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To think it's inappropriate to sell these in a shop aimed at pre-teens?

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TheActualMarilynManson · 10/10/2017 20:22

NC as I've told people I'm posting this but I'm a long time regular, 'cancel the cheque', yoni, korean lady, etc.

So, I'm in Claire's Accessories today and see these..... (hopefully the photo will upload correctly.)

For starters, anyone who knows what these items are intended to be used for will not buy one from Claire's Accessories.
Secondly, I don't know a person over 13 who buys anything from this shop, they are unlikely to understand, so why sell it?
Third, children will buy this stuff, have their photo taken, then in a few years will come to realise what their parents allowed them to wear in the name of 'being trendy'.

That's just the obvious points. I also have a massive issue with BDSM being made 'mainstream' because of the negativity which always comes with it in the media.

'50 Shades' did a HUGE amount of damage to the BDSM scene. Their relationship was not D/S, it was emotional abuse, with some sex thrown in.
True D/S relationships are built on trust, respect, years of commitment, and learning.

As someone heavily involved in the BDSM scene, I find it hugely offensive that a way of life, and a whole community of likeminded people, can be essentially mocked by what is deemed 'fashion'.

So, AIBU to think this is inappropriate 'jewellery' for a childrens accessory shop?

To think it's inappropriate to sell these in a shop aimed at pre-teens?
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Expemsiveuniform · 10/10/2017 20:50

The op thinks they look like a ring gag. Which is a type of gag that keeps the mouth open.

I think the op is a hairy handed bedroom wanker looking to get his rocks off on stories of gags and bdsm.

Pengggwn · 10/10/2017 20:50

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pictish · 10/10/2017 20:50

I think they're horrible.

Bippitybopityboo · 10/10/2017 20:51

Yabu.
These are not ment to be worn in the mouth they're supposed to be worn around the neck they're "all the rage" at the moment.

NettleTea · 10/10/2017 20:51

you'd never get your dick through that metal loop

kaytee87 · 10/10/2017 20:51

I think the op is a hairy handed bedroom wanker looking to get his rocks off on stories of gags and bdsm.

Ewww probably. Envy< not envy

RedBullBlood · 10/10/2017 20:51

Is that really what you wanted to talk about, op? Are you secretly disappointed no one asked for explanations?

NettleTea · 10/10/2017 20:51

or, then again...

Herja · 10/10/2017 20:52

No? Sure look like what they're pretending to be...

To think it's inappropriate to sell these in a shop aimed at pre-teens?
SpitefulMidLifeAnimal · 10/10/2017 20:52

I find it hugely offensive that a way of life, and a whole community of likeminded people, can be essentially mocked by what is deemed 'fashion'

You could say the same thing about tattoos, body piercings, dreadlocks, bindis, mohicans etc though.

Expemsiveuniform · 10/10/2017 20:52

The ring is nowhere hear big enough in the Claire’s ones.

topcat2014 · 10/10/2017 20:52

Claires in our town is next to Ann Summers..

But, tbh, I can't say my 10 y/o would even notice these items. Not sure I would either, or know what they were.

We mostly look at nail polish and iphone cases..

BlackPepperCrab · 10/10/2017 20:53

Do you consider clip-on earrings to be interpreted as nipple clamps as well?

Herja · 10/10/2017 20:54

Obviously I don't get that these particular ones are not ring gags and are a fashion accessory. It is what they're based on though, surely?

Expemsiveuniform · 10/10/2017 20:55

Seriously look at the diameter of the ring in the clair’s One at the top. It isn’t even close to the right size. And how the hell is it making fun of bdsm to have a choker for sale in clarie’s

FreudianSlurp · 10/10/2017 20:55

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pictish · 10/10/2017 20:55

I agree Herja - that's what they look like to me...and that's because they're supposed to.
Ugh!

Herja · 10/10/2017 20:55

DO get! I hate my phone.

kaytee87 · 10/10/2017 20:55

Didn't have a clue what a ring gag was before this thread
I doubt anyone outside of the BDSM lifestyle would know what one was either therefore it's unlikely it's deliberate surely.

PortiaCastis · 10/10/2017 20:56

Only chokers no 50 shades about them

What a crappy work of fiction anyway

Expemsiveuniform · 10/10/2017 20:56

Clothes pegs are nipple clamp pastiches. Damn things. Every time I hang out the washing I’m traumatised.

SilverdaleGlen · 10/10/2017 20:56

I suspect for op the ring is absolutely fine, doesn't strike me as the well endowed and popular type.

More the tiny dicked sits at home and pathetically wanks on a sticky keyboard type.

2014newme · 10/10/2017 20:56

Reported the op, entertainment though this thread is

SignoraStronza · 10/10/2017 20:56

Well done op for having such a finely honed sex life, with such mastery of BDSM skill - I suspect the real point of this post is to let us mere bog standard shaggers know all about your little hobby. It all sounds so serious, worthy and such...hard work!

pictish · 10/10/2017 20:57

Expem it's 'in the style of' - I'm sure you've heard of that concept before.