AIBU to make a cake in laws can't eat

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It's DPs big birthday this weekend. I'm making him a cake. In laws are coming to visit. But none of them will be able to eat the cake I am making.
In order to make a cake they could eat it would have to be a gluten free vegan cake with no fruit or veg or spice in it. DPs fave cake is carrot cake, so that's problematic already. Every birthday it has to be gluten free vegan and he gets really annoyed about it as he says they taste like saw dust. I'm sure it is possible to make a nice gluten free vegan cake (in fact I've done it before), but it's his birthday and it's about him surely?? He loves buttercream and kinder buenos. Would you be annoyed if you were my in laws and came to and there was a gluteny buttery cake, covered in kinder buenos? Do I have to make a separate cake for them?

Nope not unreasonable. Also I'm confused what a gluten free vegan friendly veg and fruit free cake would contain. When I make a cake or throw a party etc there are always fruit and veg so the veggies and vegans have something to eat but beyond that I don't make anything special. Far too many intolerances to cater for so I just don't.

Just give the vegan who wont eat fruit, an ice cube.

Sorted!

I would buy them a plain sponge and make your DH what he likes.

i am usually in a similar situation every birthday. Rules in our house are the cake is made for the person whos birthday it is. Id make or buy the in laws a suitable alternative cake

I would buy gf cake for them

And let hubby have his cake of choice

Their choice to be vegan, you dont have to pander to their opinions.

Glutenfreekitchen.co.uk do vegan gluten free cakes. In fact, there's a chocolate one in my garage freezer right now and guess where I'm going now!
Any other coeliacs, try their bakewell tarts too. Sheer bliss!

Baked vanilla cheesecake?

Crustless

I'm just reeling from the concept of a vegan who doesn't do plants. Thought that was kind of essential to the whole thing.

You don't need to serve cake.

Make a cake for OH and have it privately.
Serve some other stuff for your guests.

I don't see why you should make a cake for your guests- it;s not their birthday.

Scrap that vanillas probably a bloody fruit

It is their son? I would insist on you giving him his fav cake or bring it myself. They are not a baby but he is theirs.
If you wish to be nice, pick them up something but it's his day.

And do not give him a sawdust cake ever again unless he really ticks you off.

It's your DS birthday, he gets the cake he chooses! What adult would get huffy about that? (Which is what you tell them, when they do!)

Make dh his cake and makes guest some cupcakes.

Try lazy vegan baker - I use their cupcake recipe making chocolate version with gluten free flour

Sorry It's a difficult one yes it's his cake his choice but they are his parents and would probably like to share his cake as someone with myself and my children with food intolerances it's a tricky situation. Vegan is a choice gluten free my be a necessary! If it's a soeacial big birthday I would see if I could make two cakes and maybe hire a wedding type stand so both cakes wouldn't touch and cross contaminate each other but as a pair make up one lovely birthday cake. Slightly different but I have had the upset of my children going to their grandmothers big birthday, where their grandfather took great pleasure showing them her lovely cake but then saying sorry you can't have any but there a free from muffin there for you ! Yes they had been provided for but looked at me saying grandad knows we can't eat normal cake why didn't he get nanny a cake we could have 😢 The answer it's her birthday and her cake just didn't seem to cut it.

Haven't RTFT but you can make cardboard cake taste and look better with Betty Crocker ready made icing (which is conveniently vegan and gluten free)

Def make him the cake he’d like.

Tesco, co op, Lidl, local delis - none of them sell gluten free, dairy free cake, let alone vegan, gluten free

Chocolate crispies is an option, but obviously you’d have to buy gf rice crispies or gf cornflakes.

I was going to recommend Nigella’s chocolate olive oil cake. It’s soooooo delicious! But then I remembered it’s dairy free, not vegan :(

If you ever have to cater for df/gf, def male it. Love, love, love it!

Duh, ‘make’ it, don’t ‘male’ it!

I personally would be annoyed if someone made me a birthday cake I didn't like just to accommodate others 😊

*Hahaha, that's said by someone who knows nothing about allergies or intolerances.
'Gluten free vegan cake' doesn't exist. *

There's a bakery in Brighton that makes exactly that! DGD is allergic/intolerant to eggs, gluten and lactose. DSS and his DP got this bakery to make a chocolate (or possibly carob or some such inferior substitute) for DGD's first birthday.

It was absolutely fucking vile, and was nothing like cake, save for looking like one. Which kind of made it worse really.

Anyone else gagging for cake now?

Yes, but I had to make do with a Magnum.

@Wishithought I know where you're coming from. Raising a coeliac over here and I've come to thinking building resilience around still feeling included in social situations where food she can't eat forms central part is a skill she'll need to cultivate. It is hard but them's the breaks...

I would go all out with DP cake . I follow similar diet to In laws , I would ask what recipes they usually follow . Mines a bit easier as I eat fruit n veg.

Dad id GF DD is Dairy- free and so very difficult the Love more choc cake is lovely but I would make Birthday Boy his Cake- if you get any issue say he asked and its his Bday. Good luck and remember you cant please everyone and so shouldn't both trying x x x