To ask what your DP/DH does that annoys you the most?

[DaisyRaine90]

Was in the middle of cooking last night and he swooped in And told me I was doing it wrong (recipe from my memory not written down, and which I had not cooked for him before). Did the same thing last week when I was going the roast.

Also points out “helpful suggestions” when I’m changing babies nappy, burping him etc. (If you know so much better you do it, grr!)

Tells me he’ll just do the hoovering etc. Because I take too long and he can do it quicker.

He says I’m being a “over sensitive millennial” and that he shouldn’t have to pander to me. We Both agree that if you are doing a bad job you should be pulled it but OMG give me a break already.

He also talks about things in front of the kids which I think are private/ age inappropriate topics, but says it doesn’t matter if they don’t understand (they definitely don’t 😂)
I still think we should be getting in good practice for when they are able to understand --it may be sooner than we think so best to be prepared
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I am not perfect by any stretch and I have a habit of shouting over little things and taking things really personally. I am an over sensitive millennial I’m sure 😂

What does your DP/DH do that drives you mental? Love him and mostly things are great, but this just winds me up 😂

[Timefortea99]

If we go out for a meal he takes so long to choose something. Sometimes the waiting staff come back three times. Sometimes it has gone on so long they don't come back and you have to try and get their attention. He is not an indecisive person anywhere else. I find myself getting increasingly tense but say nothing.

[user1andonly]

Buys new trainers and designates the existing pair to 'spares' and the next oldest pair to 'gardening', next to 'spare gardening' etc etc but never actually throws any away so there must be eight pairs of the wretched huge things, in increasingly worse states of repair, kicking around the place. I imagine the very worst, oldest pair are designated for 'really, really, really mucky jobs in the aftermath of the zombie apolcalypse' or similar.

[Pecano]

He forgets where he hasn’t put things all the time (keys, phone, wallet) and starts having a melt down about it before he’s even looked. So he’ll pat his pocket and go “where’s my wallet? Oh thats just great, it’s lost, I’ll need to cancel the cards, this is ridiculous!” then I’ll move one thing and say “isn’t this your wallet right here?” Drives me mad every time 😡

[ILoveMillhousesDad]

When I am about to get in shower or bath husband needs a shit.

[sweetkitty]

Eats everything, scoops up every bloody morsel with his fingers, drives me mad.

[Pecano]

He’ll say “shall we watch a film?” And hen proceeded to say no to every film I suggest. Then he’ll just put on a film that he likes, even though he knows I don’t like/have no interest what so ever in it. Then he complains that I’m “always on my phone when we’re supposed to be watching a film together” 😡

[defnotadomesticgoddess]

Youvegotobekidding - my dd has ocd and was doing something very similar with checking before going to bed before we realised what it was. There might be more going on in his head that’s making him check all of this. Hopefully it’s not and I’m just being ott but just incase this helps x

[willowthewasp]

Walks around with head phones on listening to radio 4, ALL the time. He then talks about what he heard about on Radio 4 ALL the time.

[Gottagetmoving]

Straightens the blinds after I have closed them...EVERY time! (There's nothing wrong with them)
Will walk down the stairs just to tell me that I left the light on/drawer open.....and then go back up to do whatever he was doing.
Always decides to discuss something just as I am going up to bed or to sleep.
Folds his clothes neatly before putting them in the washing basket.

[GodIsDead]

He never puts anything where it goes (dishes IN dishwasher, dirty clothes in basket, etc), he borrows my things and loses them, and he tries to tell me how to do things for our DS despite me doing 90% of everything for our son.

[Katedotness1963]

He will clear up after meals but will not wipe down the effing counters. It drives me mad!

Bad tempered muttering under his breath. Makes me lose my temper.

Thinks the E on the petrol gauge means, Eehhh, probably good for another 100 miles...

Comes into the kitchen and starts stirring stuff, flipping stuff, prodding stuff while I'm cooking. His idea of cooking is bacon and eggs or reheating freezer food.

Asks about what we're watching on TV. I'm just seeing it too, I don't know!?!

[oldlaundbooth]

Tells me I'm doing stuff wrong.
I just tell him to get stuffed.

Leaves stuff on the floor.

[McDougal]

I’m so glad someone else feels my pain, pp!

Until you’ve experienced a ‘puh’-er you don’t know the rage it creates. If that’s the only thing that comes to mind, I think I’m doing alright though

[pp2017]

@McDougal all the men in OHs family do it - we should start a support group 🤣

[McDougal]

Yes! I bet there are poor bastards sleep deprived throughout the world because of it, pp. I’ll leave it with you but keep me updated

[Glittermakeseverythingbetter]

Snores. Makes the puh sound.
Leaves piles of things on windowsills - money/screws/radiator keys/till receipts.
I bought a pot for his spare change on the windowsill and he puts his spare change next to the pot!!!!
Incapable of shutting any drawer properly- leaves them open an inch.
Empties the dishwasher and puts the things next to the cupboards rather than in them. Puts saucepans back on the hob instead of in the cupboard.
Asks me 'what's this about?' If we channel hop and start watching something, as if I'm some sort of tv psychic.
Wears clothes half a day and leaves little piles of half worn things by the bed until I have a mountain of half worn washing.
Leaves a bit of broken biscuit in the tin instead of washing the biscuit tin.
Turns the bathroom light on in the morning even though it is daylight. Leaves the light on in there when he's finished as he forgets it's on as he didn't need it on in the first place. Does the same with the kitchen light.
Never opens any windows, ever.
I'll come down to a really stuffy room, and he's just sitting there with the windows shut.
He's great at DIY but will saw wood/drill a hole, without moving anything first, so curtains/ornaments etc will then need cleaning.

[Kittykat93]

Shoving dirty socks down the back of the sofa

Not putting things in the bin, but placing them directly next to the bin

Leaving mugs, plates etc. In the living room instead of taking them into the kitchen

Leaving wet towels on the floor in the bathroom..along with dirty clothes

When doing the washing up, will 'soak the dishes' for an hour or so (perfectly fine!) but then instead of washing them after he 'forgets' which means I end up doing them after all

God it feels good to moan

[SpoonfulOfJam]

Tidies all my fucking things away. I spent all day looking for a thank you card, that I had put on the shelf for safe keeping. Told him I'd lost it and really needed it. He'd tidied it away (shoved out of sight amongst a mass of paperwork)

Hairbrush goes missing... it's in my nicker drawer.

Currently looking for my DSs (my) favourite bedtime book. Was stored sensibly on the floor by my bed. He's put it somewhere and can't bloody find it

[SpoonfulOfJam]

Leaves his ugly giant shoes all over the house.

[Lottieskeeper]

Just about everything he does I find irritating; awake and asleep he just does everthing the awkward wrong difficult way.
How is it possible to love someone that is constantly irritating?
But somehow as soon as the irritating person goes away I miss him.

[HicDraconis]

Starts clearing up while I’m cooking, but doesn’t check whether I’m still using the thing he’s put away or in the dishwasher. So I get some eggs out, put the toast on, put some water in the pan to boil, turn around to take eggs from box - and he’s put the eggs back in the pantry. Or I’m making something requiring stirring, put the spoon down by the side of the pan, go to stir it 5 mins later and the spoon is in the dishwasher.

But that is the only thing he’s ever done which irritates me. Other than that he is perfect.

[pp2017]

@SpoonfulOfJam are we married? Because my husband says I “tidy” things and can’t remember where I put them ALL.THE.TIME!!

(Well if he bloody put them away himself he’d know where they were?) 🤣🤣

[2littlemoos]

Most weekends gives the living room a proper clean but rather than putting things where they belong he will put them in the hallway or kitchen instead.. for me to tidy!

Never puts things in the bin, but somewhere near the bin instead!

There's more but we've had a good day today so my memory of irritable things is clouded right now.

[Peachyking000]

Walks ahead of me when we are out and about. It's not that he walks faster as the gap between us stays the same eg 1 metre, but it drives me crazy.

Floordrobe or chairdrobe. I now leave his clothes for 24 hours, and if not moved then I chuck them into the bottom of his wardrobe. I hate trying to read/relax in the bedroom and having to look at piles

[apintofwhine]

Indulges in 'performance tidying' for the benefit of an audience, but not any useful practical cleaning