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AIBU to make a cake in laws can't eat

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thiskittenbarks · 12/10/2017 11:50

It's DPs big birthday this weekend. I'm making him a cake. In laws are coming to visit. But none of them will be able to eat the cake I am making.
In order to make a cake they could eat it would have to be a gluten free vegan cake with no fruit or veg or spice in it. DPs fave cake is carrot cake, so that's problematic already. Every birthday it has to be gluten free vegan and he gets really annoyed about it as he says they taste like saw dust. I'm sure it is possible to make a nice gluten free vegan cake (in fact I've done it before), but it's his birthday and it's about him surely?? He loves buttercream and kinder buenos. Would you be annoyed if you were my in laws and came to and there was a gluteny buttery cake, covered in kinder buenos? Do I have to make a separate cake for them?

OP posts:
PorklessPie · 13/10/2017 08:42

I'm vegan, did you know that Betty Crocker cake mixes (majority) and butter creams are accidently vegan? There is also a gluten free chocolate Betty Crocker mix now. Smile

mintteaandbananabread · 13/10/2017 08:43

Is that why they taste so awful?

mintteaandbananabread · 13/10/2017 08:44

Birthday cake that's vegan and gluten free is virtually impossible

Why do people keep saying this? It's rubbish. I can make one and I'm not much of a baker.

Dulra · 13/10/2017 08:51

YANBU. My dd3 is coeliac and when it is her birthday I make or get made a gluten free cake (I'm not the best baker so often get the gf made for her). When it is anyone else's birthday in the family I make the cake they want and always have a little gf cake for my daughter. She would never expect us all to have gf.

ParanoidBeryl · 13/10/2017 08:53

I linked to a recipe for tray baked earlier on that ticked all the boxes and are delicious.

Haven’t heard from OP in a bit so perhaps they are making a second batch because they accidentally ate the first batch like me

DeadEnders · 13/10/2017 09:02

My favourite two posts on this thread are by JingsMahBucket.

WaxyBean · 13/10/2017 09:03

Make him his own cake. He deserves it!

I have a fab recipe for vegan gluten free chocolate brownies if you want it. Goes wonderfully with blood orange sorbet.

RavingRoo · 13/10/2017 09:08

I have a recipe for gluten free, dairy free carrot cake that doesn’t taste like sawdust if you’re interested.

HashiAsLarry · 13/10/2017 09:12

Whenever I see someone ask on a Coeliac community whether it's possible to go vegan too, more often than not the response is something along the lines of :
Only if you really hate yourself.

It is possible of course, but it does make indulgence in things like cakes a lot harder.

If anyone is after vegan, gluten free donuts krispy kreme style, there's a phenomenal baker called borough 22 www.borough22.com who makes them, and they do royal mail delivery. Not cheap, but they're gorgeous, freeze really well and aren't like sawdust.

Mustang27 · 13/10/2017 09:21

Haha “only if you really hate yourself” 😂😂 I like that.

I’d love to be vegan but I struggled enough with veggie as a coeliac and having to adhere to low fodmap due to chronic ibs. It would be utterly miserable for me. Lots of gf pasta and tomato sauces (no garlic or onions) sad times lol.

Ooo I might give into the indulgence of those donuts calories don’t count in pregnancy right.

Mustang27 · 13/10/2017 09:24

Ok 25 quid is steep Shock

2rebecca · 13/10/2017 09:24

Agree that the person whose birthday it is chooses the cake. The inlaws get sawdust cakes for their birthdays. There will be other food for them to eat, agree with buying a small cake fitting their requirements that isn't the birthday cake or they can just not have cake and eat other stuff.

2rebecca · 13/10/2017 09:27

Also surely the inlaws are coming to see their son on his birthday not just to eat cake and knowing he isn't gluten free won't expect his birthday cake to be gluten free.

HashiAsLarry · 13/10/2017 12:09

Definitely an indulgence mustang
Also the reason I discovered how well they freeze, wasn't risking that amount going stale Blush

HerRoyalNotness · 13/10/2017 12:39

vegan who doesn't eat fruit or veg or like spice (basically eats potato, bread and vegan cheese exclusively), a vegan who eats fruit and veg, and someone who doesn't eat gluten.

This is all doesn't, not can't for health reasons. I wouldn't cater to fussy bastards. At most I'd do a 'whatever' gluten free in case that one is a health issue

MarvellousMonsters · 13/10/2017 17:28

Vegan Ian is a choice, are they also gluten free and avoiding all the other things mentioned by choice, or do they have food intolerances?

If eating said food stuffs would make them ill then you should provide them with something they can eat, if they are simply prissy daddy eaters then make what ever your DP wants and apologise that there was no way to make it fit with their restrictive dietary wishes.

(I’m coeliac, it’s lovely when people care enough to provide me with gf foods, and feels very lonely when they don’t, but I have no choice, and not just being a fussy self-righteous ass.

MarvellousMonsters · 13/10/2017 17:28

Veganism. Not vegan Ian. Fucks sake.

MarvellousMonsters · 13/10/2017 17:32

I'm vegan, did you know that Betty Crocker cake mixes (majority) and butter creams are accidently vegan? There is also a gluten free chocolate Betty Crocker mix now.

Yes, but they taste like crap, I got one a few weeks ago and regretted it at the first mouthful. Had a nasty chemical aftertaste.

HashiAsLarry · 13/10/2017 17:37

That vegan ian is such a twat 😂

kikisparks · 13/10/2017 17:42

Am vegan. Would not expect to partake in cake at someone else’s wedding/ Birthday/ etc if they are not vegan. If they get me a vegan cupcake or whatever it is massively appreciated but not expected.

MarvellousMonsters · 13/10/2017 17:46

HashIAsLarry, I know right? Pompous asshole he is.**

wrenika · 13/10/2017 17:57

Make him the cake as he wants - and buy something they can eat. I have coeliac disease and I certainly wouldn't care if I couldn't eat the main cake...I don't expect others to eat gluten free just so that I can have the same.

LilQueenie · 13/10/2017 18:01

Have they always made his birthday about them? Make a cake for him and sandwiches for the rest. If they want cake they have the rest of the year to go buy one.

ktp100 · 13/10/2017 18:02

I would defo make him the lovely cake he wants/deserves and buy some gluten free/vegan treats for his family. You can fet lovely boxes of tiffin, millionaire's shortbread & rocky road in Morrison's that would be fine for them.

simiisme · 13/10/2017 18:02

DP should have a cake he likes, but it's a bit mean-spirited to have nothing for them. Buy a suitable cake for them, it doesn't have to be expensive, to show you've considered them.
Or keep everyone happy with one of these - gluten free and your DP's favourite flavour: www.sponge.co.uk/shop/products/gluten-free-sponges
They are the dogs!

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