**Trigger Warning - sensitive subject Title edited by MNHQ** I am absolutely heartbroken and I need to know I'm not being unreasonable to end a friendship *Very sensitive subject*

[PhDPepper]

I had a molar pregnancy this year and it was fucking awful. I’ve seen a ‘friend’ today in the street and she completely blanked me. I messaged her when I got home and asked what was wrong.

And I got back a tirade of abuse about how I’d had an abortion and killed my baby and that if I never got pregnant again it would be karma.

I did have a D&C to remove the molar pregnancy but it wasn’t a baby, it was a complete molar pregnancy with no genetic tissue. It fucking broke me to have that operation but I’ve never considered it to be an abortion.

I have not replied as it’s totally flawed me, but I need to know im not being unreasonable to tell her to go fuck herself

I started on methotrexate, and watched the hcg numbers creep down, then they faltered and started to climb up again, so had another month long stay in hospital (first stay was 6 weeks) and then had daily actinomycin D via a drip, 5 days on 5 days off, for another few months.

When treatment finished, dh and I decided to get married, so we had something better to remember the year by. It's our anniversary today!

It seems a long time ago now, despite follow ups. I thought we would never have children after the molar pregnancy, but had 3!

Wow what a bitch. I'm so glad you blocked her and that your husband isn't going to give her mates rates. I'm honestly shocked that she had the balls to ask you for a cheque for her child's birthday. WTH? Argh this really angers me that someone can be such an asshole and so ignorant. She should be groveling at your feet for an apology. I'm so sorry about this, I know how horrible it is having a molar pregnancy. It is such a rare thing and then no one understands what it is but hey isn't that what goggle is for? I can't believe she thinks u would make it up!

I had to be followed for a year, having blood tests every other day, then once a week, then once a month to make sure the HCG came down. Had to have my lungs xrayed. It was scary!

Happy anniversary hazey!!

I think I might ask MN to remove this post, I don’t want the daily fail picking it up- I’ve said where I live and what my husband does for a job :/ oops

@hazeyjane happy anniversary!

Purely thinking of her: public shaming in a massively read national newspaper? Doesn’t sound so terrible to me!

But not for the stress it would put in you.

Hope you enjoy your take away.

And I was on methotrexate for a few years, low dose but ... it's not a nice medicine.

Do educate her, or let your dh.

Having gone to RC schools, yes some people consider this to be abortion. Totally insane and I have, even as a teenager, argued the point with, "abortion is always wrong" types.

hazeyjane

Congratulations

I just don't understand why it would be her business even if you had had an abortion. Fuck her and fuck her high horse.

for you OP. I am absolutely staggered by this but love how your DH has your back. Hope you are able to put them behind You and move on to a new normal.

If I was your DH I wouldn't bother telling her that his mates rates have been refused by the company. Just tell her that 'mates rates' are for mates, not people who heap misery on his wife and gossip about her when she is going through something awful.

Not a bad idea, PhDPepper, as that rag loves to lift personal stories like this without permission.

Good luck with everything, enjoy Boston.

OP perhaps you could just ask for your identifying posts to be removed. I think this post has educated lots of people.

I was going to have this thread deleted but I don’t think I will. I think it’s been educating for some and I don’t think anyone I know even reads the daily mail. I’m certainly not going to say ‘oh yes that’s me...’

Holy fuck I'd have probably knocked her the fuck out OP you are being very reserved tell her what a cunt she is

Good on you, PhD.

The thread certainly educated me.

Meant to say ‘thank you’! (iPad kb has changed and is doing v strange things!)

Thank you for educating me!

It's been educating for me. I'd never heard of a molar pregnancy either. I'm so sorry you went through this. Take a positive, you've lost a lot of dead weight and come through this stronger

You could report the posts where you've given identifying info and MN will delete them. I thought I knew what a molar pregnancy was until I read this. Now I see it's much more serious.

Methotrexate is horrid. I’m on it for arthritis and the low level I have to take is enough to give me sickness!
Hope you’re feeling less rage about bitch face today. She isn’t worth the effort that anger takes

I too have been educated by this thread. I think "molar pregnancy" is a misnomer, as appalling twats focus on the second word not the first. Gestational trophoblastic disease is more accurate. You did not have "an abortion" ffs, you had a cancer. I thought maybe she was just ignorant and self-absorbed and judgemental, but after the cheque comment and reading the fact that this came out in aFB post explaining what it was all about - well, toss her. You'll get through this - she has to live with being an irredeemably disgusting cunt for the rest of her life.

Your friend should feel deeply ashamed of herself. Anyone berating and abusing a woman, let alone a friend, for having an abortion should feel ashamed (I know you didn't have an abortion BTW). We are not public property. However, it doesn't sound like your friend will ever understand that.

I didn't understand much about molar pregnancies before this thread. Now I do.
Wishing you and your DH a fab break and all the luck in the future.

Another one grateful for the increased knowledge from this thread. I would never judge anyone else's reproductive decisions but I'd no idea how much more serious a molar pregnancy can be than it sounds. It really should be renamed as no pregnancy has actually occurred.

What an uneducated spiteful little cunt she is.

Some people are just so ignorant and arrogant. My first pregnancy was ectopic. I had to have it surgically removed around 10~11 weeks. I was living and working overseas at the time and my father's wife decided I had an abortion because I didn't want to mess up my job. The truth was it was a pregnancy in my fallopian tube causing it to rupture and I was bleeding internally. I could have died.