AIBU to make a cake in laws can't eat

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It's DPs big birthday this weekend. I'm making him a cake. In laws are coming to visit. But none of them will be able to eat the cake I am making.
In order to make a cake they could eat it would have to be a gluten free vegan cake with no fruit or veg or spice in it. DPs fave cake is carrot cake, so that's problematic already. Every birthday it has to be gluten free vegan and he gets really annoyed about it as he says they taste like saw dust. I'm sure it is possible to make a nice gluten free vegan cake (in fact I've done it before), but it's his birthday and it's about him surely?? He loves buttercream and kinder buenos. Would you be annoyed if you were my in laws and came to and there was a gluteny buttery cake, covered in kinder buenos? Do I have to make a separate cake for them?

Make him a nice birthday cake, and make them a gluten vegan one.

Alright, that's it. I've been lurking for the last three years on this blasted site but this post finally pushed me to create an account.

Your self control is commendable.

As a vegetarian coeliac even I would say it’s his birthday so do what he wants

If you’re feeling kind do them something else, I wouldn’t expect people to choose their cake around me and my kids, nice but not necessary. Sometimes I provide an alternative but wouldn’t expect to dictate

When my son was on gluten free (trial and error to find the cause of a rash) I would always take a slice f gluten free something to anywhere I knew there would be cake. I wouldn’t dream of turning up to someone’s birthday and expect them to have catered for our preferences or suspected intolerances. Maybe provide a bit of something obviously gluten free, but not the bloody birthday cake

And “I don’t like fruit” is not a dietary requirement

gluten free vegan cake with no fruit or veg or spice in it

Feck that, if they have such specific requirements they can bring their own bloody cake. It's DH's birthday and he should have the cake he wants.

What sort of vegan eats no fruit or veg, anyway? What on earth do they eat?

DDs best friend is GF vegan, I use this recipe with the Doves GF flour mix & it's really nice. You can add whatever flavours you like. For buttercream, I just make as normal with the Vegan margarine 👍🏼

xanthan gum is awesome....mostly just for playing with in the sink...but also for adding to gluten free cakes to vastly improve the dust quality issue.

I’d make chocolate crispie cakes for the fussy eaters as they are quick and easy and cheap

I'm afraid they are also not vegan

Make him a nice cake and buy something for them. Don't go to the trouble of also baking them something - there's a good chance they'll find sth wrong with it and you'll resent the time and money (I find baking this kind of stuff is more expensive than buying sth) you put in.

@Lweji oh I've held my tongue throughout some doozies and just yelled at my OH instead, "Will you look at this shit?!" I never thought it would be a post about cake that finally tipped me over the edge though. Go figure.

Make them vegan gf chocolate brownies, they aren’t like sawdust at all.

Make whatever cake you think hubby will love as it is his birthday.

Thanks for the links etc.
And yes I think scurvy is fairly imminent! If only he'd eaten a bit of my lovely lemon cake he might have fended it off for a little longer
I also love hippy baking and regularly make beetroot and courgette cakes and love almond flour - but 1/3 of the visitors won't eat it anyway. I have to make it all this evening and don't think I will have time to make 2 cakes. If I do I will - if not Waitrose to the rescue.

vegan pineapple rum cake is the best cake ever - but it does have fruit

Congrats on, errr, reading the thread this time dingle

A post saying 'hahaha you know nothing' is pretty condescending, don't you think? Especially when you wrong...

Ms Cupcakes may claim to be the first of its kind, but it has been going since 2010, so plenty of time for others to appear, and they have

www.yumbles.com/vegan-cakes-and-treats/
www.rawcakesonline.co.uk
rubysoflondon.com/

I’d make chocolate crispie cakes for the fussy eaters as they are quick and easy and cheap

I'm afraid they are also not vegan

Surely you can make vegan ones?

Rice has feelings too don’t you know lol.

You absolutely can make them vegan.

i have one DD who cant eat chocolate and another who loves it. On the chocolate loving DD's birthday she has a chocolate cake - its her birthday so she picks. On the chocolate allergic birthday we have vanilla sponge.

Make the cake the birthday person wants not the guests

Not easily, or cheaply, it's easier to make the cupcakes I'm afraid

you know, I think this is the most agreement I've ever seen on mumsenet.

As group, we vote that you DP gets any cake he wants, and his family can just get over it.

Making a good GF vegan cake without being able to add fruit or veg will be time consuming, and no matter how much effort you put in, no where near as nice tasting as just making a normal carrot cake.

If whatever you make will taste like sawdust, just buy something from the 'free from 'range in the supermarket, and at least you won't feel like you've wasted hours of your life making a shit cake. (It'll probably cost you about the same as well)

Fake food never tastes as good as real food. IME vegan and gluten free meals/puddings that are supposed to be vegan/gluten free always are much more impressive tasting than trying to make a vegan/gluten free version of something that would normally not be vegan/GF friendly. (I'm not sure if that's clear what I'm trying to say!)

Hang on, Living, your first post on this suggested that they were not vegan, full stop!

Do the fussy vegans eat dates or is that fruit? Because raw food brownies isn't so bad. There's a raw food chocolate icing you can make that is surprisingly delicious, you blend the dates to smooth caramel with cocoa powder (I obv don't bother with "raw" cocoa powder but still) and coconut oil. Really smooth and creamy.

Hiz cake hiz rules hun