To ask what your DP/DH does that annoys you the most?

[DaisyRaine90]

Was in the middle of cooking last night and he swooped in And told me I was doing it wrong (recipe from my memory not written down, and which I had not cooked for him before). Did the same thing last week when I was going the roast.

Also points out “helpful suggestions” when I’m changing babies nappy, burping him etc. (If you know so much better you do it, grr!)

Tells me he’ll just do the hoovering etc. Because I take too long and he can do it quicker.

He says I’m being a “over sensitive millennial” and that he shouldn’t have to pander to me. We Both agree that if you are doing a bad job you should be pulled it but OMG give me a break already.

He also talks about things in front of the kids which I think are private/ age inappropriate topics, but says it doesn’t matter if they don’t understand (they definitely don’t 😂) I still think we should be getting in good practice for when they are able to understand --it may be sooner than we think so best to be prepared

I am not perfect by any stretch and I have a habit of shouting over little things and taking things really personally. I am an over sensitive millennial I’m sure 😂

What does your DP/DH do that drives you mental? Love him and mostly things are great, but this just winds me up 😂

Taking clothes off and leaving them over the sofa, on a kitchen chair, over the bannister. Basically everywhere except the laundry basket. Asks days later ‘where are x jeans’.

Over.the.sofa.where.you.bloody.left.them

Doesn’t tell me things straight but puts a spin on it. Would’ve made a good politician.

Falls asleep in his chair every night and rattles the walls. I surround myself with cushions when I see him nodding off so I can throw them at him

😂 forgot about that, odd socks under the bed and empty packets back in the larder or cupboards

Right now, he's breathing.

More generally, leaving the freezer doors open and sometimes he talks too much.

There are six fleece type jackets on the coat rack. They are all the same. Usually at least two reside on chairs. Glasses make their way to the worktop above the dishwasher, but never get as far as into the dishwasher.

Tells me what needs to be said to people if there is likely to be any form of confrontation whilst intending that I speak to them, not him. I always answer with"let me know what they say" when he starts this and he shuts up but you would think he would have learned already after 25 years.

Half-doing household jobs - so he'll empty the tumble dryer fluff filter thing, but he'll just leave the fluff on the side instead of putting it in the bin two steps away. Or he'll empty the bin but won't put a fresh bag in. Drives me up. The. Fecking. Wall.

Mine tickles me all the time even though he knows I don't find it funny and absolutely hate it. Don't know why he does it as it always puts me in a bad mood

Leaves stuff everywhere , then can't remember where they are and accuses me of moving them !

Also can't make the bed. Pillows an duvet upside down, wonky etc

There's lots more !

Opens beer bottles/post/packaging and leaves the rubbish on the kitchen side. Despite the fact he has to walk past the bin!

Leaves his shoes by the door of the shoe cupboard.

Leaves cups and glasses on top of the dishwasher. Insists on drinking water from pint glasses, but never finishes them. So the house is full of pint glasses holding 2 inches of water.

There are so many :)

Hoovers, but then leaves the hoover plugged in, in the mid of the floor

talks to the radio ALL THE TIME .. if i'm in another room I keep saying 'what was that?' or 'did you say something?'
No - just talking to the radio again
DRIVES ME MAD!!!!

can't/won't wash the dishes properly!! puts clothes in to wash to then never dry them. basically just rolls clothes up into a ball when 'folding' them. pays no attention whatsoever to the baby when holding/feeding her (always on his phone)

When cooking, he never uses anything up. Like, he will use nearly a whole bag of carrots, but leave one or two, in case we need them. What use is 1 carrot for a family of 5? It usually ends up going off. Or like 5 pieces of pasta in a bag? Or last week, he left 2 new potatoes, when we would have easily eaten them up, had he cooked them. It drives me mad.

When things go wrong says "I told you so" - or expresses a similar sentiment in different words when he hasn't told me so! - oh my fucking god, it gives me the rage! He's trying to stop...but it slips out without warning.
I interfere so badly when dh cooks that I have to go into a different room - it almost kills me to watch him screw up the dinner - he doesn't cook so much anymore - which has backfired on me somewhat!

Can't put anything F-ing in anything.... takes the laundry to the basket but leaves it on the floor next to it... puts the bread back next to the bread bin... I mean just WHY.... you went to all the effort of taking bread across the kitchen why not just put it in??????!!!!!!

Breathes.

Leaves clothes everywhere.

Asks me how to spell stuff he's tweeting.

Leaves the back door open so all the heat goes out.

Gives out if anyone else leaves any door open.

He makes me wait at the bottom of the stairs every night (the nights he's not working- they're bliss 😂) until he's checked the doors are locked, oven's off, windows/shut/locked/ plugs out, sockets off, he absolutely cannot just do this once, it takes him ages, but doesn't like it if I creep upstairs - he's so scared of the dark & being on his own downstairs 😂 We have to leave the landing light on for the 'kids' & the hall light on. It drives me mad that I have to wait for him, I'd do the checking myself, have done it before only takes me a minute if that, but I get all the questions then - is this off, is that locked!!! Yes I have & do creep up the stairs, much to his annoyance! Then I get in bed first! He's still stood at the top of the landing looking at the front door for 5 minutes!Wtf!! It's like what the hell is he waiting for? Just stop it!! 😡

I feel better that "leaves things every where " is a common theme. In my darker moments I've threaten to leave and live in a one bedroom flat with white furniture, no large TV, and no stuff EVERWHERE. I would obviously visit him and the children. In real life I have large wicker baskets to stuff said stuff into ....which I then have to empty when they overflow🍷

Leaves dirty socks on the living room floor, dirty sticky teaspoons on the white draining board (the dishwasher is immediately beneath the draining board), never puts anything in the bin, leaves little piles of small change all over the house, stockpiles dirty laundry until there's a huge amount, never rinses the lavatory brush after use, leaves the bathroom sink filthy (with toothpaste splatters on the outside - how is that even possible?), talks during The Archers, falls asleep on the sofa and stays there all night, can never remember where anything is kept, sleeps very late at weekends, relies on me to remember all appointments, events etc ... I could go on forever.

Worst of all though, is the horrendous mess he makes when he cooks. He leaves splats all over the hob, worktops, tiles, cupboard doors and the floor. He has even managed to get gravy on the windows, ffs.

On the plus side, he is kind, funny, clever, good with money, gorgeous and great in the sack. Just as well really.

He makes the most irritating noise when asleep that I could gladly throttle him just to rid my life of it. It’s sort of a ‘puh’ with his lips when exhaling. I’d welcome snoring rather than fucking, twatting ‘puh’

He does work night shift so four nights per week are ‘puh’ free and they’re absolute bliss!

Doesn't do stuff because he's lazy but rather than just admitting it, he comes up with a half arsed excuse that I'm expected to believe eg

Tuesday night he didn't put the bin out because 'it was dark' (we have a garden light/street lights)

Hev works shifts and when he's on a late (3pm-1am) he never makes a proper lunch before work because 'there wasn't enough time' (because he didn't get up in time)

He didn't put the dishwasher on because he 'didn't know it needed doing' (???!!!)

He didn't touch up the scuffs on the walls of the house we moved into four months ago because he 'didn't know what colour the wall is' (hint: we have two wall colours in our entire house, and two tins of paint in the shed...)

You get the picture!

The other thing is when he has access to the same information as me but he asks me for that info rather than digging it out himself (so I'm the one that has to dig it out). As an example, I booked us a long weekend away. I emailed him the itinerary from the airline so we both have all the details. I asked him to look into taxis/airport parking to sort out getting to the airport. He asked me to give him all the times and dates expecting me to put them in a text (I was at work) meaning I would have had to dig out the email he also has a copy of.

Actually, the latter is something a guy I line manage does. He asks me for info I've already sent (and often discussed with him) so I then dig out the email with it in and re-send. Am I a mug or is it a boy thing?! I feel really passive aggressive saying 'you already have this info'. It really irritates me though.

These are hilarious, I’m laughing my head off at ‘puh’

I have a ‘puh’ er too!!!!!! 😡😩🙉