**Trigger Warning - sensitive subject Title edited by MNHQ** I am absolutely heartbroken and I need to know I'm not being unreasonable to end a friendship *Very sensitive subject*

[PhDPepper]

I had a molar pregnancy this year and it was fucking awful. I’ve seen a ‘friend’ today in the street and she completely blanked me. I messaged her when I got home and asked what was wrong.

And I got back a tirade of abuse about how I’d had an abortion and killed my baby and that if I never got pregnant again it would be karma.

I did have a D&C to remove the molar pregnancy but it wasn’t a baby, it was a complete molar pregnancy with no genetic tissue. It fucking broke me to have that operation but I’ve never considered it to be an abortion.

I have not replied as it’s totally flawed me, but I need to know im not being unreasonable to tell her to go fuck herself

Yep - what hashtag says. Do that. She’s a twat

I would send Hashtag’s text.

How did you (so-called) friend find out about this @PhDPepper ?

Do it! Then enjoy your pizza/green Thai curry/chicken chow mien/prawn Bhuna

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I would inform her before blocking her, just in case she decides to flap her gums to anyone else. Hopefully she will be too ashamed to gossip about you once she realises what you have gone through, and what a twat she has been. s

I would reply and let her know the truth and then never see/speak to her again.

I wonder why she got the idea you had an abortion! (And even if you had - she shouldn’t judge!)

If I were you I would be secretly plotting your friend's long and miserable demise.
(why isn't there an evil devil faced, hand-rubbing smiley on the list below?

@sunandmoonshine I joined a molar pregnancy support group on Facebook that wasn’t closed so my post to the group showed up on my wall.. I takes about having a D&C and how hard it was going to be.

I realised that my friends could see the post when I got a ton of messages asking if I was okay so I thought just to cut through them all I would do a post on Facebook explaining what a molar pregnancy was and how we were feeling and thanking everyone for their messages.

It was far more public than I would have liked but I had to address the fact I’d posted in a public group and my friends and family saw it.

It's totally FLOORED you, not flawed you. You're well rid of this person.

Poor you.

Agree with short but sweet. "Molar pregnancy not abortion. How dare you speak to me like that? Goodbye."

@Ooohlalalala oops sorry

Thank you. I was just confused as to how she knew

Why the F does she think you had an abortion?! Silly moo.

I had never heard of a molar pregnancy to be honest, so guess what I did, I GOOGLED it.

She could have done that.

Even if you DID have an abortion (which you didn't,) she is still a dick for behaving like that. I agree with the posters saying that you should send her a message telling her what a molar pregnancy is. Then tell her to fuck off, and then block her!

She needs to be educated on molar pregnancy (I’d never heard of it until now) and also told to fuck off for forcing her views on termination on you uninvited.

PhDPepper, I am so sorry that you are going through this. I had a molar pregnancy many years ago, I went to see my GP several months later about something totally unrelated- she looked at my notes and said "I see you had a termination recently" - I had to explain it to her . I hope your hcg goes down quickly and no further treatment is required

@PhDPepper
I hope you're going to be ok.

I wouldn't respond while you're in the first flows of anger. Tomorrow I'd message that it's upset and saddened you to receive her message. That the people who care about you have informed themselves and been kind and supportive through your loss.

Keep your dignity. You don't need to tell her to get lost. Just leave it simple and to the point and don't respond any more if she contacts you again.

Bloody hell your friend is a monumental dick!

I'm so sorry your pregnancy wasn't to be

I didn't know what a molar pregnancy was til just now I hope your "friend" Googles it.

Least now you know she's not your really friend. It's bad enough now after what you have been through but if you ever had or ever need an abortion you have every right to one and her reaction is disgusting. You don't need people like that in your life.

I'm so sorry OP. I had a complete molar pregnancy a few years ago and I had a few stupid comments from people but nothing like your friend's comment. I would never speak to her again

@gnatgnu it’s so shitty isn’t it? No one really understands even medical people. When I was diagnosed they were like ‘ooh this is really rare! Can we bring in some students to have a look?!’ It was awful, no compassion really.

My treatment is over now it was in April, I had 2 d&cs and Chemo for 8 weeks. Thank you though :)

She’s no friend. Block her everywhere, delete her from your life and move on.

I hope you’re okay

You poor thing! What a horrible experience! And what a horrible person she is!

She’s just ignorant - so sorry for your awful experience - send her a link and tell her to consider herself lucky to have a baby as you had what can be described as a type of cancer or potential cancer like cells., there was no baby but she’s successfully made you feel worse than you already did

I would message back "It was a molar pregnancy. Looking it up you fucking twat". But I am very rude.

God - I am so sorry for what you've been through

As for the non-friend, I think the response suggesting she first educate her self and second stop being a poisonous, judgemental bitch and finally, please could she fuck off out of your life forever?

Wishing you strength and support for this horrible time

So she found out by reading your post explicitly talking about the molar pregnancy and treatment you would need due to it and instead of sympathy she has accused you of killing your child!

What an ignorant arsehole.