AIBU to make a cake in laws can't eat

[thiskittenbarks]

It's DPs big birthday this weekend. I'm making him a cake. In laws are coming to visit. But none of them will be able to eat the cake I am making.
In order to make a cake they could eat it would have to be a gluten free vegan cake with no fruit or veg or spice in it. DPs fave cake is carrot cake, so that's problematic already. Every birthday it has to be gluten free vegan and he gets really annoyed about it as he says they taste like saw dust. I'm sure it is possible to make a nice gluten free vegan cake (in fact I've done it before), but it's his birthday and it's about him surely?? He loves buttercream and kinder buenos. Would you be annoyed if you were my in laws and came to and there was a gluteny buttery cake, covered in kinder buenos? Do I have to make a separate cake for them?

[CoyoteCafe]

I think his family sound like horrible people. To insist that he not have a proper cake because of them, but then not eat the cakes you got for them. I wonder what other ways they are awful. I feel bad for him!

(BTW, I'm gluten intolerant and tend to embarrass myself when presented with gluten free cake because I get it so seldom. I just sort of inhale it .)

[Gentlygrowingoldermale]

Thiskittenbarks, if one of them 'tried' the kinder cake then they're not vegan. Genuine vegans have principles – I think their insistence on DH having a vegan cake at your place is more to do with control. The various friends I have with different (and genuine allergies) always are happy to bring something if I can't get around to it.

Stick to your guns, favourite cake for him. IL's bring their own. I'd be tempted when going to their place to take his favourite cake with you! A step too far perhaps?!

Ploppie4, that carrot cake recipe is not vegan, it contains eggs.

If it helps anyone I've made Rachael Allan's Carrot Cake and just left out the eggs, to make it vegan. It worked, though was very fragile even though I left in the tin until cold.

My best wishes to all those who have serious allergies and struggle to convince people they're not just following a fad.

[Lweji]

The trick is to send them home with the cake you bought specifically to their needs.
Make them eat it. (A la Marie Antoinette )

[ParanoidBeryl]

You could cut into slices and freeze them for next time.

[CalmanOnSpeeddial]

I don’t want to say i told you so....but I did suggest brownies and flapjacks in the interests of ease of polishing off afterwards....

Golden rule of catering for a single visitor with tricky requirements is to always get in something you’ll be happy to eat yourself.

[thiskittenbarks]

We just have 4 cakes in the house at the mo! Will send DH off to work with one tomorrow. Or I will just sit here and eat them until I am too fat to move.

[RhiannonOHara]

Are the cakes actually bad, OP? Can't you just eat them? Or make them into something like the bottom of a trifle?

[thiskittenbarks]

One of the vegans "tried" the kinder cake, and the others didn't have any!
Thanks for all the links! I'm tempted to try the chick pea water thing too as I have vegan friend who used to love my macarons...perhaps it would work for that!

[VerbenaGirl]

His Birthday = his cake. Sounds fab by the way! If I was hosting, I’d probably just buy a little something that they could eat at cake time.

[TheMaddHugger]

@Gentlygrowingoldermale Many Thanks for that link. I will pass this onto my Cuz whom is on a very restricted diet due to real allergies

[TheMaddHugger]

@thiskittenbarks
Soo They ate the kinder one like everyone else ??

Or did they just not eat any cakes ?

[LassWiTheDelicateAir]

I realise this is too late for this time, but the liquid from a tin of chick peas will be an ideal binder to make vegan meringue

www.vegansociety.com/whats-new/blog/20-amazing-things-you-can-do-aquafaba
Or, mix three tbsps of water with one tbsp of flaxseed as a binder and mix with a pile of sawdust. Would they know the difference?

I'm not vegan but that is so bizarre I'm tempted to try it.

I was very surprised however to click through to another recipe on that site which used palm oil. I thought palm oil was the work of the devil in its environmental impact.

[Venusflytwat]

For future easy options, these are gluten free, vegan and in Tesco :)
www.tesco.com/groceries/en-GB/products/291558943

[Venusflytwat]

Ungrateful so and sos!
Can you freeze them for next time?

[Ploppie4]

Make this with doves gluten free flour.

www.inspiredtaste.net/25753/carrot-cake-recipe/

[MrsHathaway]

Well, now you know. No need to accommodate them in future when your family wants spiced gluten-bacon cake.

Food bank sounds like a great idea. Dietary requirements don't disappear when poverty strikes.

[thiskittenbarks]

I bought a vegan cakey thing and a GF cake and neither of them were even touched. Now I'm stuck with them. The kinder cake, however, went down a treat! Maybe I can donate the vegan / GF cakes to a foodbank!

[Gentlygrowingoldermale]

I realise this is too late for this time, but the liquid from a tin of chick peas will be an ideal binder to make vegan meringue.

www.vegansociety.com/whats-new/blog/20-amazing-things-you-can-do-aquafaba

Or, mix three tbsps of water with one tbsp of flaxseed as a binder and mix with a pile of sawdust. Would they know the difference?

[Gentlygrowingoldermale]

Would you be annoyed if you were my in laws and came to and there was a gluteny buttery cake, covered in kinder buenos?
No, of course not. In fact if we were his parents visiting our son we'd be surprised if he didn't have his favourite cake.

Do I have to make a separate cake for them? Only if you want to. I'd suggest he says to his Mum, 'we're having my favourite cake but feel free to bring your own.'

Just to say, whilst sympathising with you and the situation, I've enjoyed reading this thread. I've a friend who's coeliac, one vegan and another wheat intolerant! I'd love to make a carrot cake that covers that lot.

The thought of a carrot cake without sultanas (and I have diverticulitis) and spice fills me with horror. Carrot cake (without the ghastly cream stuff on top) is food from the gods!

[WeAllHaveWings]

Every birthday it has to be gluten free vegan

Why? Do they insist the main cake is gluten free vegan or have you just done it? As long as there is something there for them, made or shop bought its ok.

[potatoscowls]

Look in Morrisons in the free from section, they have a gf vegan carrot cake mix so you could easily make it in additions to the cake your dh wants.

To make a cake mix vegan, use melted vegan butter, soya milk and a squeeze of lemon juice

[smilingontheinside]

ifyougodown.... LOL

[ArDali1]

No way you're not being unreasonable! They are! They're expecting a cake suitable for their needs on your DPs birthday??!!
Make his cake as he likes it. And just buy a SMALL gluten-free/vegan cake, you can get them from whole foods stores, they have nice ones.

[Cintacmrs]

Dad id GF DD is Dairy- free and so very difficult the Love more choc cake is lovely but I would make Birthday Boy his Cake- if you get any issue say he asked and its his Bday. Good luck and remember you cant please everyone and so shouldn't both trying x x x

[purlandvick]

I would go all out with DP cake . I follow similar diet to In laws , I would ask what recipes they usually follow . Mines a bit easier as I eat fruit n veg.