AIBU to resent being shamed by weird tight " friend "

[Mill46]

Back story - very old Uni friend and I get together every 3 months or so . We both very lucky and have worked hard . We have good jobs and earn what would be considered by most to be a very decent salary . We meet and have dinner somewhere that's not expensive . It's always nice to see her and I enjoy her company .
She has a complicated domestic life as compared to my rather boring one.
She contacted me to say she was going to be in town so we organised to meet .
I booked a fixed price menu at a reasonable restaurant and was staggered when she texted me to say did I mind meeting just for a drink as she's not got a lot of money at the moment .
I rarely go out for many reasons and seeing that this has been planned for so long I can't see why she couldn't have "saved " the 30 quid or so that it would cost .
AIBU that i think she's shaming me and being pasive aggressive as there is no way that she can't afford it ? I know mumsnet folks will say , if she's you friend see her anyway ( which I'm happy to do ) but I feel there is more to this . She could have simply cancelled , said she only had time for a quick drink - anything .
What do I do ? Cancel , meet her and feel bad that she's got no money and buy her diner , or have a drink and f* off home ?

[KatieScarlett]

So a couple of weeks ago I was arranging a birthday dinner for a friend. One of the invitees couldn't come because she was skint. I said "no worries" and got on with my day.
Did that bitch money-shame me? I noticed when I was at hers a couple of days ago, she had M&S biscuits in. She said they were a gift, but I bet she's secretly living the high life and laughing at me behind my back.

[raspberrysuicide]

If it were my friend i would pay for her meal this time

[DanicaRose3]

Lol! Your thread makes NO sense op.. whatsoever

[Softkitty2]

OP--- over thinking much? Seriously you need to get out of your own head

[RaquelWelch]

I think OP has left the building

[FruBayerischOla]

I think the OP left the building last Friday, Raquel?

[Notanotherpawpatrol]

£30 isn't much to dh and I... Unless it's one of the childrens birthday months, the baby end up being admitted to hospital and we have to pay extortionate parking fees, my cousin gets married and the washing machine brakes. Then £30 is too much to spend on a dinner.
This happened this month 🙈😂

[MaggieS41]

Looks like she has left the building but I still need to make my point!!

If my friend told me the same thing I’d automatically say not to worry I’d shout her. No reason why good friends can’t do this then return the favour next time. I’d also bring up over dinner if everything was ok as you can’t assume.
^^Why couldn’t she say quick drink, OP says? Apologies she didn’t add the ‘quick’ to the ‘drink’

OP, you’re the weird one and a little too far up your own arse I think.....

[SkaPunkPrincess]

we're you expecting her to pay for YOUR meal op? sounds like it. would also make sense why you think she is shaming YOU.

[SkaPunkPrincess]

Were not we're

[MumsTheWordYouKnow]

KatieScarlett that’s hilarious. My conclusion of this thread is fake. OP only commented back once and it sounded very odd and off and the original post was ridiculous, as if anyone would talk about their friend like this just because they couldn’t afford a meal out.

[Cosmic123]

Erm are you a journalist? This doesn't seem very feasible. I worked as a debt adviser for several years and you simply cannot tell someone's financial circumstances by their salary. If you are for real and you consider her a friend I would suggest taking her word for it and not being so judgmental.