AIBU to make a cake in laws can't eat

[thiskittenbarks]

It's DPs big birthday this weekend. I'm making him a cake. In laws are coming to visit. But none of them will be able to eat the cake I am making.
In order to make a cake they could eat it would have to be a gluten free vegan cake with no fruit or veg or spice in it. DPs fave cake is carrot cake, so that's problematic already. Every birthday it has to be gluten free vegan and he gets really annoyed about it as he says they taste like saw dust. I'm sure it is possible to make a nice gluten free vegan cake (in fact I've done it before), but it's his birthday and it's about him surely?? He loves buttercream and kinder buenos. Would you be annoyed if you were my in laws and came to and there was a gluteny buttery cake, covered in kinder buenos? Do I have to make a separate cake for them?

[Member984815]

I'm coeliac so no cake here I would never ever expect someone to cater for me for someone else's birthday . It's his birthday not theirs he should have what he wants. Let them bring their own cake if they feel left out . That is what I would do

[DingleBerries]

Christ! OP you'll have to spend a fortune on a cake if you want to order one!

Unfortunately as mentioned before you can't just 'pop to Tesco' to buy a gluten free vegan cake. Soon though I'm sure!

I hope your husband has a good birthday.

[ShesNoNormanPace]

Oh, just make the man the cake he wants! And buy them the sawdust cake. Although if they are anything like my vegan gluten-free SIL they'll eat it anyway "just this once"

[paap1975]

I would bake a cake for him and buy something suitable for them. It's his birthday!

[Mamabear4180]

mmm OP your DP has excellent taste!

YANBU just buy them some vegan, gluten free biscuits or something and make DP his scrummy cake.

[ArcheryAnnie]

Make the cake he likes!

Buy a small something sweet for the inlaws to eat - it's nice to cater for their needs, but the whole cake shouldn't be based around them as it's not their birthdays, it's your DH's birthday.

[LoniceraJaponica]

thiskittenbarks this chocolate cake is vegan and absolutely lush. I do a fair amount of baking (non vegan) and was very sceptical about making a decent vegan cake, but it is astonishingly good.

[InvisibleKittenAttack]

DingleBerries - no but there's 2 vegans and a separate person who's gluten free. It is possible to buy a small vegan cake or biscuits, and it's possible to buy gluten free cakes and biscuits. Makes life a lot easier than the OP spending all this evening baking multiple cakes that won't taste very nice regardless of how much effort she puts in.

[beyondworriedmum]

I recently had this issue and got a tester gluten free wedding cake vanilla sponge from M&S it was lovely OP and big enough for at least 3 or 4. I decorated it the same style as the big cake my niece was absolutely delighted with it £5 bargain!

[ParanoidBeryl]

Have a cake and a large bowl of fresh berries. People can then have what they want.

If you really wanted to push the boat out you could get some free from tray bakes as well.

[ThumbWitchesAbroad]

I can make a gluten free vegan cake if I have to. There is even a cake mix readily available from my local supermarket (in Australia) that will allow me to do so.
I don't usually go full vegan, because if you lose the eggs, it tends to be a bit too dense and gooey (I haven't tried using egg replacer, but there is an option to use golden syrup instead of egg). The fat in it is oil (vegetable, actually rice bran) and it is chocolate mud cake - when I do make it (with eggs) the people who eat it are amazed at how yummy it is (I usually make fairy cake versions rather than one cake) - they're amazing! So light and slightly gooey, almost like a chocolate fondant.

So not ALL vegan GF cakes have to be dry as dust. They just need to find better options.

In this case, I say YANBU to make the cake your DP wants - but it would be unkind to have no alternative for your ILs, even if they have some truly weird food issues (the vegan who eats no fruit or veg, for e.g.).

I'm not 100% sure, but Mrs. Crimble's stuff might work for you - I know it's gluten and dairy free, not sure about the eggs - some products may contain eggs, some may not. You'd need to read the labels. Found two on a quick google, but sadly they're no use to you as one is stem ginger cake (vegan, GF) and the other is a Dutch apple cake (vegan, GF). Spice and fruit though, so useless. :(

[Mummyoflittledragon]

I don’t have issues with dusty gf cakes. I would perhaps if they were vegan though. I use the doves sr flour with a bit of extra raising agent and around double the number eggs and more liquid. No other added ingredients. The mixture needs to be runny and more like muffin mixture. The end result is very similar to a wheat flour cake.

I’d do the main cake gf if the invitee is coeliac as that isn’t their fault and buy a vegan cake suitable for the awkward vegan.

[ThumbWitchesAbroad]

Vegan chocolate crispies should be doable but you'd have to use very dark chocolate and special cereal that is lactose and dairy free.

Although, in fairness, I'd never guarantee that any chocolate is 100% vegan, regardless of the listed ingredients...

[beyondworriedmum]

www.marksandspencer.com/gluten-free-sponge-pre-order-/p/p60094609 here's the link 😘

[RagamuffinCat]

As a coeliac, I would be horrified if someone couldn't have the birthday cake they wanted because of me! I would make your DP the cake he wants, and perhaps a shop bought alternative for the others if one is easily available. To be fair, I'm used to just making do with food while I am out of the house, and any gluten free alternative whether shop bought or home made would be greatly appreciated!

[MumW]

YANBU to make the birthday boy his favourite cake but it would be rude not to supply alternatives for your other guests.

YABU to say gluten free cakes taste of sawdust. I'm wheat-free and have served homemade gluten free cake and nobody realised and were surprised when I pointed it out. I will say that shop made gluten free cakes can be a bit off but then so are shop bought normal cakes. Also, the quality of gluten free food has also improved drastically over the last few years.

[ParanoidBeryl]

I made these krispie squares at the weekend and they are amazing.

I did 2 batches - one according the recipe, and the second batch I used gf oats instead of weetabix and GF self-raising flour.

Gluten free, vegan, no fruit or veg or spice. You're welcome

[CalmanOnSpeeddial]

As well as the cake your DP actually wants I’d make gluten free brownies, with ground almonds or chestnut flour because they’re delicious and easy to DIY, and also buy in some vegan flapjacks and drizzle vegan dark chocolate over them. That way everyone is catered for and you get delicious brownies and flapjacks left over to eat with my coffee for the next few days.

[ThumbWitchesAbroad]

MumW - I don't believe the OP was suggesting that ALL GF vegan cakes were like sawdust, just the ones she had been made to eat over the years.

[thiskittenbarks]

MumW I didn't say they taste like sawdust - I said my DP thinks the one his mum makes everyone for every birthday tastes like sawdust
he says they taste like saw dust. I'm sure it is possible to make a nice gluten free vegan cake (in fact I've done it before)
As I said - I know it's doable and have a few in particular that I know are really yummy, but they have things like ginger or beetroot or courgette in - which means 1/3 of the guests won't eat it anyway.

[boringornot]

My FIL can't eat sugar. We always have something for him. And normal stuff for everyone else.

(and anyway, I don't eat artificial sweeteners in any circumstance, so it would be impossible to make one single cake that we both could eat. Fortunately, it was never a problem.)

[whitehorsesdonotlie]

Buy a vegan cake for them, make DH the cake he wants!

[Reastie]

I have a very specific special diet. I'd never expect someone to do a birthday cake for someone not on my diet to make it suitable for my diet. I'd be thrilled to just have something I can eat available

[Mustang27]

These are the ingredients to my gf Rice Krispies my vegan friend eats this with almond milk. I buy these for a pretty reasonable price in a big super market, free from vegan chocolate for the quantities you need might be a bit pricey but a glug of vegetable oil or coconut oil in place of butter and golden syrup and bobs your uncle Vegan Rice Krispies and plenty of cereal left over to munch on later.

Am I missing something?