was saying when his baby comes it will be only his in his house and others would have to ask him to touch his little baby sister or brother. 😞😞😞 such a strong big.